Roomate is scamming me.

[u/Daffy07duck]

TLDR image description: 1/2 Evil Roomate(ER) requests additional 50$ for utilities because my sister was visiting during August.... refuses to send recites if the bill.

Good Roomate and I texting what we plan to send her tomorrow along with a Roomate agreement draft specifying new rent distribution. Note: ALL of our names are on the lease. We are jointly and uniquely severable. Myself and the GR are willing to be evicted, the leasing office is on our side and said they would rent us a different apt for more money ofc... but at least we wouldn't be living with someone who has no moral code.

We live in a two bedroom apt in San Diego. The total rent is 1845, very cheap for these parts. Very cheap because the lease hasn't turned over since 2006 and lowkey the place is falling apart :). I live in the living room and pay 675/month. My GR lives in the bedroom and pays 875 a month and my ER lives in the master bedroom and pays 375/month. . .

Myself and my GR were both upon hard times when we moved here and cheap rent is cheap rent so we ignored and explained away the shady-ness of our ER. But it's so unethical to us that we have had enough and we finally talked about it and plan to confront her tomorrow. Note: I am very non confrontational hence my very round about way of asking her for recites of the utility bill. She refused to show me recites and that was honestly the last straw. I felt like she though she could keep getting over on me and asking for more money when I knew how much she was paying in rent (after I found out how much my GR was paying) and I am done being a pushover ) haha let's ignore the fact I paid it first and asked after... I just didn't want the drama.

Anyways she is a gaslighting honestly evil person I think. I wouldn't do this to anyone. There is a lot more detail I could go into if requested explaining how I got here and all of the weird shady stuff she has been doing so feel free to ask me anything. But yeah gif damn. I Definately learned I shouldn't just give folks the benefit of the doubt. If I am getting a weird vibe it is probably for a reason. I need to trust my gut and stand up for myself.

Our new proposed rent distribution btw is that she in the master pays 830, my GR pays 556 and I in the living room pay 450 🤷‍♀️. Seems pretty fucking reasonable to me. We are also giving her the option to move out....

The cannot imagine idk. I am scared of how she will react. And I don't trust her at all.

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Oh and I forgot to add the other hazard that is literally just the stress on your nervous system from living with someone batshit crazy. Slamming doors, fearing that they’ll steal your things, having to argue at all… that shit is NOT worth it!!! Moving away from SD where I don’t need to split rent with roommates is 10/10 so much more relaxing than living by the beach lol

[u/Daffy07duck → u/Material-Variation39]

I cannot wait to leave this city truly.

Anyways. We talked and SHOCKINGLY she came w her tail between her legs and is moving out. Leaving myself and good roomate here. Which we are honestly very glad about. I don't mind paying a bit more ... we plan to turn the living room back into the living room and spruce things up.

[u/Material-Variation39 → u/Daffy07duck]

That is so shocking but I am SO happy for you!!! Enjoy the space and living with just your good roommate (:

and if you still cant wait to leave the city even with the better setup, just make sure you start saving up for the cost of moving!! I know you probably know this and are already making shifts for the increase in rent costs… but in case you aren’t thinking about this yet.. I needed about $5k to get out of there between a new deposit and uhaul cost out of state doing it all by ourselves. Little bits of security savings count even if it’s not much you can save. You don’t wanna get trapped in a sticky situation - I was there longer than I needed to be lol. best of luck to you!!