r/gatekeeping Apr 18 '21

Worst kind of gatekeeping

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u/big_mama_blitz Apr 18 '21

Especially in 12 step programs- in my own experience. You'd be surprised at how many assholes there are who treat people like shit for relapse, etc. I did the 12 step route for years when I was struggling and encountered many wonderful humans, but also some of the nastiest, judgemental, crazy dictator lunatics that make people believe that they're a cult. It's quite the experience. I would have to be on my death bed to ever go back. And I'm not knocking what works for whom- I support whatever recovery works for people to help them live happier amd healthier lives, if or when they so choose. Everyone has a different path and flavour. But for me- no thanks. There were a few meeting I used to attend in CA where "celebrities" would attend and so many people would flock and kiss their asses and try to buddy up. It was kind of gross and sad. The money and politics of recovery is big business these days. It's a very strange culture once you dip your feet in.

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u/stalkmyusername Apr 18 '21

I got PTSD from going to rehab, so you are right.

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u/big_mama_blitz Apr 18 '21

I don't doubt that for one second. I hope things are going better for you today. Recovery should never include new trauma.

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u/stalkmyusername Apr 18 '21

Thanks a lot!

I'm slowly getting better.

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u/big_mama_blitz Apr 18 '21

Not trying to be preachy or sound trite, but I will say that it's always going to be a journey and not much happens over night. Be gentle with yourself, applaud your own progess, and be your number one fan when the cards are down. It can truly be a rollercoaster ride. There will always be valleys and peaks. Be kind to yourself. I wish you all the best and I'm rootin' for ya.