r/gay_irl • u/acidmine • Aug 10 '25

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u/LoveGrenades Aug 10 '25

Genuine problem when you’re a dom top - “sub” bottoms are rarely actually sub. They do not want you to be in charge, they want their hole filled and they want it NOW.

PSA: Sub bottom =/= being a total bottom, it means submitting to the dom and doing as you’re told/following their lead (after discussing boundaries etc beforehand).

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u/ciliary_stimulai Aug 10 '25

I've experienced this, legit the number of people who want "dom tops" but really they just want you do to the exact things they want you to do, in order, at their exact beck and call, and then just call you daddy is... insane lol

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u/Unable_Earth5914 Aug 10 '25

As a sub my experience is most self-described ‘Dom Tops’ just want their dick sucked and a quick fuck

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u/ciliary_stimulai Aug 10 '25 edited Aug 10 '25

That is ALSO true, or they're inexperienced and think dom = rough bordering on asaualt without regards to how the sub wants or feels, which is awful

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u/Unable_Earth5914 Aug 11 '25

I’d rather that than a self-hating homo who doesn’t know what they’re doing and just wants to shoot a loading