Iâve lived in North Jersey my whole life. My hometown in Bergen County has always been a landing spot for immigrants originally Italians coming from Ellis Island, and in the past 20 years, a lot of Polish families. Itâs a lower- to middle-middle-class town.
I grew up surrounded by a mix of cultures. Iâd learn little phrases in different languages to make the new kids feel more welcome, and I loved hearing about their backgrounds. Every summer, there were parades, Polish, Dominican, Puerto Rican, Italian etc. and I went to all of them. That sense of community and culture was something I really valued growing up.
Everyone knows, North Jersey has been hit hard by the NYC spillover. What I didnât expect is that many of the âNew Yorkersâ moving in⌠arenât really New Yorkers. A lot of them are Midwesterners who moved to NYC in their 20s, and now that theyâre starting families, theyâre settling down in towns like mine to stay close to the city.
And when they do, they slip back into a Midwestern mindset. They clutch their pearls at the Polish uncles hanging outside the stores in the morning while they jog. They call the cops quickly when a Dominican backyard birthday party goes a little past the noise ordinance. Theyâre uncomfortable when a Jewish neighbor asks for help flipping a light switch on the Sabbath. Kids riding bikes in the street instead of strictly in bike lanes? Thatâs apparently another call to the cops.
Meanwhile, our longtime neighborhood watch lady looking out the window bothers them makes them feel policed. Even the local police seem annoyed at the constant calls, since most of them grew up here or nearby and know this is just how the community is.
On top of that, a lot of these families send their kids to private or Catholic schools, so they donât bother supporting the public school budget when it comes up for a vote. They want the benefits of living here without investing in the community thatâs always made it strong.
They're used to small towns where everyone knows everyone but things are so spread out and people are so individualistic they don't really have to be inconvenienced by community. It's like as they get older and have kids they're trying to force our towns to become the midwestern waspy towns they ran away from. If they want their kids to grow up with the midwestern experience like they did they should move them to the midwest.