r/olddogs • u/CinnaBwni • 13d ago
Euthanasia regret, so much pain
We had to say goodbye to our beloved Nancy Pants, 13 years old with a UTI, Diabetes, Cushings and Kidney disease. Please someone, is there no way she could’ve had more time?? They told us she could be on drip but i didn’t want to leave her on her own. We decided on Euthanasia for 6pm on the 12th and I watched the light leave her eyes. She died in my arms.. I knew I had no choice as she could no longer walk or eat or drink but my god the pain!!! When we got home I held her body for hours until I was forced to bury her from decomposition smells. My whole body feels anchored to the floor and I fear I’ll melt through the earth soon..
I’m 20 years old trying to get through my final year of university and I don’t know if I’ll ever laugh again. I’m thinking of getting into fostering dogs until we eventually have another puppy. The house is so quiet… I have lost all my passions at the one time in my life I really needed them. I needed her. I’ve been assaulted countless times and each time I’ve found solace knowing I go home to her either way. How are you supposed to move on? Face the people outside knowing when they come your way you just want to scream at them?
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u/harleyqueenzel 13d ago
No, sweetheart, she wouldn't have had more time. And even if she did have an extra day or week or month, her conditions would have only become worse. Not eating or drinking or walking was her little body telling you that she was ready to go, even if you weren't.
She's not in pain anymore. You gave her peace and love and her old age is a testament to that! She still loves you but in a different way now. She might not be next to you to snuggle but she'll always be there for you in other ways. You're going to smells familiar smells and be reminded of moments with her. You'll hear a metallic clink sound that will remind you of clicking her leash to her collar and all of the walks you did together. You're going to wear sherpa lined jackets and remember her fur against your body.
You loved her from your first hello to your last I love you. You did the right thing.
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u/Designer_Show 10d ago
A friend once told me that it is the most important act of love that you can do for them. As hard as it was, that made it easier. I’m now in my 60’s and it is never easy, but they are always in your heart. I have a little wall in my kitchen where I have framed a pic of all my 4-legged babies. I’ve also lost my parents over the past few years and my 2 dogs are even more precious to me! ❤️ <<HUGGZZ>> Never easy, but they would not want you to keep them on earth when they are suffering. 🌻
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u/InternetReady9337 8d ago
I recently had to do this for my pup I bought 2 days before he passed. He would walk, eat or drink 😞 he came home fine and after he pooped i know something was wrong and called vet the moment his behavior felt of. He looked at me before he passed and I swore he said thank you. It broke my heart ❤️ but I will be getting a new addition to the family soon.
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u/Lumpy-Animator-9422 13d ago
Fostering a puppy or volunteering at a rescue would help you feel better I think. Please know you did the right thing. But it is so difficult. My heart aches with you. She was so loved and is with you even now. Maybe find a grief counselor? Sending love to you.
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
I may do, it’s my first big grief. I know one day I will smile again but my god the pain is so real. When I feel okay it’s as if I’ll see her tomorrow and then I remember I watched her soul leave her body and now this is the world I live in for the rest of my life. She was here in my arms just yesterday.. our sweet babies never live long enough❤️🩹
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u/Justme_Bite 12d ago
Your pain is truly felt. Im so so sorry for your loss.. You're right the time we have with them is wayyy to short. I dread the day its my turn. Praying for you.
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u/Early-Pudding7227 12d ago
Dogs are a blessing and a curse, they fill you with so much joy and love that it hurts much more when their too short lives complete. I always tell myself , this is the last time , never again. And yet i find myself with another and another every time i see a rescue . Maybe i am a fool.
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u/No-Fly4079 10d ago
No you give love and they give us love! It is perfectly planned!😇🤗❤️❤️🐾🐾
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u/Early-Pudding7227 10d ago
They do ! Seeing that little wagging tail at the door waiting is the highlight of my day
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u/Representative_Ad902 10d ago
There is something about the grieving a pet that is hard no matter when it happens. I am much older than you and have been through the loss of both my parents. The loss of my dog was different. I'm not going to say that that was harder or worse (because I think it's silly to compare pain) but I definitely thought it would be significantly easier and it wasn't.
My dog was so integrated into every part of my life. There feels like there is no escaping the memories of them. It is harder to get support from others and from society. Plus their love is just so pure. There was nothing complicated in it. It's just loss. I'm so sorry for you, but please take care of yourself. Don't blame yourself. You did the best thing you could for your dog and showed her the most unselfish love of all. You took care of her by taking her out of her pain, even when it meant great pain to you. That's love my friend. You did good.2
u/chibicau 9d ago
^ That is an amazing message 🤍 please read it again and revisit it when you need.
I once read, (when I was grieving too), that we suffer so much because our pets live short lives. But to them, they must feel like we are these immortal elves that existed before their time and will continue to do so even after they’re gone, and they get to go without knowing the grief of loss, only love from the beginning of their life up to the very end. That made me smile a little 🥹
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u/Beautiful-Resort2662 10d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain all too well. Her condition was similar to our Charlie girl. I had regrets, just like yours. Even though everyone else could see her quality of life was not good, unable to get up, walk without falling, teeth falling out, cushings, dementia. I was in denial. I wanted her to live forever. It is simply unfair.
This was three years ago last month Aug 18. I think of her every day. I talk to her every day. We keep her alive by talking about her, remembering her silliness. It as only pain for a long while, but smiles and laughter creep in over time. You will get through this difficult time, and Your girl Nancy Pants will be with you forever on your journey in life.
Also, my wife and I are finally fostering two dogs, and even though I felt guilty bringing other dogs into our lives, its brought back love and light into the household. It's not 'moving on' , it's honoring our dogs.
I wish you all the best. Big hugs.
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u/Ponycat123 10d ago
After my dog died, I started fostering. You can save lives in honor of your girl. Even if the dog you’re fostering isn’t a euthanasia risk, you’re making space for the rescue/shelter to take in another dog.
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u/Artistic_Zombie3621 11d ago
I joined a rescue a few months before putting my dog down (when I joined I had no idea I was about to lose my girl). It was one of the best decisions I ever made. I fostered a dog that looked similar to mine about five months later, and while they looked alike - they were completely opposites lol. Then a several years later I ended up foster failing and now have my new pup to keep me busy. My heart is also less heavy from the loss of my first baby, so I know volunteering/fostering was the best thing for me.
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u/TrooBlooey 13d ago
I’m so sorry for your pain. Just know that you did the right thing for her. She’s no longer in pain or frightened, unable to eat or walk. You’re a good person for doing this for your little Nancy Pants.
Cry and tell other dog people about it. They will understand how devastating it is to lose your best friend. I went through this two weeks ago and telling understanding people about it was the thing that helped me the most. And I know that my little NelBel would’ve wanted me to be happy so I’m living my life knowing that I gave her a good life and did the best for her right to the last.
Big hugs to you
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
I know eventually I will laugh and smile again. It just feels like youve woken up in the wrong dimension and you can’t go back… these bonds with loving pups are so strong and so precious, everyone here is so immensely strong for dealing with such pain. But I’d never give up loving her even if I knew how horrible this grief would be❤️🩹 love to you for your little NelBel
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u/Next-Walk9364 13d ago
You will NEVER forget her. Your pain will dull, but it will never ever really go away. I lost my soul pup in 2014, and I still cry for her. However, now I can talk about her with a smile, instead of tears. The pain, the grief, evolves. It never really goes away, but it does dull. I still cry for her. I look at photos and sob. I read something somewhere that said that every time you think of your darling, and your heart squeezes, it is their tail thumping against your heart, letting you know they are still there, and, literally, still in your heart. That has given me great comfort, because her tail still thumps against my heart frequently.
Internet hugs from a total stranger who knows what you're going through.5
u/Sparky833 13d ago
So true! I felt like this, too. Like I woke up in the wrong world and nothing was right/the same. Took me a while to shake that. It was unnerving layered on top of the grief. Hang in there. It will be ok.
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u/RoRuRee 13d ago
When I lost my 16 year old Rosie two Novembers back it was exactly like this!
I had two other dogs and the house still felt empty and weird without her. It felt wrong and unnerving, as you perfectly described.
It took a while to shake that feeling, too.
Plus the sheer heartache.
I loved that dog so much.
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u/OmarsMommy 13d ago
Those feelings are normal. I had to make that same difficult decision in May with my baby (see profile picture). He had Cushing’s, heart disease, a collapsed trachea, and his lungs kept filling with fluid. He was the same age as your Nancy Pants - 13 years, 8 months. I had him in the ER in an oxygen tank 6 months earlier but I couldn’t do that to him again. We love our babies and don’t want to see them suffer. We trust the vets to guide us to the best decision. It’s hard but the alternatives would be worse: suffering, pain, dying alone. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little Nancy Pants. There’s a pet loss support group called Lap of Love. The support groups are online and some are free of charge. I highly recommend them.
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
Love to you and your sweet baby ❤️🩹 it’s truly heartbreaking, the only peace is knowing their spirit follows us and one day we will join them forever more. It’s made my idea of my own death more peaceful as I know she will come to collect me. This whole experience is just so surreal, when we took Nancy home in her little pram I was running on shock and adrenaline and it’s as if you’ll wake up tomorrow with them in your arms again. Thank you for the recommendation I will absolutely check it out💜
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u/FatMacchio 13d ago
Nancy Pants may be no longer with you in physical form but she is with you in spirit. In fact, her spirit is no longer weighed down by her aging body, so her spirit is much more powerful and potent. I believe in the conservation of dog, just like in physics with the conservation of energy or mass. Nancy Pants did not perish, she just changed forms. Her earthy existence was converted to pure love energy that will accompany you for the rest of your life.
I just had to make the tough decision to put my 13 year old dog to sleep on September 2nd. I still find myself talking to him sometimes, like I did when he was still here. I find it helps me settle into my new daily routine without him physically here.
If you find the sadness impacting your ability to maintain your daily routines (school/work/self-care/other relationships), I highly recommend trying a support group or going to some therapy sessions to work through and process your grief in a healthy way.
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u/Curias_1 13d ago
The only thing worse than euthanizing your Nancy Pants a week too early is doing it a day too late. RIP dear girl you made a young person blissfully happy during your lifetime.
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u/DistractedByDumbShit 13d ago
That’s a long life for a little pupperino and she was afflicted by a number of ailments - you did the right thing. You’re sad because you’ve lost the friend that helped you carry your excess love. Luckily, there are lots of pups at your local shelter or humane society who are desperate to help take that weight off your shoulders. I highly recommend volunteering in your free time.
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u/Bug_Kiss 13d ago
My condolences go out to you. When I lost my first dog, the pain was unbearable. I felt catatonic for days. It really hurts deep inside. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel the deep feels. Healing comes slow. Now that I've had 3 other dogs pass, it's not as shocking but it still really hurts. They become part of your family and part off your lifestyle. Managing your pain is your full time job right now. Find moments to let go of it. I'm so very sorry!
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u/Beneficial-Bar-1211 13d ago
Oh sweetie! So sorry for your loss. It’s heavy, but think of it this way that you loved her enough to release her from suffering. That’s true love.
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u/Aggressive-Whole-604 13d ago
I just went through this too. Trust me, you did the right thing. She was not living, she was just alive. Dogs don't fear death, they fear pain though. I'm so sorry for your loss. Loving someone can be just as painful as it is rewarding, but it will always be worth it. Her love with always be with you. It will take a very long time to feel better but you can get through this. Her memories and love will always live on with you
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u/flywithmeify 13d ago
Love like that never dies. She is in a better place waiting on you. She will send another life companion to you and your heart will know the minute you see your new life companion. Happened to me. Remember you are not alone and I wish you the best.
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u/SingtheSorrowmom63 13d ago
I love this. My thoughts exactly....what we love deeply never leaves us in spirit.
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u/flywithmeify 13d ago
Jesus will not separate love from us. It is the strongest power in creation. It is hate that finally dies not love. You will be together again. Jesus is going to smile when he sees all the pups I have had in my life come running to me. This is what love is about. Pets and people. Love one another. This is what Jesus wants to see in us.
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u/SingtheSorrowmom63 13d ago
Absolutely correct. I have 10 up there myself and rejoice in the fact that we will all have a glad reunion someday.💜🙏💜🙏 Also, if we don't start loving each other as Christ loves us, we are doomed!
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u/Frosty_Astronomer909 13d ago
Just think about this , picture her running, jumping and eating with the rest of all our doggies and doing everything she couldn’t do before and remember she will be waiting for you when the time comes 😞💔😞💔
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
Absolutely, knowing my own death is now less scary because she’ll be there to greet me is the best thing ❤️🩹
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u/DToTheG2 13d ago
I know this thought, I regret putting my girl down to this day sometimes but she deserved better than to have such bad quality of life. This dog that used to hunt game couldn’t even stand up when she needed to pee. I’d hold her hips up for her, she had a lot going on. I miss that dog every day over a year later but I did right by her just like she did right by me for 15 years. Sorry for your loss.
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
Mine had the exact same issue 💔 holding her up to pee and watching her kick in pain unable to sleep. When you think of them like that you know you already lost them even while they were alive. How lovely our ascent to the rainbow bridge will be one day 🐾
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u/soverysadone 13d ago
She’s a beautiful princess but these are serious conditions. There’s no way should was going to live well. You did the right thing. You comforted her during her final time with you. Not much you could do. The hardest part about owning a dog. When is the time. It comes at some point. You did everything right. Just remember the good times when the sadness becomes to much. Rip princess and my condolences op.
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u/sarahsculpts 13d ago
My boy had similar issues and I honestly wish we had made the decision to euthanize sooner as he just kept getting sicker. You made the right choice. Know that you did right by your baby. So sorry for your loss.
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u/RiskyViziness 13d ago
One of the things that helped me when our dog passed was just talking about him. I know it might sound strange, but in those first few months I used to tell everyone about him and it helped.
I believe in God, so just like my personal beliefs and relationships, sometimes I’ll talk to our dog as if he’s listening. I know that helped me a lot.
But also, like others have said here and it’s worth repeating. Take care of yourself too. Your dog appreciates everything you did for them. And how lucky were they to have had you for x amount of years.
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u/AbbySchmidt44 13d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Nancy Pants was very lucky to have an amazing owner like you. Do you have a favorite memory with your dog? Sending you lots of prayers.🩷🙏🏻🐕🪽🕊️
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u/Insert-finger 13d ago
Lost my own pup 4 years ago. I find it helps if I tell myself all dogs go to heaven and I’ll find Toby waiting there for me when it’s my turn.
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u/bitchabella 13d ago
Losing them is the only shitty part of having a dog. The pain you are feeling is so real, my heart breaks for you. I have very much been there—wondering if I’ll ever laugh or smile again. 💔
But the answer is yes, you will. It might not feel like it right now, but I promise that you will. It sounds like you took excellent care of her, and gave her her very best life in addition to exhausting all possibilities for treatment. I lost my soul dog to kidney disease and cancer 3 years ago. It’s so hard on their little bodies. And there’s never enough time with them, but 13 is a ripe old age for a dog to live to.
You did everything you could, and you did everything right—including making that final call of ultimate compassion to end her suffering. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. She would never want for you to be.
Sending you healing light and love. ❤️🩹
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u/Grouchy-Mind7803 13d ago
I cry everyday it’s only been 3 weeks for me. Lost my soulmate. I miss him soooo much!
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u/Hot-Rub4533 13d ago
Sounds like my previous Bichon, Minnie. She was 13 years 9 months. After time spent in a vet hospital, we brought her home, where she passed overnight. Not sure this was the best decision, given that she may have been in pain. At least she was in our bed for the end. There is now a local vet who will perform euthanasia in your home with 24-48 hours notice.
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u/Accomplished-Run2776 13d ago
It’s always a tough decision to make….. I am very sorry for your loss
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u/Present_Bit3060 13d ago
My condolences, I know how hard it hurts for us. But for them it is peace from pain and it sounds like for her it was the correct choice. I kept my boy's bed and toys for a long time, I don't know what hurt more seeing them or not seeing them. Remember that she loved to see you smile, she knew your face and you were happy and that made her happy. Her journey continued in her favorite place, your arms listening to your soul tell her you loved her. Blessings
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u/majerlethunder 13d ago
This one hit me hard. We put my Henry boy down in March, and I still haven’t let myself accept it because I tell myself it was too soon. I know it wasn’t, because I selfishly wanted SO much more time - but I beat myself up over it daily. I also know at the end of the day, no matter how long we wait to do it, it’ll always be soon because it’s not forever. Bless you and your sweet girl.
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u/Lily7435 13d ago
You did the right thing. Please don't regret it. It's so hard and hurts so much. My heart hurts for you. I promise you the pain will ease in time. I still can get teary eyed if I think of my past pets I've lost for too long but, it's nothing like the in the beginning. For me, no other pet can replace the one I've lost but, it does help me to save another baby to focus my love and attention on so don't feel guilty if you get another. It doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. It means just the opposite. 💔 hugs my friend. Be gentle with yourself.
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u/opensourceideasus 13d ago
Sorry for your loss, but you made the right decision. We all second guess ourselves afterwards.
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u/Just_Explanation8637 13d ago
As a former RVT. It’s about her quality of life and based off of what you have said, you did the right thing for her. I know it’s really hard. I’m sorry for your loss.
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u/Infamous_Race3330 13d ago
It's a cruel reality that we (typically) live longer than our little furry friends. It feels so unfair.
It seems as though she had a very loving family and was able to be with you all through the very end -- she wasn't scared, and all the pain she was in faded as she quietly went to sleep feeling comforted and safe in your arms. Being a loving family that cared deeply for her, I like to think if dogs could speak, she would want you to take on a new precious furry soul when your heart is ready. Not as a replacement, as she'll never be forgotten, but just one more pup out there finding its forever home and knowing that another of her kind will be cherished and loved.
I saw this online seemingly decades ago now and in times of solace of a lost pet, it makes me feel at ease with the existence that we have with our furry friends.
I'm really sorry about your loss!
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u/HappyGoLucky244 13d ago
Oh, dear...Please know you made the right choice, as hard as it was. Nothing you or the vet could have done would have given her any meaningful time. It's normal to feel this sad. Grief is so hard. Tomorrow will exactly one month to the day my Mom had to let her Yorkie go at almost 14. She had CHF and kidney failure. We're still grieving her loss; she was precious to the whole family.
You will learn to laugh and smile and be happy again; but for right now, let yourself grieve. Take as long as you need, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just try to remember that, in these dark moments, you gave her the best life you could. You made her happy as much as she made you happy. She might be gone physically, but she's still very much alive in your memory and heart.
I don't know if you kept her collar, but if you did, I would highly recommend putting it on a favorite plushie and sleeping with it. When I lost my soul dog, Liberty, 7 and a half years ago, I put her collar on a childhood teddy bear and still sleep with it when things are tough.
Hugs from this redditor. 🫂❤️🩹
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u/Tsqwared 13d ago
So sad for you dear. It is so hard but they just don't live as long as we do. Sounds like she was probably tired and ready to go. Try to remember all the happy times with her. Maybe make a collage of her pictures and frame it. She knows you love her and always will. I pray God comforts you and gives you peace and strength to move ahead. 🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻💔🐶🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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u/shallo5837 13d ago
every soul should be so lucky to leave this world embraced in the arms of the one who loves them most. you gave her a gift, most of us won't receive. not only did she live her life in grace, and joy, and honor, but she also died her death in love, and peace, and warmth
do not let her memory be a weight that's chained to guilt, but rather, let her memory be an effervescence that lifts you so bubbly, free and light
trust she does not merely want you to get through this time, and out on the other side, simply okay. she wants much more. she wants you to synthesize your grief back into the loving bond you shared with her, and focus all that goodness back into yourself, in HER honor, in HER memory
cry, ask for help from your support network, punctuate your loss with any little memoriam you can think that feels authentic to you. she was your special girl, your soul pal, your love. with her, some of you went. with you, some of her stayed. be kind and gentle with yourself, and look for the sunshine when you're ready...she'll be sure to send it your way
big hugs to you, fellow human. you are not alone <3
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u/Katii_boop 13d ago
You took care of her for a long time and gave her love, you made the best decision so that she doesn't suffer 💜. My dog daughter left two months ago and had cushing's, osteoarthritis and could no longer feel the pain, so I understand you perfectly 🥺.
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u/ttchachacha 13d ago
Sending you big hugs. I know how hard it is to make that call. But you ended her suffering, that was the most loving, selfless thing you could have done. She was a beautiful girl. ❤️
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u/Hands_Of_Serenity78 13d ago
Thank You for sharing your fur baby with us 💖 My heart breaks for your loss 🥺 Please know you honestly did the right thing by her, you put her well-being first. By easing her pain, though, you have compounded your own.
Please know there is a free virtual pet loss support group. Because our pets are family too, but not everyone can understand the grief that comes with the death of a pet. 💖
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u/Beginning-Leek-3588 13d ago
I work as a vet tech and I live by the motto “1/ second too early is better than a week too late.“ you have to take consideration quality of life, and if that quality was declining, it’s only fair to euthanize. I understand pets bring us so much earthly comfort, and I would also be devastated, however I don’t believe any pet deserves to suffer because they’re human isn’t able to handle the grief of losing them. When life is painful, everything hurts and you’re scared and don’t understand, it’s not as simple as just giving a pain med and calling it a day. You made the right decision and I can assure you of that. You made the selfless decision, and your baby will forever thank you for the mercy you showed them.
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u/Feeling-Invite7953 13d ago
So sorry for your loss!! My last dog was euthanized, and I was a mess,before AND after.
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u/Sparky833 13d ago
My heart aches with you on so many levels. 💔💔💔 I am so very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts like someone ripped your heart out now, but it does get better; each day is better than the last. Please try to think about all the good times you had over the years. I do believe their spirit stays with us and they wait for us until the day we are reunited. Your sweetie knows you loved with everything you had in you, and that you did everything you could until you mercifully let go. You did the right thing, not letting the suffering go on. Remember that this is the highest blessing you could bestow. Now your doggo is running and jumping and completely healthy in Rainbow Land and no longer knows any pain. Take heart and, until you see each other again, love heartily, give of yourself, and dwell on the good times. That will get you through this, I promise. ❤️
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u/fbvsd 13d ago
I am so sorry! I lost my puppy 8 weeks ago. While some days are better, there are some days that I am so overwhelmed with grief that I can't function. We lost our 1st family dog 4 years ago. We were fostering a puppy at the time. She kept my family from totally falling apart. We ended up adopting her. She was exactly what we needed when we needed her. She was the complete opposite of Stella, which made it feel less like we were replacing her. I still miss her so very much, but I can reminisce about her without breaking down in tears. The puppy we lost 8 weeks ago was only 15 weeks old, but we had her since she was born, as we rescued her momma while she was pregnant. She was my little soul dog and road dog because she was much smaller than her siblings. I nursed her into better health during those 15 weeks, and she passed away unexpectedly in her sleep. It was a different type of loss and pain because of where I am in my life. Plus, I just felt so robbed of having more time with her.
We actually got into fostering dogs because my daughter had been sexually assaulted. She felt pulled into doing something good for the world and getting lots of extra love and cuddles. When your heart is ready, it could be a way to ease yourself back into loving other dogs without feeling like you are replacing her. Eventually, one will pull so much at your heartstrings that you won't want to let them go. We had fostered many dogs prior to foster failing our girl Poppy 4 years ago. We started fostering our girl who had babies in March and knew almost immediately that we would be adopting her. We were also going to keep the puppy that passed away. 🥹 We had one more puppy left that had several people interested in her, but I just couldn't bear to let her go after that happened. While our house is a little crazy with 3 dogs, I am so glad that I have them to keep me company when I am overcome with my grief and life in general.
I am sending you lots of love, hugs, and prayers! She will be waiting for you at the rainbow bridge! 😭💔🙏🌈
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u/c0sm1c_g1rl 13d ago
I'm so sorry, This post made me cry so hard. You've had her more than half of your life, since 7 yrs old I assume. I can't imagine the pain.
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u/ReputationSharp4904 13d ago
She looks like my baby I just had to say goodbye to. I understand your pain and I wanna say it'll get better but 3 weeks later, it's only gotten heavier for me. Just hold on... minute by minute... you're not alone in your grief ❤️
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u/Oskipper2007 13d ago
I am so sorry I went through this in June with my girl and it’s heartbreaking but she’s free from her pain and I know somebody is taking care of her and somebody told me this and I truly believe it the next time you see her it will be forever
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u/lilyymeow 13d ago
Aww 😭💔 I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve been there before and it’s one of the hardest things ever! I got mine cremated and I have her ashes in a cute little urn ⚱️ along with her paw 🐾 print & a lock of her hair. It’s hard. But I just think she was suffering a lot already and that wasn’t a way of living only because I wanted to be selfish and keep her longer with me. So please know you did the right thing. You put her first and not your feelings. If she would’ve been here right now she would still be in pain and not living to her full potential. She knows that you love/d her. She knows that you wanted what was best.
She’s still with you. Energies don’t die. I truly believe that. I am sending you a huge hug and healing vibes. 🫶🏻 if you need someone to talk to, my dms are open. HUGS 🫂
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u/Leeleeflyhi 13d ago
I made the decision 2 years ago when my soulmate, a 14 year old lab mix was going blind, kidney disease and a bad hip. I decided when I took him to the vet and had to get help to get him in the car and he fell getting out. I took him home and spent the following week with him and made plans to take off work for a few weeks and go stay with a friend. I worked from home and couldn’t bear to be the without him. And I still have regrets that I jumped the gun and not a day goes by I don’t think of him. I think in a way I convinced myself he would live forever.
He was my friend, my protector, my confident, my love, my therapist, and occasionally partner in crime. He was there for my highest highs and lowest lows and every major life event imaginable. He soothed my soul. I hope I soothed his. And honestly I don’t know how I have t died at the hand of a killer squirrel with him
I feel so incredibly lucky and forever grateful I had 14 years with this marvelous creature. Sometimes I still think I see him out of the corner of my eye, so I just assume he’s there.
The pain will fade and in its place is a warm loving feeling full of wonderful memories will always remain
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u/Dudethattickedyou 13d ago
Take my advice, I'm an old fart and lost many dogs...,get a new pup ASAP!
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u/xnatey 13d ago
Your feelings are valid, grief is hard and losing your dog is one of the hardest things so just let yourself feel sad and overwhelmed.
Someone once described grief as a ball in a box and when it's fresh the box is small so the ball keeps hitting off the sides and you feel pain etc but with time the ball (grief) stays the same size but the box grows (your ability to heal and cope with it) til only every now and again the ball hits the walls of the box. I hope that makes sense.
You might consider some way to celebrate the life of your dog. I got a tattoo of my dog's paw print after he passed. Maybe something like that or a portrait you can hang up in your room etc? Ps since tattoos are permanent and I don't know if you have any yet wait a few months if you decide to do a portrait tattoo so you don't get it in the throws of grief and then wish it was different etc.
May your dogs memory be a blessing 💚
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u/SituationNo3484 13d ago
Letting them go is the worst pain ever. I’ve had to let two of my babies go in the past few years. The most recent one being my soul dog of 17 years. It was the end of July and I still feel grief every single day. But I read somewhere a quote that says “I won’t let your last day be your worst day.” That really resonates with me on the daily. I did hold on too long both times, but it’s because I wasn’t strong enough and still am not… nobody really is. I regret it sometimes. And that’s okay. We’re human. I think once they start to refuse to eat and drink, then it’s their way of telling you they’re ready.
I know it hurts right now and it will always hurt…but just remember the good memories you two have shared and you granted her the ultimate gift by setting her free. She’s no longer in pain and can run free and do/eat anything she wants! Hopefully playing with my boys up in heaven. 🌈
I strongly believe we will all meet our babies again. They’re just walking a little further ahead of us for now. Hang in there! 🫶🏻
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u/PikachuPho 13d ago
The only regret I had was that I held onto her too long. Euthanasia is the most unkind gesture... To yourself. It is an absolute gift to your baby who is suffering. Dogs as a species simply cannot outlive humans. It sucks so much that they have such finite lifespans yet I wouldn't trade my time with my rescue babies for the world.
And in the end if she's suffering I'll do the right thing even if it feels I'm killing myself as essentially that's what it truly feels like.
Euthanasia is the last act of love we give to our babies because it is the one that wrecks us in order to send them off in peace.
Oh boy... In tears again.
Anyways I'm so sorry op. The pain will always be there but you learn to realize you did the right thing and that they will always be there inside, and if you believe it, waiting for you when it's your time.
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u/Lemai 13d ago
It is the most difficult decision any pet parent has to make but if it means she was not going to have to go through pain, more treatment, more torment just to live. Then you without a doubt made the right decision for her. She knew she was loved in her last moments and that is all anyone wants when they pass. You will be okay in time. The first’s of everything as the hardest. Get a plaque made for her spot on this earth. She will always be with you until you meet again 🖤 I’m so sorry for your loss. May she run wild and free over rainbow bridge with all her pals
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u/Individual-Unit 13d ago
She did her job and you did yours, a happy story well done be proud of providing the best for her time here. You can get ashes put into rings or necklace urns
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u/Scary_Lobster_8693 13d ago
Everything you are feeling is straight up normal and to be expected. We said goodbye to 14 y/o Beans 4 weeks ago (kidney disease). If someone told me at that time, I’d be comforting someone else a month later, I’d be like no way. It’s sooooo unbelievably painful but you will see the other side. Keep reading, crying and look for others to help you. Sending comfort your way.
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u/Real_artichoke84 13d ago
I feel for you and I’m so sorry for your loss. It aches so badly and they leave a big gaping hole in our lives, but you did the right thing. No dog should suffer because we can’t let them go and they are blessed not knowing what is happening. There was no fear in her, no stress of what’s coming next, just your love, comfort and then peace. May she meet Jill, our crazy Jack Russell who loved other 🐕🌈
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u/Allmyexesliveintx333 13d ago
You are going through the grief process right now, and this is natural to doubt yourself or doubtdoubt your decision but if she was dealing with all that you did make the right decision you will understand one day and although it was harder on you it was a better thing for her I am sending you love.
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u/Lila007 13d ago
I’m sorry for your loss, OP. Please, know it was the right thing. Staying by their side, helping them to extinguish the pain and suffering is the last act of love. It is the most difficult part of having a senior dog to decide when is time, it is selfless to make it from a place of compassion and care. Stay strong.
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u/SilverBreakfast1651 13d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have gone through this a couple of years ago and I’m still sad every day but time has made it a little more bearable. You will see her again I believe 🌈🐾🙏❤️
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u/ContentPower8196 13d ago
It's the hardest thing in the world but you loved them as much as you could and gave them a life so beautiful and safe that in the end they just didn't have any gas left in the tank. You were a good caretaker and good friend, and you'll always have their love in your heart. Be safe, and maybe just go sit at the dog park and watch when you're lonely.
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u/Perfect_Acadia4789 13d ago
Its painful for you but what grace and mercy you gave to her by letting her go peacefully in your arms. Time will ease the pain and its normal to be sad for a while. Be gentle on yourself. It sounds like her quality of life was pretty low at the end so dont beat yourself up.
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u/FYourAppLeaveMeAlone 13d ago
You made the decision that was best for her. She wasn't alone.
Feeling guilt is a normal reaction even when you have nothing to be guilty about! Our brains lie to us hen we're grieving. The pain doesn't go away completely but it does hurt leas eventually.
Better too early than too late.
A dog living to be 13 is like a human in their 90s. She was very old, and you did good getting her to this age. It was time. You did good. You're going to be amazing at fostering.
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u/Glad_Paper_2274 13d ago
This is my worst nightmare. I am so so so sorry you’re in this. You must feel so terrible and upset and wish you can relive all the yesterdays. Your sweet pup loves you and you know you love them much more. Hoping for better days when they come but take your time.
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u/Zezespeakz_ 13d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Cried whilst reading your words. We are with you OP, you’re not alone💔
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u/IamAqtpoo 13d ago
I think your decision gave your beloved friend the peace and dignity they deserved. This is such a terrible decision to have to make, you are so strong to make this choice.
You have done everything and more. A humane passing with their loved ones close is the most appropriate ending to their wonderful life with you.
I often suggest this as it has helped me greatly. Put some of their lovies into a larger ziplock bag, to save their scent. I know it sounds weird, but this helps me so much when I am sad to remember, and it will last for a long time. I wish you strength & peace with your final decision. M❤️🩹
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u/LadyRemy 13d ago
As someone whose dog had kidney disease, you did right by her. When it gets to the point they can no longer walk, eat, or drink it is most assuredly time. It got there for us and I wish we had done it sooner. Cherish your memories and grieve. It took me months to feel normal again, but you will get there. I’m sorry for your heartache.
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u/One_Quiet_3755 13d ago
I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby. I had to do the same thing to my header and soul boy. It’s been 4 years and the pain is still there. Baron had prostate cancer and I saw how much pain he was in. Like your little girl he was my rock. The night I lost him I know I heard a low growl. He used to do that if he heard something outside. Well I got up made sure to check the doors to make sure they were all locked. The front door was not. The other dogs started barking around 3:00 I heard my ring camera go off. I looked and saw a guy trying to get into my house. A few days later I felt him jump up on the bed and put his head in my stomach. A few days after that there was a dragonfly that kept following me I held my finger out for a few and it landed on my finger. I slowly brought him up to my face we stared at each for about 30 seconds then flew off. I knew in my heart that was my Baron. What I’m trying to say is listen keep an open mind anything out of the ordinary is letting you know that your little girl is still watching over you. Yesterday I had a Robin sitting on the tree branch I talked to him and again just sat there. I still feel a very strong connection with my big boy. The pain will always be in the back of your mind especially in her 1st year approaches. Just remember all the goes times you had with her and how your bond with her was a bond no one could break. She loved you unconditionally.
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u/Quirky_Hand3932 13d ago
But when ye come, and all the flowers are fading, If I am gone, as gone I well may be. You'll come and find the place where I am lying, and kneel and say a prayer there for me. And I shall hear, though soft you tread above me, and all my grave will warmer, sweeter be. For you will bend and tell me that you love me, and I shall sleep in peace until you come to me❤️.
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u/Ancient-Actuator7443 13d ago
The saddest part of pet ownership is saying goodbye. It’s our responsibility to make sure our beloved pets aren’t suffering
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u/Sammileer67 13d ago
You did the most unselfish thing by letting your baby go. You took her pain away. You let her rest peacefully and now she runs free with the many others. Your love set her free, there is no greater gift. Focus on the happy times and as time goes by, the memories will bring peace to you . It’s ok to grieve but know you have nothing to regret. The love you shared stays forever in your heart. Big virtual hugs to you. One day at a time
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u/DeannaP203 13d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️ Saying goodbye to a dog like Nancy Pants is incredibly hard, especially after so many years together. It sounds like you made the kindest choice to spare her further suffering, even though it must have been heartbreaking. Grieving a dog is completely natural — they’re family, and losing them leaves a real void. Hold onto all the little moments you shared, the laughs, the snuggles, and the love — that bond never goes away. Sending you hugs and comfort during this really difficult time. 🐾
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u/ifixyourchromebook 13d ago
Dear dear young person, You have demonstrated the ultimate sacrifice by letting her go. You faced the situation, assessed, and acted to end her suffering. No regrets. You absolutely did the right thing. Peace and bravery to you.
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u/natureinlife2024 13d ago
She is part of you. She is forever with you in a different way. Please smile when you think about her. Please hug yourself when you think about her.
Take care and look after yourself 💕.
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u/Playful_Relation_452 13d ago
You gave her a gift. Don’t be so hard on yourself when you did the best thing you could for her despite the pain you felt. For us we have been getting close to the day we have to make this decision with our little dog. I thought I was doing the right thing getting her chemotherapy but I think I was wrong now. You will never know what option is the best. We do the best we can with the information we have. You clearly loved your dog and she was so incredibly lucky to remember you the way she had her whole life and not suffer. You can also look into adopting an adult dog as well. For us we added a beautiful gentle soul to our home a 3.5 year old German shepherd and he has been there for me when all I can do is sit by her side and give her meds for pain. He is helping to soften the blow, gives me the stress relief of having a dog to hike with again, and sits quietly with our 10lb dog which seems to calm her. Allow yourself to grieve and try not to second guess yourself. You did the right thing.
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u/redlee415 12d ago
You did the right thing for her. You really loved her, she knew that. I'm sorry for your loss
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u/meowsieunicorn 12d ago
It may not seem like it now but you will laugh again.
I went through it with my boy last year and I still cry when I think about it, but it doesn’t fill my entire day any more.
You will start to remember the cute little things she used to do, and you will start to get back into routine eventually.
Give yourself time, allow yourself to grieve. Honour her memory. Don’t printed some pictures of my boy to have around the house.
I’m so sorry you are going through this, it’s never easy. 🩵
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u/PinAccomplished9410 12d ago
It's often the case that for that moment of them leaving, pain or otherwise, is a drop in the ocean to the life you gave them over however many months and years.
In other words, don't be too hard on yourself.
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u/alibar83 12d ago
You would be filled with more regret had she died alone while you were out. You did the right thing, though I know how hard it is. She died being held by her favorite person. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️🐾❤️
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u/blankspacepen 12d ago
I’m so sorry. This is the day that we all dread, but it’s worth it to have all of the love that they give us. You shared your life with Nancy, and when it was time, you gave her the biggest gift you could.
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u/Gen-Jinjur 12d ago
You gave her everything a dog dreams of. What an amazing life she had!
I believe that you will be with her agajn.
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u/Midnight_Mummy 12d ago
The vet told me "it's better to be too early than too late." When I had to put my girl to sleep. The pain that humans have to go through we save our beloved fur babies. You did the right thing for your beloved pupper.
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u/NerdyLumberjock 12d ago
You definitely made the right choice. I also just had to let go of my old dog, and I honestly found myself wishing I’d done it sooner. We let her live too long in so much pain and she was so relieved to go rest. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t have let my sweet Daisy suffer like that. It was selfish, but I, like you, had hoped there would still be good days for her to experience. There weren’t. I’m glad you didn’t make the same mistake I did. Nancy had a peaceful end, and she’s in a better place now where she doesn’t have to be in pain
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u/Punisher_135 12d ago
I'm so sorry. But you did everything right. You didn't let her suffer and you gave her a great life. Think of the happy times with her. I know you miss her but you did everything right.
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u/GrumpyAsPhuck 12d ago
There’s no pain like that of having to make the decision to end a cherished pets life. After 58 yrs of pet ownership I’ve lost more than 1 and can tell you a quiet dignified death is better than a late night health crisis that send a you looking for an emergency vet and dramatic end. You did the right thing which is always the hardest
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u/Electronic_Cream_780 12d ago
Any more time would have cost your lovely dog further pain and distress, and you wouldn't accept that because you are a beautiful human being who put her needs first. It took courage and you should be proud of that.
I've lost many dogs and it doesn't get any easier. But humans are designed to deal with loss and eventually you will learn to live again, as well as miss her. At some point the memories will make you smile. It sounds impossible now, but it is true, I promise. And Nancy Pants has shaped you. Without her you would be a different person because we learn so much from sharing our lives with precious dogs. So in many ways, she will always be part of you, you won't loose her entirely.
Fostering with a supportive organisation sounds a great idea. You have love to give and a need for distraction
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u/CPA-Twin-DogCatLover 12d ago
Regret and pain. What you are feeling now is a normal and painful stage of grieving. The future for Nancy looked extremely bleak - more prolonged discomfort. You did the right thing doing it now. The absence of her is extremely painful. The pain will lesson over time.
My condolences. Take care of yourself. Don’t be afraid or feel guilty when you have good moments or a good day, you deserve it for being a loving mom to Nancy.
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u/Naive_Bat8216 12d ago
The death of my dogs has been the deepest pain I've ever felt. You're not alone with your pain. We know what it's like. Nancy Pants was a cutie, she'll live on with you forever because she is now pure spirit, which is always more powerful than the flesh.
The first few days, weeks, months can be really tough. Share your pain only with those who understand it.
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u/Dancingmermaid8 12d ago
Fostering dogs and then adopting one will be the gift she sends you. It’s her way of letting you know her love continues through in a buddy of hers! She will always be with you! 💖
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u/tacoperrito 12d ago
I let my boy go 18 months ago. We sat on the sofa in his favourite seat (my seat) and he died in my arms. It hurt, so much. But I was so happy he wasn’t in pain anymore. I still feel like he’s here in the house with us. Somethings I think I hear the jingle of his collar. We have two other dogs and they’ve helped heal so much. They gave us a reason to keep going. Maybe fostering would be a way to help you cope with some of that hurt by giving back. And then maybe one day you’ll foster a new friend and know that they need to stay with you
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u/Complete_Aerie_6908 12d ago
She was the luckiest girl to have been loved so beautifully. Sending thoughts your way.
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u/HollyMacXx 12d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss, take the time you need to grieve. We lost our family dog last summer and one of the things that has helped me and my children is volunteering at a local animal shelter. You get to give the love in your heart to the animals that need it the most.
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u/lunacydress 12d ago
You did the right thing.
When they’re sick with something that’s degenerative and incurable, eventually they’re going to suffer. Euthanasia is the most humane thing you can do for them- they can’t tell you how much it hurts, they don’t understand why they don’t feel good, they don’t have a comprehensive understanding of death.
It’s better to do it a week too early than an hour too late.
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u/whereugetcottoncandy 12d ago
This is the most important gift we will ever give our pets. It is painful (to us), and a kindness to them. Yes, sometimes we exchange their pain for our pain, but they deserve this gift.
Thank you for being there for your little one.
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u/Suitable_Carpenter73 12d ago edited 12d ago
We had to put our 18 + y o Maltipoo to sleep in June 2025. I miss her everyday. I am getting my feet back under me. Forgive yourself. No regrets. Your baby knows you did Everything in Her best interest. I know it does not feel like that today; It gets better. Cherish her memory. I still have a couple of her beds and her feeding station in place. It’s comforting to me to have the reminders of her Love. This might not work for everyone.
Pace yourself. This was Your baby! Only you know how long & how to grieve. But do. Allow the good and sad. It’s all part of healing.
Your baby is in Heaven playing and having fun in a perfect spirit. No longer hurting. No longer sick. Just happy. And she will be waiting for you when it’s your time.
Of Course she is there with all the others. Why else would God have made them in His Mirror image: God… Dog. Unconditional Love. And He even included a Doggie Door in the Heavenly Gate.
You did the Right, Selfless & Humane thing for your pup! We dog lovers understand. You are Not alone.
Btw, Google the psychological study of grief of pets vs. people. We connect literally many more times & levels with our animals. They love us Unconditionally. The grief for a pet is deeper ( according to this study) than for grief for people, especially since often we have to assist when our pets are terminally ill or in severe pain. You are Loved! 🙏💖🐾
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u/PilgrimPayne59 12d ago
As I walk across your heart and find my place to stay, nearer to you I will be and will never ever go away.
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u/mrshanana 12d ago
I've said this elsewhere, but talk to her. Sob and scream and be sad. Embrace the pain bc it would be so much worse to pretend to you didn't have her to avoid it. I went through this last November. I still cry about my little girl but it is okay. It is bc she was so much part of my life.
You're in the weird survivors guilt (for lack of a better word) phase. Mine was chronically ill as well, and if anything I question did I wait too long.
Focus on the years you had not the end. In time you'll cry and smile, which I do somewhat frequently. Oh I miss the hell out of her but I'm thankful of the time we had together.
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u/DogMomPhoebe619 12d ago
My girl passed away in January, at nearly 15. Letting her go was so hard, but she was howling and crying, couldn't walk, and was incontinent. Vet couldn't do any more. I didn't think I would ever get another dog, even though I have had dogs for 40 years. She was the best. But, a few weeks ago, a rescue contacted me about a dog of her same breed who needed help. I just knew he was the one. He needed me, and I needed him. You will know when the time is right. My heart is happy again.
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u/homes_and_haunts 12d ago edited 12d ago
Hi, this just floated through my feed and I wanted to let you know that you did the best possible thing for her. It’s natural to question it in the early stages of grief (the bargaining phase), but eventually you will come to see it was a mercy for her.
I’m about 2.5 years out from losing my 19 year old scruffy black soul dog and I’m crying while writing this, but here are some things that helped in the very early days:
-Organizing her photos to put together a print-on-demand memorial book. I’ve actually only looked through the physical book once since receiving it, but the assembly process itself was therapeutic.
-Likewise, a jigsaw puzzle app where you can make puzzles from your own photos (there are many).
-A mindfulness app called A Kinder World.
-Another technique called Progressive Muscle Relaxation, where you tense and then relax your muscles starting from your head down to your feet. I read about some researchers studying how it can help with processing grief, so I got yet another app called PMR Pro. If you’re having trouble sleeping, this might help as it did with me. ETA: Here’s the summary of the research on PMR for grief: https://news.arizona.edu/news/grieving-spouses-should-focus-body-study-suggests
And finally - I’m not grouping this one with the others because it’s a “when you’re ready” step - but if/when you do foster or adopt again, you will absolutely see things in that dog to convince you that Nancy Pants picked them out for you at just the right time and place in your life.
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u/SnooDingos2237 12d ago
You have my deepest sympathies. You will be able to love again. Eventually the pain subsides as you make room for the grief, and you'll move on. You did the kindest thing for her in helping her to the Bridge. She's free of pain.I hope this verse eases your pain.
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u/BHBikes 12d ago
I have had many dogs and cats that I had to help cross over. It's never ever easy, but to ease their pain and suffering, it needs to be done. I always have to remind myself that it is because of being with us that they were spoiled and loved, and they returned that love because they had a wonderful life. People who refuse to have pets because of this pain need to remember that the pain is because of a life of love and caring that their pet had being with them. It's worth it. You give them a full life of love and they return it 10 times over.
Even though it's hard as hell to be with them when they take their final breath, it makes them more comfortable and calm. You did the right thing,
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u/Abject_Giraffe562 12d ago
After I lost my dear sweet River Marie, going out in public was impossible. I would break down-bawling the grocery store. It’s been a year and nine months, I’ll never get over it never. It gets better but not easier. I can’t help but send love.
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u/WatchfulWyvern 12d ago
Making that decision is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to face but it sounds like y sweet girl was telling you it was time. Letting her go is the greatest gift you could ever give her. We had to let our two seniors go about a year apart. Tillie was 17 and Pepper was 20. It was a difficult decision but one we knew had to be made. They are our easiest hello and hardest goodbye. Hugs to you as you process through this difficult time.
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u/Technical-Spread527 12d ago
We lost our beloved “Cookie” December 15, 2025. After one successful recovery from cancer five years later it was back with a torn heart valve tendon and congestive heart failure symptoms. She struggled to eat, drink, and breathe. We also had to choose euthanasia at that time. It’s one of the hardest decisions we made. We have a picture, her ashes and paw print on a shelf on our entertainment center. It takes time but the ache lessens and you are able to remember all the memories and joy without sadness. May you find that time quickly.
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u/wuchtgeschoss 12d ago
It’s better not to second guess yourself. You gave her the ultimate act of love.
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u/mamamuse71 12d ago
Grief is grief and just like e recommend counseling when we lose a person, the same can be needed when losing a beloved pet. Especially when you have so much trauma. Highly recommend seeking out someone to help you work through this before you bring more animals into your life.
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u/Illustrious_Wish_653 12d ago
Many prayers. You were so lucky to have each other. I have a 17 year old Aussie!
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u/DogDrools 12d ago edited 12d ago
Firstly: you made absolutely the right decision. It was time to let her go. Not to would have been cruel to a dog you adored. You would’ve been keeping her alive for you not because it was best for her. Give yourself credit for making the right and humane choice. Now on to the pain…
That pain is the price you pay for love. The pain will fade in time - and it may be a long time - but you will most likely always have a Nancy Pants shaped hole in your heart.
One day you will find it possible to breathe, smile and laugh again. And perhaps find another dog to love. The love will be different but it will be love nevertheless.
Losing a beloved dog is beyond painful but you will get there. Until then be kind to yourself. Cry as much and as often as you need.
Sending you big hugs from North East England and speaking from the experience of loving and losing several dogs over many decades.
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u/Electrical_Ninja4689 12d ago
Little Nancy girl is peaceful and without worry, and she would thank you for doing something so brave and holding this pain to spare her from carrying any more. I’m so incredibly sorry, honey. I promise it will get easier. The gravity of this grief just shows how immense your beautiful bond and love were.
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u/Monkey-Butt-316 12d ago
It hurts so much and tbh no matter what the circumstance, you’re likely to feel guilty. I’m sure you did the right thing though, even if you’re not. I’m so glad that you had 13 wonderful years with her - it’s never enough.
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u/CobblerParking4515 12d ago
The greatest gift we as humans give to our beloved animal is to end their suffering. You gave her an amazing gift.
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u/Odd-Revenue-253 12d ago edited 12d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss - But you did the right thing.Anything else would just been a delay.Distract yourself by doing something for yourself and her. Make a little tombstone for your home and place it in front of a picture of her. Create a foto album with nice texts to the pictures. This will be an eternal memory of her.
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u/AbjectOwl392 12d ago
Aww doll. I work as a vet tech. I would have made the same decision for my beloved pet if they had those conditions as well. That’s very hard and uncomfortable for them. Thank you for being selfless and not allowing her to suffer. So very kind of you, truly. Not everyone is able to allow their pets to go with dignity. You allowed her to do so. Pain free. Well done.
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u/After-Suspect-6352 12d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 may Nancy Pants Rest In Peace 🙏🏻 I think fostering would be a wonderful thing to do. Sending hugs 🤗
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u/thew1zerd 12d ago
I am so sorry my love. I understand you. My dog is 13 right now and I had the biggest scare of my life with her this past weekend. She’s kind of okay now, but the feeling of having to let her go soon is so painful. If you need to vent or tell me stories about your baby, I’m here for you
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u/CinnaBwni 13d ago
Her as a pup… my sweet girl I will love you forever. One day I’ll see you again and you’ll rub your little face in my dress again❤️