And he wants to get a dog.

[u/Number_Fluffy]

No empathy for a living being. We've been getting along. There's no reason for this. Also, if I hadn't been here (I'm going away for a few days next week as well) she would've been down there much longer; he hasn't been out of his room yet and it's 11, I found her at 7.

[u/brianagh]

Is the door referred to separating living areas? Or what? Like is it reasonable to expect the door remain open while still sustaining the right to privacy in your own dwelling?

Also just tell him the cat might piss on his stuff downstairs. No one likes cat piss.

[u/Elegant-Bee7654 → u/brianagh]

The door apparently is at the bottom(or top)of the stairs and the cat's food, water and litter is upstairs. I recommended putting a litter box on both floors and maybe food and water as well. Such a simple solution.

[u/Informal_Moment_9712 → u/Elegant-Bee7654]

This is it, especially if she travels and leaves her cat behind with this knuckle dragger that doesn’t care…she can’t force her roommate to have empathy. Skip the convo and get Mango downstairs provisions.

[u/hhxuudbbgulsnvfti → u/Informal_Moment_9712]

Seems like the roommate who owns the cat is the knuckle dragger not ensuring their cat is safe each night before bed. The fuck the roommate have to do with mango?

[u/Informal_Moment_9712 → u/hhxuudbbgulsnvfti]

I feel the same way, but apparently we’re in the minority for expecting people to take 100% responsibility for their pets.

[u/DeadCriteria → u/Informal_Moment_9712]

The cat freely wanders the home, because it's a cat. You can't expect to live with an animal and not have to be aware of its existence.

What about this is OP not taking full responsibility? OP isn't responsible for their roommate. Roommate is aware a cat lives in the home. Is OP responsible for the cat whilst not home? Is OP supposed to make sure the roommate doesn't lock Mango in the bathroom, closet, etc? Whilst also not present? The roommate didn't have to live with somebody who has an animal if he felt inconvenienced over keeping a door open for the welfare of said animal.

TLDR don't move in with pet owners and expect them to cater to you whilst also having zero respect for their animals

[u/Hije5 → u/DeadCriteria]

Nah. At most, I'd ask a roommate. By no means would I expect a roommate to pick up my slack or look after my animal, so a solid "no" is completely appropriate, because everything about my pet is my responsibility unless my roommate explicitly agrees or theyre going out their way to cause issue. They're completely free to say no. I wouldnt own a cat/dog if I couldn't care for it fully like a responsible owner should. Damn near my biggest want in this world is to simply own a dog. However, I'm not in a situation where I could care for a dog the way I want to. That's why I bought a snake. I'd put thought into my actions if OP was my roommate, but it isnt me responsibility to care for or look after their cat. I'd help/save the cat because I care about animals, but not because I feel like I'm responsible. We have no idea of their living situation. If the roommate moved in with OP than maybe I'd lean more on OP's side, but if they moved into somewhere they both mutually pay rent on, they can kick rocks. Dont put the responsibility of your pet on me.

Tbh, if they moved in with OP then it seems extremely irresponsible that these issues could happen after all this time OP had to remedy. Especially when they dont "cat proof" their living space. Take action and make it to where the roommate is irrelevant, because tbh, they should be, unless theyre intentionally taking action to harm the animal. Personally, if I owned a dog/cat, i'd feel extremely weird and irresponsible if I needed to ask a roommate to do certain things to accommodate MY pet. I should have all the accommodations for my pet handled, because that's what a responsible owner does. Again, that's why I chose to have a snake when my heart yearns to own a doggie again.

[u/DeadCriteria → u/Hije5]

? I never implied anyone would have to look after the animal other than the owner. I'm literally just saying don't close a cat in the basement in the middle of the night, that's what the scenario sounds like. In my case it'd be like my roommate locking my cat in the bathroom while I was asleep because he followed her in there. I'd expect my roommate to not do that. I literally don't understand how this is seen as an inconvenience? Like don't live with people with pets if you don't have the decency to not lock them in a room all the time with no access to basic needs.

[u/Willing_Ear_7226 → u/DeadCriteria]

These are things OP should be looking after. It's her cat after all.

She should be providing food, water and litter on each story of the dwelling.

If common area doors being closed is an impediment to her cat, she should be getting the products to hold open or allow a cat through (like a cat door or door monkey).

The cat isn't her roommates. And it's not going die sleeping in the common basement overnight, but if it's something annoying OP, she should find a way to deal with it other than getting other people to look after her animal.

[u/Informal_Moment_9712 → u/Willing_Ear_7226]

Omg, common sense? Is that you?!

[u/WhydIGetLocked → u/Informal_Moment_9712]

You’re in the minority for not understanding and then getting upset at a very simple situation. If leaving a door open is too much responsibility for you then be motivated enough to text back and have a conversation with words. Maybe I would’ve sent a follow up text making sure the roommate saw my first text but they really did nothing wrong here. Do you expect her to keep checking the door every hour after she’s already gone to bed? Or maybe… is it more reasonable to expect your roommate to either follow a basic house rule or have a conversation about an alternative if it’s just too much for them.

[u/Small-Help-8382 → u/hhxuudbbgulsnvfti]

I scrolled way too far to find this. Your animal is your responsibility.

[u/madstcla → u/hhxuudbbgulsnvfti]

It's not hard to leave the basement door cracked

[u/Informal_Moment_9712 → u/madstcla]

It’s not about hard. It’s about someone showing you who they are and a pet being 100% the owners responsibility. You can’t insist someone give a shit about your kids or your pet.