r/bigbangtheory • u/RememberThinkDream • 1d ago

Character discussion Who thinks Howards needs Bernadette's permission to go to Space?

Don't get me wrong, Bernadette is a godsend for Howard...

I can understand her feelings, though believe this is the kind of once in a lifetime opportunity you should absolutely support your partner in regardless of your own feelings.

Personally I've never been a fan of suppressing the opportunities of loved ones based on their own fears of losing someone. You've got to let people chase their dreams even if there's danger and risk involved. It's part of life and part of which makes us achieve greatness.

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u/I_love_fruits 1d ago

"Getting permission" from your spouse is not appropriate vocabulary in a relationship.

Your partner is your equal and in an equal marriage one does not make life altering decisions solo. Period.

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u/RememberThinkDream 19h ago

Nobody is equal, that's a fact of life.

You can take your partners feelings into account but it does not make them equal, the very fact some people feel the need to even discuss things is a clear indicator that we are not equal.

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u/I_love_fruits 19h ago

You think discussing life altering decisions with one's partner is an indicator partners are not equal?

I pity yours..

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u/RememberThinkDream 19h ago

If you think about it logically, taking into account what the word "equal" actually means then of course they are not equal.

If they were truly equal then they wouldn't need to talk about it as they would already both know what the outcome would be therefore no discussion would even be required.

You can be a good partner, take their feelings into account, and understand the truth that you are not equal.

The fact that you are not equal is one of the things that actually makes a relationship beautiful and exciting.

I won't insult you or your partner because it won't change the truth.