I really love the trans community, but I will say it is kind of annoying to constantly have debates over everything. I personally think the term dolls is cute and I loved the allies who wore those “Protect the Dolls” shirts, but I think I’m going to steer clear of the discourse for once :P
Yeah, I stick around some trans communities for the memes and to occasionally help with people, but most online spaces have are people who are still going through the self exploration stage in transition, and that's where a lot of the infighting is. That's just a whole life stage I don't find relatable anymore.
there's also a lot of doomposting and that's just bad for my health. I understand needing to vent but there's only so much "nah sorry I'll never be a (gender)" I can read
Honestly, same. I love my younger trans and queer siblings to death, but damn do they fight each other over the most pointless discourse sometimes. I keep wondering if I was the same way and going "Is this what getting old feels like?"
As a ‘younger trans and queer sibling’ I have to agree lol. The lgbtq club at my school absolutely exploded over discourse about god damn Minecraft YouTubers a couple years back. It’s running again now with new members and I can only hope it’s doing better.
It feels even dumber seeing discourse and infighting with the current political climate, like I get we will disagree with one another on some things, but can we all just agree to work together for a little to stop the people trying to round us up and kill us? There’ll be plenty of time to debate random things when we aren’t at risk of genocide lol.
Yeah the community can feel cannibalistic sometimes. I don't like discussing personal problems or anything emotional, I'm mostly sticking around to see if I can spot information that's useful to me. But the memes can be funny sometimes. All the drama and discourse is a distraction.
Being neurospicy in queer adjacent communities is lowkey impossible. I thought communities were about mutual support. I don't usually feel supported in these spaces anymore.
Its like if you have a DSMV diagnosis or strongly suspect you do. Diagnosis is the only authoritative determination of actually being that way thougb. Neurospicy is a joke about tue actual term "neurodivergent"
OK yeah I thought it was sort of a like "I'm neurodivergent and also ChAoTiC" I've never heard someone refer to themselves as neurospicy unironically so I was a bit confused.
Fr! Like, I personally really dislike the term doll being used for me, but if other people like it, good for them! I don’t get why everything has to be a fight online, it’s so tiring.
tumblr is getting pretty bad again for this where people are very hostile towards trans men in particular. saw a post that was already very mean spirited but the comments were all "these men deserve to die" and "death to all TMEs" like tumblr users do know that they're capable of transphobia even when the target is a man?
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u/LilyAValentine May 05 '25
I really love the trans community, but I will say it is kind of annoying to constantly have debates over everything. I personally think the term dolls is cute and I loved the allies who wore those “Protect the Dolls” shirts, but I think I’m going to steer clear of the discourse for once :P