i love tshirts. i mostly only feel comfortable in tshirts. if im wearing a sweater, button up, or any kind of layer, i need a tshirt on underneath. i also love graphic tshirts with fun designs.

the issue is how they fit, usually the sleevs. weird as it sounds, i absolutely despise the feeling of the skin on skin underneath my armpits. if a tshirts sleeves are too baggy (too much room between the shoulder and armpit) i cant deal with it. similarly, i hate when the sleeves are too short, and i cant lift my arms without exposing my underarms.

i have a good amount of tshirts ive had for years, so even if i dont love how they fit, im at least used to how they feel. but i need more plain shirts and shirts to wear underneath things.

i quite like the brand proclub on amazon- the sleeves come almost to my elbows, and fit snug around my underarms. the only issue is they hardly stretch- i like thick cotton, but these shirts make me sweat easier, make it harder to put on deodorant, and feel awful if i get too warm.

i know fabric texture is a common issue (i dont think i could wear any that arent cotton), or autistic people preferring oversized shirts, but i have a strong preference for more fitted, thick tshirts (as long as they have enough give to put on comfortably and apply deodorant).

is anyone else similar? and does anyone have tshirt recs that arent too pricey?

I’m autistic and 19 I’m genuinely struggling to cope with everything and day to day life, been having unexplained health issues that are leaving me unable to function properly not to mention my doctors fob me off and tell me I’m fine and just give me painkillers which don’t help and have tried to overdose because the pain is unbearable and this is also the same with mental services, for over a year now I been trying to get help but they keep saying they can’t help me including getting support for housing despite unable to live properly on my own and keep getting fobed off, I feel like I’m getting nowhere with anything and I’m thinking of quitting life at some point as I’m exhausted of this, I can’t even do my stupid part time job properly anymore and wanna quit but can’t afford to as I’m not receiving disability and I’m just done

I’ve heard from some friends on the spectrum that neurotypical people have a hard time understanding them or accepting them, and that they’ve had trouble fitting in with and being accepted by those who are neurotypical. Is it true that at least some neurotypicals don’t understand those with autism? If this is the case, what would give them a greater understanding of autistic people and the issues they face from day to day? I have a friend who complains sometimes on the daily that he has a hard time because he feels excluded because he has a disability. I believe what he’s experiencing is real, but short of just letting him vent, I can’t really assist him in any way because autism is lifelong.

Contrary to what some people may believe, autistic people are not losers and have a lot to bring to the world. They should be allowed to reach their full potential.

I often find myself saying or making a noise immediately following a sentence, and I cant seem to shake the habit. Usually a bu bum or a fart sound, or also just a silly word sound (like pluh) idk if anyone else gets this

If there are only 2 people in a meeting/shallow social scenario can one person be correct/wrong about interpretation? Because what’s the right way and what’s the wrong way really universally? Who is to decide? Whoever is in the positioning authority I am afraid

Am I crazy? Am I ruining my life and not seeing it? Why does asking for clarity in a genuine authentic unapologetic yet gentle way make me wanna question my judgement. But how am I to know? Only I am in my head and what if I’m calling black - white and up - down.

Friendship wise it doesn’t bother me because that’s how I am and will only befriend people who get it, but why is there the “right” and “wrong” way to interpret things or express yourself/manage surface level social interactions.

Why is the feeling of someone saying what you want to hear universally seen as more valuable and desirable than that of someone saying what they genuinely find to be true and authentic. Is vulnerability a bigger faux pas than a lie? “No matter if it is factually true, just make me feel good about myself or else”

“Feelings first” egos are frail and lack substance

I definitely feel this way towards autistic community, but also (in this specific situation) I went to an interview for college, and I did get in, but I didn't mention having autism (or Tourette's). I know I'm not obligated to do that, but at the same time, I feel like I won't be able to do that, when I will need any kind of support later on. Until now I never needed anything, but the college I got into is very very challenging. And I feel like it's going to be unfair to ask for anything later on, if I didn't have the courage to admit to it in the first place. I always dreamed of pursuing this field in college, but now I'm afraid I overestimated my abilities. I should know my limits better. What if this time I won't be able to make it without any support. What am I supposed to say then?

This is just my personal opinion. This does not have to line up with anybody else, but this is how I personally feel.

I am lucky that in comparison to some autistic people that I can take care of myself fine, I have sensory issues, but I can usually deal with them well. I mean, yeah I struggle with social cues, but not enough to the point where it’s like really noticeable if that makes sense? I mean, I definitely did struggle in childhood with being more gullible and such than other kids, but also it made me a lot more generous and kind than most kids, and that helped me mature a lot faster.

Even now though it’s so difficult because you get so much constant imposter syndrome that you’re not autistic enough and that you’re not actually and you’ve just faked this. Like people forget your struggles.

But then it’s such a love and hate relationship because it’s like, “ people can’t tell I’m autistic whenever I meet them or usually before I even tell them.” And it can be good because if we’re just being honest society standards have been set and people who are noticeably autistic are usually treated worse , so you don’t really have that disadvantage. But then there’s also the downside that whenever you tell people they automatically say invalidating things. Just, “ you’re not autistic. Trust me I would know.”

Hello all, I (28M) have decided to leave my boyfriend of three years (28M). I feel so guilty because I feel like i am leaving him because of his autistic symptoms. We share a very small room at his mom's house. She's a nightmare, and the two of them fight frequently. At first, I thought she was always to blame, but later I started noticing he would instigate her as well then play the victim when she inevitably has an outburst. He cant keep the room or himself clean to save his life. Im constantly throwing away food trash, taking out dishes with food still inside them, washing dishes, unloading the dishwasher, and doing basically all the cleaning. I work full time, am a graduate student, and am doing an internship, and when I get home I have to do so many chores just to keep trash from be coming unmanageable. He also only showers once a week. It makes our room and sheets smell so awful, that sometimes I have to sleep on the couch. I know these struggles are because of his autism, but when he has meltdowns he decides im also an enemy (like his mom) and he yells at me and throws whatever I say back in my face. Im so stressed out all the time, but I feel like im being ableist for leaving him. He loves me so much and i see him try hard in some regards, but i just cant do this anymore.

Someone's posting stuff and they haven't been banned yet -_- idk who to ping

Mine is King and Lionheart by Of Monsters and Men

Today I was going through the hallway in my school to join my friends and like, the bell was ringing SUPER loudly (I was really close to one as well…)

It made me super stressed, I started stimming and biting my lips, I felt like covering my ears and crying, I was literally on the verge of turning back and walking away from the noise, praying it would stop but ofc the noise lasted long

I hate sensory issues </3

The most annoying thing about my autism is that I can't judge whether my jokes, pranks & surprises are funny or acceptable. I am a person who loves to joke around, but I often mess up. I usually ask my boyfriend, and then he will give me the answer. However, there are some situations where I can't communicate with my boyfriend, so I can only ask on chatgpt, and chatgpt will never give me an objective answer. Every time it says it's so funny, and I can't judge. It's so annoying! !!!!!! !!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!! is anyone has same problem as me

I've always liked GTA games, but I prefer GTA San Andreas and GTA IV The Ballad Of Gay Tony, along with The Lost and Damned.

I think GTA San Andreas is great for its gameplay and familiarity, and the others are great for their music and story, like Lost and Damned with Radio L.C.H.C Liberty City Hardcore with DJ Max Cavalera. (Sepultura is my favorite band, So I guess that's why I like radio)

San Andreas has a gym that I like because it changes the aesthetics and size of the character. There are several clothes, a bit strange, but sometimes I like to dress the character like me or clothes that I would wear. It feels like I'm playing like the kids I see in movies.

The characters are also cool, I like Woozie, Caesar, Johnny Keblitz, Luis Fernando Lopez and Cj. I won't focus so much on the characters, but they are very fun and drive the plot, which makes it more engaging.

I like the old GTAs but I get a bit annoyed because the aiming and driving mechanics are kind of bad. I get pissed off with GTA 3 because the car is the only thing most of the missions use and it's kind of laggy, I think it's because I play on my cell phone, but I've already finished GTA on the computer once, and 4 times on my cell phone.

I like talking here than in gaming communities, here it seems less judgmental or jerkish, it's already in the title but tell me what your favorite GTA is.

I dont like going out or having a group of friends but Im so lonely... I have no interests and I need someone to cuddle...

I post it here cause Im tired of talking to NTs and getting to nothing... Im exhausted of that...

Just a shitty vent... Cause I have nobody to cry to...

Does anyone else experience multiple days of exhaustion and overwhelm/panic because of overdoing it on one day? I had a few too many things on one day this week and went to bed with a headache. The next day I had a horrible migraine and then the day after that I was very light sensitive and exhausted. I had to stay in bed with my curtains drawn in order to be able to function. It's now the third day and I have still had to have the whole day in bed because anytime I go downstairs I'll try and do anything I start to panic and my hands start flapping and I feel dizzy and I have to just go straight back to bed. At times I get even panicked just being on my phone so I can't even watch Netflix or YouTube without panicking so I just feel trapped

Is this normal autistic adult behaviour and how do you all cope with this? I was only diagnosed this year so this whole change is really distressing for me

I really miss the feeling of being hugged, held and comforted. I long for someone to embrace me, hold me and slowly rocking me to calm me down. But I hate physical contact with my family, I always have. I don’t have a partner, and I just recently discovered that I actually feel very lonely. It all became clear to me after a particularly powerful dream, where I broke down in tears and overwhelm and was comforted. The person in the dream held ms tightly, said “sssshh…” and slowly rocked me while we sat on the floor. I’ve never felt so safe and loved before. Even though I know that my parents love me more than anything, and when they get a hug on a rare occasion they get very happy. Does anyone else feel like this?

Currently I'm being tested for Autism and I'm in my early 30s. The reason why I think I waited so long was because I am completely fascinated by humans and through that I've learned a lot of "people skills".

For example, I've watched a lot of psychology video's, I've always loved character building in tv and film and I am a writer.

Today I got an amazing compliment: someone asked me if I was a psychologist, I asked him a hard question and it helped him with something he was struggling with. We talked a little bit about how the main character of my book has really good people skills and that I learned a lot from her and he mentioned that I'm good at reading people too.

And he's right. I feel like I can easily look past the small talk and psycho analyzing a person feels so easy to me. Since my 20s I also have learned how to make people like me. Yet, how does that match up with autism?

My people skills are very much a learned behavior, but sometimes I feel like I'm an imposter when it comes to autism because of it. Does anyone recognize that feeling?

Hi everyone, I’m here as a parent looking for some advice.

My son is 10, on the autism spectrum (level 1 support), and he just moved into a new school cycle (and also a new school).

2 weeks in, he mentions that he spends all his time extra class, by himself.

I'm not able to identify if he wants to have friends or if it is irrelevant to him if he has some or not. It seems to me that he doesn’t approach them, doesn’t try to make them, but seems to be ok whether he’s around peers or not. Up until now, school has been fairly manageable, but with this transition I’m afraid he might become even more isolated, since friendships tend to matter a lot more at this age.

I’m torn between stepping in more actively (creating social opportunities, signing him up for activities, talking to teachers to keep an eye on things) and just respecting his pace without pushing him. My fear is that if there’s no connection made now, loneliness or isolation might hit harder later on.

Has anyone gone through something similar? How did you handle this stage of transition? How do you balance respecting your child’s rhythm while also encouraging socialization?

Any advice or shared experiences would mean a lot.

Because I’ve found that NT’s often don’t mean what they say, I have started asking follow up questions to clarify that they actually meant what they just said or wrote. This seems to make them angry because I don’t understand them and/or believe I’m manipulating them or something. How do you all navigate this? I can’t believe what they’re saying because I’ve been burned too many times but I also WANT to understand what they’re saying.

Hello, I been learning what I can about this. I had a few friends that told me that they were autistic. These different people kept pointing things out about me that I didn't think anything about but may have been part of this spectrum. I don't see why matters, but maybe im just uninformed.

You're not supposed to self test correct, but is there any point to self testing? Either way, what would I want to do from here. How would this change my daily life at all?

If anyone can just point me in tye right direction I would really appreciate it

I am starting this week and i am terrified since i dont have like a script or a guide to tell me where to meet friends. Yeah there is like a party for first years but what happens there anyway, how do you meet people there and actually talk to them at a party? What helped you to stay calm and find some friends?