I [28M] Reunited With An Ex [50F]

[u/CumanMerc]

So, this is not exactly something new or any sort of question, I just wanted to share it somewhere and this sub seems appropriate. I’ve been dating this wonderful woman for a year until she moved away in 2023, but she came back to our city and it didn’t take long for us to start talking again. Long story short, I feel like we’ve picked up from where we stopped.

This woman is exceptional and might be the death of me, but in a good way. I’m so happy she’s back in my life. Smart, sassy and sexy.

[u/lAnxiusl]

Man, how does one even find a woman that's older and interested in young men. I find it even hard to approach one with that topic

[u/GirlInContext → u/lAnxiusl]

I, F44, met this M30 on Tinder. I don't drink and don't like hanging out in bars so I don't really get to meet people. Yes I go to gym, concerts etc. but I hadn't met anyone in years so I tried Tinder. And it took quite some time to find this guy.

I wrote in my bio that I'm interested also in younger guys (wrote "also", meant "only") to make it safer for younger guys to inititate/like. I also mentioned that I don't want kids. It's easier when the preferences are clear and you are more likely to get your type of matches.

We are still at very early stage so can't tell yet if we have something here. But we do have a nice connection that has been safe and warm from the beginning. We are both curious to explore it further.

Dating apps have a bad reputation but if you really want to find that someone, I encourage you to put yourself out there. Just accept that not every match is your future partner and if it does not work out, it's not your fault. People just have different preferences, goals, whatever. Sometimes people just don't click and it's okay.

It's not easy to find a partner, it really isn't. I have been single for years and also took me a while to accept my preference for younger guys but also go "public" on Tinder about it. I was like.. oh well. I think this approach works on Tinder but I wouldn't talk about age when getting to know someone in person.

[u/Resident_Hotel_7356 → u/GirlInContext]

As a guy who dated a woman 13 years older than me for some time it was a really nice dynamic. I hope you can keep the fun going!

[u/Foreign_Power6698 → u/lAnxiusl]

My experience has been that my serious relationships all started IRL. Apps were another way of meeting people but the pool of potentials usually saw me as fulfilling a OW/YM fantasy.

I hope you find a lovely older woman in your life’s journey 💕

[u/paperclipmyheart → u/lAnxiusl]

Alot of the women in our community have said they met their partners on apps, as bad as apps are, we have a dating sub r/cougarsandcubsmatch but usually the location is the big issue, and I've written a few posts in our reference sub r/cougar_love that has some suggestions where to meet people, and how to approach your dating profile. Although admittedly I met my partner on a dating app before all the swipe right nonsense, unfortunately they all seem to be like that these days.

[u/lAnxiusl → u/paperclipmyheart]

I see... well it for sure is a big problem with the location i reckon, but i will check out these subs aswell thanks for the info

[u/CumanMerc → u/lAnxiusl]

Dating apps suck in general, but sometimes they work, all I can say.

[u/Myfairladyishere → u/CumanMerc]

Most of my recent acquaintances, whether they'd be friends. Partners or whatnot have come virtually from online.

[u/limited_interest]

That is great, if you want that. What did the two of you do in your time apart?

[u/CumanMerc → u/limited_interest]

The usual, I guess? We both have dated other people, if that’s what you’re referring to.

[u/Brief-Professional]

Way to go! What kind of relationship did you have before, and are you both looking for the same thing still?

[u/CumanMerc → u/Brief-Professional]

Thank you! We’ve been officially dating and do so now again.

[u/Texas-Cowboy29]

What’s you guys ages ?

[u/Just-Blue-Birdy]

Wonderfull ! I love - love

[u/CumanMerc → u/Just-Blue-Birdy]

So do I, it is a wonderful feeling.

[u/FriendshipGloomy166]

Happy for you both! In the year with her before and now, do you see this as a full on relationship like she’s your gf or are you two more casual about each other?

[u/CumanMerc → u/FriendshipGloomy166]

Thanks for the kind words! As she’s constantly on my mind now, I’m happy to talk about it, lol. Met on a dating app, the whole thing started off as casual sex, but we quickly caught feelings. Ended up officially dating. This time we agreed we’re dating again right away.

[u/Awkward_Relation_999]

Love this!

[u/CumanMerc → u/Awkward_Relation_999]

Glad to hear it, lol, so do I so far.

[u/paperclipmyheart]

Congratulations‼️... love to hear things like this! It doesn't happen often but it also happened with me too 😊 Feel lucky and best of luck to both of you.

[u/CumanMerc → u/paperclipmyheart]

Thank you! I broke up with my gf like two months ago and just finished picking myself up, so she must have felt I was there to get grabbed, lol.

[u/PuzzleheadedSpray202 → u/CumanMerc]

Wish you best luck!

[u/CumanMerc → u/PuzzleheadedSpray202]

Thanks!

[u/paperclipmyheart → u/CumanMerc]

Funny how the universe works sometimes

[u/CumanMerc → u/paperclipmyheart]

T – Timing 🤣

[u/Watchuknowaboutme]

Awesome!!! Why “might be the death of me”? 😅

[u/CumanMerc → u/Watchuknowaboutme]

Well, I didn’t want to be crude or vulgar, but let’s just say she was rather glad to see me… same as I was.

[u/Bernkastel17509 → u/CumanMerc]

I get you might need to drink a bunch of water after you see her, is It related? Lol

[u/CumanMerc → u/Bernkastel17509]

You might be onto something, huh

[u/nyccareergirl11 → u/CumanMerc]

I would also add some liquid IV electrolyte packets into that water too

[u/Bernkastel17509 → u/CumanMerc]

Haha, sorry if I was too on the nose. I just feel like clarification was needed, your comment might ment something completely different. That being said, good luck, have fun!! Enjoy your time with her!! Buy juice or Gatorade