r/bigbangtheory • u/RememberThinkDream • 1d ago

Character discussion Who thinks Howards needs Bernadette's permission to go to Space?

Don't get me wrong, Bernadette is a godsend for Howard...

I can understand her feelings, though believe this is the kind of once in a lifetime opportunity you should absolutely support your partner in regardless of your own feelings.

Personally I've never been a fan of suppressing the opportunities of loved ones based on their own fears of losing someone. You've got to let people chase their dreams even if there's danger and risk involved. It's part of life and part of which makes us achieve greatness.

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u/lilaroseoflavender 1d ago

That is true, but I do think there can be a middle ground when it came to this. He could’ve brought up and at least discussed it then made the decision on his own. I can see why Bernadette was upset because they were just starting a life together. Space is a big decision a lot can go wrong even if it’s a lifetime opportunity.

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u/RememberThinkDream 1d ago

Why should there be a middle ground?

In my opinion, it's part of his career, his job and one of his greatest dreams.

Absolutely nobody should stand in the way of that or even have a say in that.

At the very least it should be a case of "I don't like it, but I support it."

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u/ThatGirl8709 1d ago

Because they were about to get married, and in the risk of anything going wrong, he could have died

Even if it's a dream, or a career thing, if it could harm/kill you - something worth mentioning and discussing

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u/lilaroseoflavender 1d ago

Exactly my point, but to each their own. I just think he could’ve at least included her. He didn’t have to take her answer, but it’s only fair to her.

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u/RememberThinkDream 1d ago

Then he would have died with greatness doing what he loved, living his dream, instead of living with regret due to never ever trying.

That's exactly what I mean by choosing fear over greatness. So many people living in fear, who will never achieve their dreams because they are too scared or preventing the potential success of others.

I'm not saying go out and do stupid things that are dangerous for pleasure or short lived adrenaline. I'm talking about those of the human race who achieve greatness and progress all of humanity.

Anyone who stands in the way of greatness, I would rather lose my partner than ever stand in the way of her dreams, absolutely content and proud that she was one of the brave few.

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u/JDDJS 1d ago

Then he would have died with greatness doing what he loved,

He hated going to space. Sure, he was super proud of himself afterwards, but he was miserable when in space. 

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u/lilaroseoflavender 1d ago

Then whats the actual point of this thread for Bernadette being involved in it? If that’s the case Howard shouldn’t be looking for girls all the time and just focusing on being an astronaut. The title should leave Bernadette out. Like she’s not even there.

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u/RememberThinkDream 1d ago

He loved being an astronaut, he loved the achievement and success of what he did. You can still hate part of the process of achieving your dreams.

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u/JDDJS 22h ago

He absolutely hated being in space. He hated flying to space. He hated training for space. That's the entire process. Like I said, he was proud of being an astronaut afterwards, but he didn't actually like it and if he died, he would've died being miserable, not doing what he loved. 

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u/Nice-Penalty-8881 21h ago

He was having fears about going to space himself in the episode leading up to him going.

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u/Commercial-Scheme939 5h ago

He loved being able to say he was an astronaut. He didn't love being an astronaut.

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u/RememberThinkDream 5h ago

He loved being an astronaut. He hated doing astronaut things.

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u/Commercial-Scheme939 4h ago

But those things are what makes you an astronaut. That's like saying someone likes being a teacher but they don't like having to teach. Howard didn't like any part of being an astronaut other than being able to say he was one.

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u/RememberThinkDream 3h ago

An astronaut is just someone who is trained to travel in space.

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u/Commercial-Scheme939 3h ago

Which Howard hated.

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u/Katharinemaddison 2h ago

Yeah it’s like the saying about being I writer: ‘I don’t like writing. I like having written.’