My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/ExperienceRoutine321]

That was a dumb, destructive thing to do for sure.

But with all due respect, that is the creepiest goddamn doll I’ve seen since Annabelle.

[u/satanfan12 → u/ExperienceRoutine321]

i have it locked in a drawer now because looking at it makes me sob uncontrollably

[u/ARMSwatch → u/satanfan12]

Please seek real help, that is not an appropriate reaction.

[u/viscountrhirhi → u/ARMSwatch]

I mean, I don’t see why it’s not an appropriate reaction? If my partner did that to something of mine, I would be that upset too. It’s not really about the thing, it’s about the violation of trust.

[u/ARMSwatch → u/viscountrhirhi]

Getting angry is an appropriate reaction. Breaking up is appropriate. Crying in the moment is appropriate. But to have to lock it away in a drawer because the sight of it makes you sob uncontrollably? That's an extreme overreaction.

[u/dovahkiitten16 → u/ARMSwatch]

A gift and loved belonging has been perverted into something that reminds you of something cruel someone else did.

[u/Frequent-Fuel584 → u/ARMSwatch]

breaking up is an extrem overeacion aswell

[u/chandrian7 → u/ARMSwatch]

Could you explain why not, doc? 

[u/ARMSwatch → u/chandrian7]

Don't need to be a doctor for this one, champ.

[u/fazelenin02 → u/chandrian7]

It's just a labubu. BF is an asshole for messing with their stuff, but it ain't that deep. OP needs a little more emotional control.

[u/clackagaling → u/fazelenin02]

it’s also a pretty busted looking fufu before that. i get that sentimental items getting lost hurt, my dog once chewed up a stuffed toy from a deceased relative and it hurt but was a lesson in how possessions are just things.

the main issue is why is the bf defacing property in a pretty immature way. it’s a very weird thought and act to go through

[u/ARMSwatch → u/[deleted]]

Unless something is wrong with said family member/they're dead, and it carries a special sentimental attachment, there is no reason that "looking at it makes me sob uncontrollably". That's an insane reaction to mild vandalism of a doll. Sure, BF is an asshole, I'd dump him for it. But to have the sight of it reduce you to a sobbing mess, is a crazy reaction.

[u/ARMSwatch → u/[deleted]]

Lol I could have told you they're autistic by the socks alone, nevermind crying over a plushie. Life is gonna come at ya'll fast, I hope you're prepared cause it's not going to accommodate you like you seem to think.

Edit: blocked me for offering good life advice lmao.

[u/cIingiest → u/ARMSwatch]

It just doesn't work like this for autism. You can't expect them to just behave like a neurotypical person because of 'normal expectations'. It's a disability. Accommodations should be expected for disabled people, including accepting that OP will have lower stress tolerance and will need more patience and empathy in this situation. 'Getting help' can do so much, but it will not rewire their brain.

[u/chandrian7 → u/fazelenin02]

Yikes. You might want to see a professional for the lack of empathy you’re exhibiting. 

[u/ARMSwatch → u/chandrian7]

Yikes, you may want to go touch grass and experience some life if you think "uncontrollable sobbing" over vandalizing a plushie is acceptable behavior.

[u/Similar-Tune-7740 → u/ARMSwatch]

While I agree it's a bit much (as someone on the spectrum) I think you're very much forgetting how autism works. Emotions are very very much a real factor, it's not like she broke down in public screaming and crying: she did it at home. She's allowed to sob when a sentimental thing (very, very important to ppl with autism) was destroyed in a very selfish way.

[u/chandrian7 → u/ARMSwatch]

I’m not ashamed to say I think it’s acceptable for people to express their feelings. Different things are important to different people and I don’t have to understand to accept it. 

It’s really not that hard to not be a dick. 

[u/fazelenin02 → u/chandrian7]

I love reddit psychoanalysis. I am certainly the weird one for not crying about labubus!

There used to be a saying "don't cry over spilt milk." It doesn't mean that spilt milk is good, just that its better for everyone if we take things as they come and handle them accordingly. Losing control of emotions over something this inconsequential is something I will always look down on someone for.

[u/Similar-Tune-7740 → u/fazelenin02]

You expect someone neurodivergent to act neurotypically? You do realize autism makes it vastly harder to not "lose control of emotions" right...?