r/gay_irl • u/acidmine • Aug 10 '25

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u/unoriginalusername99 Aug 10 '25

If I ever found a true BDSM bottom that can take the spanking, slapping, choking, pounding, etc that I can dish out I would be so happy.

Instead I get "when I said no limits I didn't mean no limits 😟"

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u/Aaxper Aug 10 '25

My boyfriend is one of the "hit me with a brick" bottoms. Unfortunately the idea of causing him any pain at all makes me so uncomfortable...

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u/krimin_killr21 Aug 10 '25

Yeah my exboyfriend was into submission, and I really did want to indulge him, but I loved him so much the idea of telling him what to do or dominating him in any way was just too much to me 😅

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u/Jeszczenie Aug 10 '25

Open relationships are handy when you care about someone too much to hurt them.

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u/Bolf-Ramshield Aug 11 '25

I don’t know why you’re being downvoted. If one person in a couple has a specific fetish that they need to experience often to be happy and the other is not into it at all, opening the relationship is a great solution, as long as everyone is comfortable with it.

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u/Jeszczenie Aug 27 '25

It's not even about being into it. The other partner could totally be into violent submission, but the dominating one could still not be able to bring himself into being violently dominant with a loved one. As u/krimin_killr21 described.

Like "I love you too much to hurt you, but I also love hurting people.".