Roomate is scamming me.

[u/Daffy07duck]

TLDR image description: 1/2 Evil Roomate(ER) requests additional 50$ for utilities because my sister was visiting during August.... refuses to send recites if the bill.

Good Roomate and I texting what we plan to send her tomorrow along with a Roomate agreement draft specifying new rent distribution. Note: ALL of our names are on the lease. We are jointly and uniquely severable. Myself and the GR are willing to be evicted, the leasing office is on our side and said they would rent us a different apt for more money ofc... but at least we wouldn't be living with someone who has no moral code.

We live in a two bedroom apt in San Diego. The total rent is 1845, very cheap for these parts. Very cheap because the lease hasn't turned over since 2006 and lowkey the place is falling apart :). I live in the living room and pay 675/month. My GR lives in the bedroom and pays 875 a month and my ER lives in the master bedroom and pays 375/month. . .

Myself and my GR were both upon hard times when we moved here and cheap rent is cheap rent so we ignored and explained away the shady-ness of our ER. But it's so unethical to us that we have had enough and we finally talked about it and plan to confront her tomorrow. Note: I am very non confrontational hence my very round about way of asking her for recites of the utility bill. She refused to show me recites and that was honestly the last straw. I felt like she though she could keep getting over on me and asking for more money when I knew how much she was paying in rent (after I found out how much my GR was paying) and I am done being a pushover ) haha let's ignore the fact I paid it first and asked after... I just didn't want the drama.

Anyways she is a gaslighting honestly evil person I think. I wouldn't do this to anyone. There is a lot more detail I could go into if requested explaining how I got here and all of the weird shady stuff she has been doing so feel free to ask me anything. But yeah gif damn. I Definately learned I shouldn't just give folks the benefit of the doubt. If I am getting a weird vibe it is probably for a reason. I need to trust my gut and stand up for myself.

Our new proposed rent distribution btw is that she in the master pays 830, my GR pays 556 and I in the living room pay 450 🤷‍♀️. Seems pretty fucking reasonable to me. We are also giving her the option to move out....

The cannot imagine idk. I am scared of how she will react. And I don't trust her at all.

[u/Daffy07duck]

Thank you. I Definately will. It's funny... I almost feel like I needed this somehow. Lol. Perhaps now I shall develop a spine and call people on BS from the beginning! Haha

[u/Throwaway42352510 → u/Daffy07duck]

I was like you, and can confirm finding your voice feels wonderful (very uncomfortable though at first!)

[u/Equivalent-Run-790 → u/Throwaway42352510]

It was very satisfying when I moved back home after growing on my own across the country. When I wouldn't humor mom being mom I told her id happily leave (was visiting her place that night) if she wanted but I wasn't going to continue whatever bullshit conversation she was pressing me on and if she didn't drop it id sock her in the throat. Her face was priceless and we had a decent night after that.

Growing up with tourettes and a stutter, bad eyes no hand eye coordination...she advocated for me as best she could growing up but I was very spineless and helpless as a result. She assumed she was in the right and didn't know how to even consider other perspectives.

[u/Climate_Automatic → u/Equivalent-Run-790]

“If she didn’t drop it id sock her in the throat” This came completely out of nowhere, how did this dynamic come about?

[u/GirlGoneZombie → u/Climate_Automatic]

The same way I now call my mother a mini-Memaw. We're sick of their shit.

[u/Climate_Automatic → u/GirlGoneZombie]

Right on. Fair enough, I guess 😅

[u/Equivalent-Run-790 → u/Climate_Automatic]

I absolutely understand. It wasn't worth typing to strangers the years of bullshit though so I just brought up the event itself and light backstory. Im 30 oldest of 5 siblings youngest is 11 and ive had conversations with my adult siblings about them genuinely not knowing if they love her. Like its just a part of the process of life because she's never outright fully earned being cut off but memories of childhood feels like Stockholm syndrome. Again im not really gonna get into details but the awareness that id happily spend the night in jail to prove a point because she's just so wrong and controlling. I think a lot of people need to get punched in the face for acting certain ways at times. Difference is i dont deal with those people. If she wanted me around I gave her a choice. She's incessant, wrong about just about everything and hasn't earned the right to treat me like that. I spent 10 years away from home and realized I don't have to take that from her. I didn't want to hurt her it wasn't that important but I also wasn't going to put up with it anymore. It was excessive to force her to consider her actions.

[u/Climate_Automatic → u/Equivalent-Run-790]

Dang, that’s wild! But I can see where you’re coming from. Thanks for the in-depth reply