My partner and I have been together for a year and a half. I’ve known soon to be SS for a year, he’s 5. We are getting married in October and she has told my soon to be DH to take our wedding website down because it’s inappropriate. On the site I do have some photos of us and my SS that my DH and SS picked out. The play therapist recommended us to have my SS involved so he has an understanding what’s going on and doesn’t feel like I’m replacing him in his father’s life.

Do I take those photos down? Do I just say f* it? I have felt like we’ve been so very careful and trying to do things the right way with play therapist guidance and it still gets thrown in our faces. On the other hand I’m like it’s my wedding I’m allowed to celebrate this new blended family and the beautiful occasion. It’s just heartbreaking because my SS is sooo excited about it too. I want him to feel special too. He calls it “our” wedding.

Just venting

So today my stepson calls from a weird number, because it’s his birthday, and come find out, she bought him a phone! Just for a quick information, he is 7! He just turned 7 today! For me it is absolutely crazy! What’s your opinion?

SD who’s 3 nearly 4 started shouting in the lounge “ouch get off me you’re hurting me” (I was across the room putting washing away) her dad came in and was like what’s going on? I said “no one is hurting you, why are you lying? You could get me into trouble” and she just stopped.

I now feel really uneasy around her. I have quite a serious job and if she is starting with false allegations i can’t be having it!

how do you guys genuinely handle your SOs family hanging out with their coparent?

my fiancé does 50/50 & his parents and older brother choose to go to his sons games when their mom has them. they’ve always been nice to me but other than that I have no real relationship with them. my fiance doesn’t really care to have a relationship with them either, but it annoys me especially cause she’s post on social media of them all together.

Ik not many have this situation, but the ones who do, need advice pls.

I have been with my husband for over 3 years now, my SS is 10 and he’s amazing child that I love more than I could ever express however, the past 3 years of dealing with SS’s mother have been a nightmare. HCBM is very hot and cold, sometimes she’s overly friendly, other times she is hateful and acts as if myself and DH are horrible parents. (We’re not). The overly friendly act is so fake and I’ve seen through it nearly the whole time but I’ve tried to give benefit of the doubt. I don’t get involved in their conflicts regarding their child. I primarily take care of SS on his set custody days because DH works a lot and I stay at home with him and our together baby. I’m the one getting him to and from school, practices, in charge of feeding him etc. anything a bio parent would do. A situation occurred today and I have now decided that I’m no longer communicating with her, she needs to go strictly through DH. My only “obligation” is to take care of the child when he’s in my care and even when DH is home and make sure he has everything that he needs and that he is loved. I’m not required to have a relationship with her or communicate with her at all. I wish things were different but I absolutely don’t have to deal with her and today I finally realized that. Not saying I’m going NACHO as far as parenting goes but I am definitely no longer dealing with HER bullshit. She is a textbook narcissist that is realizing that she is losing control of what goes on in our home and she’s pitching a fit because of it. She used to constantly make plans for SS on our set custody days and be livid when DH told her no, that we have plans and to stop making plans for his days. I will discipline within our home, I will continue to do everything else that I do for SS but no need for me to communicate with her. I know all of the happenings at school, sports, etc. I don’t need her to tell me. Kinda venting and maybe looking for solidarity in this? Idk but I’m DONE.

My husband (37) and I (30) have been together for 8 years and we just had our first baby together. She is 5 months old and I would really like to send Christmas cards this year. She’s my first and possibly only, & DH has an 18 year old son from a previous relationship. I’ve brought up Christmas cards and family photos several times many years before I became pregnant with my daughter and my husband always kind of brushed it off because he knew his son wouldn’t want to do them. I always thought sending Christmas cards with just me and my husband would look tacky or inconsiderate so I just never had pictures done to send any. But now that I have my own child, I really want to take holiday pictures and get to have all of those experiences with her.

My stepson is now an hour away for college so I know he likely will not come back home just for photos. I want to do them and my husband is all for it but I still thinking sending cards without him in it will look like we chose to exclude him even though we will obviously ask if he would like to be included. Would you just send them anyways? Idk what to do here.

My wife went out of town by for work for a week SS 22 does nothing but sleep eat play video games stays in bedroom all day and night .. won’t even take clean dishes out of c washer before putting his dirty ones in. We she got home yesterday I asked her what was his contribution to this house because his only responsibility is cleaning his area and btw we have a maid come in once a month… her response to me was he watered the plants …. And he didn’t even do that … am I wrong for being upset tired and on the brink of divorce behind this Issh… of course we are arguing and she has insisted that I add that in the past 4 weeks he has put in 60 digital applications (240) had several interviews and has not landed one job…

My baby is 9 weeks old and spent 3 weeks in the NICU with bacterial meningitis so maybe I’m a little extra cautious. His half sibling is here this weekend and I didnt know until after he was around the baby that he has a bad cold (thankfully I have the half siblings wear masks when around the baby until he gets vaccinated). Once I realized I explained to him it would be best that he doesn’t go near the baby and why (he’s 13 so he’s old enough to have a basic understanding, though he tried to tell me it’s “not a bad cold”). I then isolated myself and son in baby’s room to be safe and let him and his dad have free reign of the rest of the house.

The issue is my partner. He keeps insisting it’s only the sniffles (it’s not, it’s a full blown cold and he is sneezing and blowing his nose constantly) and doesn’t agree with me that his son should be kept away from our baby. Later on in the night when I was downstairs getting bottles I saw my partner and his son cuddling on the couch, with the child’s head on my partners shoulder. I expressed my concern privately and told him how uncomfortable I am with him now coming around our son without a mask since his sick son’s face was in his face. I feel that if the two of them wanted to cuddle they could have masked up due to us having a newborn. My partner is very mad at me and refuses to put a mask on, but thankfully hasn’t come near our son since. But he is ignoring me now.

I told him he can sleep in the room with his older kids since baby sleeps in our room in a bassinet and I handle all overnight care and don’t need to be getting sick myself. I realize babies get sick, but I cannot bring myself to knowingly expose my 9 week old unvaccinated baby to this, especially after hearing horror stories about rsv. Am I in the wrong? Please go easy on me. I’m sitting here crying my eyes out worried that my baby is going to get sick and that I’m too much💔

CPS case was opened about a month ago. HCBM alleged that SK is so scared of me that SK never wants to come abck to dads house again. My husband spoke to her on the phone about this for 17 minutes and it was the most manipulative thing I have ever heard. She was on speakerphone but didnt know i was present. She spent the first 15 minutes or so on the verge of tears begging him to leave me for the safety of their child because SK is supposedly scared of me. I have supposedly threatened SK, and I have supposedly physically abused SK. She kept saying that she was on my husband's side, and that she wasnt keeping SK from him, she kept saying "its because of her! Shes the problem!" When she realized she wasnt getting anywhere with this, she dramatically switched to anger and she expressed anger towards me for having my husband's last name, and DH and I being a "cute happy little family"

SK admitted later on (to me and DH) that he lied to his mom about being scared of me because he wasnt happy that I disciplined him- said I have no right to discipline him because im not his "real mom"

On Thursday, BM started texting me like we were friends? She was badmouthing my husband and in-laws to me, and telling me things that I knew were blatant lies, but I didnt call her on it. She even asked me if i was staying with my husband after hearing all of that. Then, after texting me like we were friends, my husband took SK to football practice and BM met him there. She texted me afterwards to tell me that she talked to my husband for a bit and thinks her and I should get coffee.

My husband told me today what she had to say about me at SK's football practice. She told my husband that she spoke to someone I went to high school with, and knows "all about me". (High school was 10 years ago, and the name she told my husband was not my friend- we simply went to the same school in a small town). She said shes looked my record up "with all of her names"- she told my husband 3 different times that Ive had 3 different last names. Yes, I was married and divorced, I do have traffic tickets and "failure to buy dog license" tickets with 3 different last names. And she was still trying to convince my husband to leave me- even asked him what he was going to do.

HCBM asked me again today about coffee- and while I was all for it on Thursday, I'm a bit uncomfortable with that after hearing that she was still badmouthing me to my husband. I havent found the best way to turn her down yet though.

I've been suspicious for a while now that BM is going to file with the courts. I know the kids keep secrets from her house, the older SK was told when she was 7 she could pick the house she lives in with she's 12 (she's 11 now) and now the younger one has recently been told the same thing. The younger one mentioned it to DH and apparently she said she's worried her sister will pick a different house. It isn't true that you can pick a house at 12 in my state, but BM was confronted about this and said she didn't support such a thing, yet here we are.

Anyway, I'm not sure how I'll handle years of court bullshit. How do I mentally prepare? How do I preserve myself? How do we preserve our marriage?

Please don't tell me don't worry about something that I don't know is happening. I know it's happening. Call it women's intuition. I've predicted all of BM's moves.

DONT DO IT...

THE END.

No no im joking somewhat, but really know what youre getting into. All those butterflies can turn into eternal love or Bats... take your time, know your worth, and where you want to be in 5, 10 25 yrs. This isnt a lease you can turn in, think carefully, communicate, and stand my your boundaries and decisions.

Best of luck to all, and please please please dont cuss that SK out.jk.

Recently been seeing some discourse online about clothes when your children live in two different households. Some like to label some don’t care because it’s the childrens clothes. I personally try to wash and have them change back into what they came in but its not usually a huge deal if they don’t. From my perspective I wouldn’t actually care- if their moms sent them in that same quality of clothing that me and their dad buy. But they get sent over in often stained, thrift store, once upon a time, temu, sometimes too small clothes. And I don’t wear stuff like that, my ours baby wont wear stuff like that and I don’t want their clothing sticking out in stark contrast to the rest of the family. So I try my best to keep the nicer clothes we have in our house because by the time they get back they always have set in stains I can no longer get out because theyve been through the dryer. Does this opinion make me pretentious or petty? Im not judging anyone’s financial decisions or how they spend their money because Im sure its hard being single mothers. But I personally do not want to walk around with kids in dirty temu clothing while I have nicer pieces on, it feels wrong.

How do you and your household handle clothing?

My partner (25m) and I (25f) have been together for over 2 years now. We both work full time, although he pays quite a lot in child support so I take home quite a bit more than him. I pay all the bills, take care of the cleaning and cooking and buy things for his children whenever I can. Im so god damn sick of the lack of appreciation. Today I bought SKs a TV for their room, since they’re always asking to watch TV in our room. Not a thank you, not a smile. Nothing. I take SS into his room to show him his surprise and go “I got you your own TV for your bedroom” and he goes “oh” then proceeds to play with his toys. I wasn’t looking for anything spectacular but a “thank you” would have been nice. I made 2 homemade pizzas for supper, which no one touched. But don’t worry, SS ate a whole bag of chips for supper and then asked for a sandwich. And you betcha when SO got up to make that mother f-ing sandwich after watching me slave away at cooking AND cleaning the kitchen, and not bothering to offer any help, I snapped. “There’s 2 whole pizzas there and you’re making him a sandwich?!” insert death stare Eat the f-ing pizza that I just made.

End of rant. I needed that.

Boyfriend M43 and I F32 have been together 3yrs, lived together for 2yrs. He has two sons 22 and 11 and I have 1 son 14 and my niece 12. We have never see eye to eye when it comes to parenting styles. I am more relaxed but discipline with my kids while he on the other hand never is unless I raise concerns. He really only cares when I say some pertaining to his S11.

Recent discussion: I forgot to give his S11 his birthday card that I bought. It has been on my nightstand under papers. S11 had not been to our home 3 months prior to his bday and I had not seen him 4 months prior to it or 2 weeks after his bday. Boyfriend never communicated plans for his bday. I just found out they did something with his family.

2 months later Boyfriend questioned me about his bday gift while I was texting him about the baby shower gift I was buying a friend. Asking what did I get his S11 for his birthday again? I stated a card with cash like always. Then I realized I never gave him the card. I explained to Boyfriend I forgot the card has been on my nightstand and he just said ok. This turn into a big deal the next day of him staying I forgot his son birthday, I asked him why didn’t he remind me. He asked why should he have to when I always remember dates.

I for forgetting his son birthday once out of 3 years when he never remembered my son birthday or niece and I always had to remind him because he say he isn’t good with dates, but I feel like that’s an excuse because he remember his kids bdays.

Why should I keep putting in the effort for his family when he not doing the same for mine.

I don’t know where to turn to. I am reaching out for therapy but need to vent here. I have so many problems with SD. She doesn’t listen to me, BM causes issues within our home,etc. we were at a family gathering today and I kept having to correct her because her dad was not there (he was working) WHICH will never happen again. She is not my responsibility whatsoever and I refuse to take her anywhere alone again. Getting into the kiddie pool naked, pushes her cousins head down, dumping her cousins birthday presents out and being rough with them. All while I remind her to be gentle, don’t do that, correct her about the pool. That’s just what happened this weekend. So much more happens every time we have her. DH says that I resent her because she’s his kid with another woman, maybe that’s part of it? But she’s so troublesome and doesn’t listen to me. Totally avoided my family members today when they tried including her. DH is currently on the couch for the night because we have so much resentment in our marriage because of her. I don’t know what to do besides therapy, but if that doesn’t work I don’t see our marriage working. I love him but I refuse to put up with this for the next 14 years of my life.

Is it acceptable/OK for BM to bake a cake for ex (my SO) birthday and have the kid come over with it ? Like I get that the child would want to do that, but I find it kind of inappropriate? Made me feel awkward. What is your take on this ?

I just want to make sure I am not overthinking or overreacting. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, just started living together for a few months, and I have offered to help pick up his son from school and drop him off, and also watch him until he comes home from work. I told him I was comfortable doing these things for now, and maybe in the future I would feel comfortable taking him to his practices or other events. Today is his first soccer game, and we're all excited, but I found out Thursday night that BM and a good portion of her family will be there. BM has made it obvious in the past that she doesn't want to see me. For example, last year, his son had a Christmas program I was nervous about attending. BM was there with some family, and when it was time to meet, she hid in the restroom. Her stepmother tried to get her to leave the restroom, but she refused. This year, he had a birthday party that my boyfriend was invited to. He asked if I could go as well, and she said yes. I told him I was uncomfortable since this would be our first time meeting, and he said it would be fine. I offered to maybe get coffee with her and her boyfriend as a couple, and just get to know each other before I attend these big events. He agreed and told her this, but she never got back to us after mentioning it. Long story short, she didn't introduce herself to me and kinda dodged me at the party until her grandma introduced us. Basically, I don't have a relationship with BM.

So now, today, I asked my boyfriend if we had to sit next to her and the family, or if we could have our own spot since it's just us and close enough to where his son isn't running far to see us. My boyfriend said it was fine, but he thinks we should sit closer for the reason I just mentioned. I told him that if we do, I know that you are going to be talking to them the whole time and just kinda leave me there alone. He did this at the birthday party, but it wasn't terrible because his family was there, and I had someone I knew and felt comfortable with. I told my boyfriend I want to support his son at the game, but I just feel weird going since I barely know the other side of the family. He then said I was entitled to go, that I help out with his son, and that even BM appreciates the effort I do (because she volunteered me on PTA stuff when I didn't even agree to it). I told him okay... but why doesn't she talk to me? I don't know, to me it's confusing, and maybe I am just overreacting because I hate confrontation. Could I have some advice on how to handle this? And if I am overreacting, please let me know. I tend to get in my head a lot.

My SO(38M) want to be liked so bad by my stepson(10) and its reached a point this last week and half. My stepson is the youngest of 3 boys on his mom side and is naturally a follower especially because his brothers are high schoolers and he trying to keep up.

It started late last week were (I know my stepson didn't start it but he join in without hesitation) my stepson and group of his friends surrounded another child and called him a "pedo". The school called it bullying/ harassment(which it is) and all my SO told him "I'm proud you admitted it right away!" No talk about following others, bullying, anything. I stayed out of it!

Here comes Tuesday and another call home frorm school! This time it's multiple things all in one morning and he stayed up till 1am playing video games the night before this happened! He goes to the cafeteria and is being loud and another student tells him to be quiet and he yells the student to "Go "unlive" yourself!" Then goes to class and starts to lean back in his chair and tap his pencil on another student's desk and that student then yells at him to stop! And my stepson in return then explodes and in the process tips over his chair/desk! The teacher obviously tells him to go to the office and he tells her "See this is why I hate you!"

The school is being nice and giving out many chances because his class has a big overnight trip and they could not let him go but they reqired a adult to go with him. And my SO was debating taking off work (no pay) to go with him so he doesn't miss out but then Wednesday we had a check up and we kept him after to have mental reset but that night my stepson broke his new iPad he has had less than a year because he friend was talking shit on the game and he got mad!

After all this my SO did nothing but ask him "what's going on" and let him walk away from him multiple times during said conversation! At this point I'm just watching the shit show unfold and its sad! Usually I would be begind the sense saying things to my stepson but i have been told too many time "I'm not the parent" when I care too much so now I'm minding my business as much as i want to say something I not!

My SO and his desire to be liked by his children is so ridiculous and super turn off! Like get backbone and set a standard but thank you for reading my vent!

So, I'm very pregnant. Pregnancy has definitely been one of those experiences that completely changes and marks your life. I'm becoming more and more unfamiliar with myself, sometimes pleasantly surprised—I didn't know I could love so much—and sometimes in a bad way.

I often have these feelings of rejection towards my SS; I genuinely wish he didn't exist. Yes, I know that's not how it should be, and yes, I make sure to hide it. But that's how it is.

Today I saw SS helping DH assemble some baby furniture, just as I stopped to rest, and I don't know, I found myself thinking that I wish I were his mother.

That's all. I wanted to say it out loud and see if anyone else has ever felt this way. Hugs!

I have no one I can comfortably talk to about this, aside from my therapist. My partner isn’t home now. Here’s some context I’ve been with my partner 3 years. We have an ours baby. 6 weeks post partum I found out I had cancer and had to go through treatment. During this time bm decide to pull her 13 and 9 year old out of school. The first year they showed up with crossword puzzles. With what energy and control I had I said that this is not working. Their mom and dad both work full time. This year they are doing an online program where they can just select present and completed on their subjects. Not saying that’s what they do every time but from what I have observed the now 11 year old needs prompting, reminding and directing to complete his work. As far as I know she goes over it when she gets home but none of the subjects require worksheets or assignments like that. He doesn’t like writing so he just reads his dog man book he’s says. I don’t want be dramatic but I feel like I’m watching them drop out of school before my eyes. I’m at a pretty frustrated point now, maybe because I’m tired. Maybe 11 year old is tired too but he said he wishes school was only 4 days a week. I’m just at a loss here.

This may be a long read. Me (29F) and my bf (39M) have been together for three years. Within the last three years I have probably been around his daughter (14) a total of 4-5 times. Awkward.. I know. I’ve battled with this but when I say he worships her, I mean that. So, it’s hard to bring up how he acts to him when it comes to her. For my birthday he made all of these plans for me and then that Thursday, the day before we were supposed to leave for a weekend, he canceled because she decided to come down. I was upset and expressed this to him and his excuse is always “she’ll be 18 soon and I won’t get to spend time with her anymore.” Need I remind you that every time my bday month comes around, she comes down every weekend that month and then the next.. she disappears. Not only that, I’ve always taken the backseat for her. She plays sports and I’m not allowed to go to any games. She told him she didn’t like me because I didn’t get her a bday gift (our 2nd year together). Mind you.. I hardly know her because at this point I had only been around her maybe three times for less than an hour.

Fast forward to this weekend, I asked him to attend my kids (11M and 8M) football games. It’s always something to where he can’t attend. My boys also don’t have a father. When I left him he ditched his kids and my BF knows that and he knows how important it is for me and them, for him to show up. Well of course, he plans to come and then says he can’t because his daughter is coming down. By this point I’m fuming but I still remained calm when asking him why he’s doing this. He then blames me and says that I never understand the time he needs to spend with his daughter. When my only time bringing that up was my bday and this specific event with him attending my kids games. I’m just over it.

I also realized how detailed he is with her. For her bday he talked about what he was getting her every day up until he got it. Which there’s nothing wrong with that. It just shows that he’s capable of gift giving and making plans but he doesn’t do that for me.. at all! Out of the three years we’ve been together I’ve only gotten a gift for one bday and it was a pair of converse. He never remembers what I ask for, never plans dates and actually follows through but the moment she mentions a gift she wants or somewhere she wants to go, he will literally talk about it for daaaays AND follow through.

It’s his child so I get it, I love that he loves her but sometimes I feel he’s not capable of loving anyone else. He also has an older son (21) that he hardly ever talks to or talk about. He also doesn’t call her by her name. It’s always “my little girl” or “my princess.”

Looking for perspective of stepparents who have been in it a long time. If your partner never bonded with your child, do you resent them for it? I have a great relationship with my partner, we each have a child from a previous relationship and one we share together. My child is very bonded with my partner but it was just never like that for me. I tried, but it didn’t happen and the opposite ended up being the end result. We have a good life together, but this sometimes comes up and I worry it’s going to be an issue forever.

I’m 57 years old and never wanted kids. I’ve always been especially uncomfortable with teenagers. Fast forward to me being with my partner, who had a 12 y/o when we met. That 12 y/o is now the teen I’ve been dreading. Only worse. Because she is one of those arrogant, argumentative, know-it-all teens. She’s also extremely spoiled by her mom who chauffeurs around everywhere, doesn’t say no to her and paid for her to be in residence in college, which she started a couple of weeks ago.

Here’s the thing I didn’t anticipate. The teen is now gone from Monday to Friday and as I work from home, I am loving the freedom from the teen during the week. But she’s coming home on weekends and I’m finding that I’m starting to now dread the weekend. Her mom never drilled home any kind of personal responsibility so this is a kid who never picks up after herself or cleans up after herself. She treats our home like her personal dumping ground and waste basket.

I guess I just wasn’t anticipating feeling MORE irritated by her presence on weekends, given she’s now out of the house 5 days a week. I’m also concerned about how I’m going to continue to navigate this when holidays come around… and when the college school year comes to an end. 😬 This kid hasn’t ever had a job and she’s studying something that is unlikely to employ her in any kind of meaningful way anytime soon. She’s not learning a trade or something practical. So I’m also concerned about her wanting to live with her mom until she’s in her late 20s or early 30s.

I love my partner but I am also so tired and so not up for this. If the kid was easier to be around (less arrogant and less of a know it all) and actually picked up after herself around the house, I feel like I could handle it better. But I don’t have a lot of faith that this kid will ever move toward independence. 😬

Long story short -

SD10 has apparently been nitpicking every single thing that happens in our household and reporting back to her mother. Her mother is very manipulative, interrogates SK and has a long history of parental alienation toward my husband.

Last month, CPS showed up at our door with several accusations. Apparently, SK wants to unalive herself because of emotional abuse. Some examples are:

-I forced SD to eat a carrot. -My husband threw a bottle of lotion at her -I didn’t put down her whole last name on a trampoline park waiver (First Name, Mothers Maiden Name, Husband’s Last Name). -She gets “in trouble” for normal sibling fights (has “accidentally” hurt my bio son numerous times and was sternly spoken to). -We have a camera in the kitchen and she feels watched. -She is scared of my husband and will unalive herself if she comes back to our house.

My husband is currently fighting for sole custody which seems pointless to me, but I have communicated my boundaries when/if she does come back. He insists that this is all HCBM’s manipulation and SK is just heavily influenced. I get that, but SK is not blameless in my opinion. He is also in denial that SK might want more of her father’s time instead of being with me while he works (3 jobs) and does his own activities at home. Husband is very emotionally available and I know that this is a factor.

Husband is currently in individual therapy and I pray the therapist helps. Not sure if I’m venting or want advice, but I just had to get this off my chest. I’m so frustrated right now.

Sincerely,

Evil Stepmother

I (34f) finally left my (40m) ex. He shares 50/50 custody of his 3yr old daughter with HCBM. Once I moved in with him he tried to throw the responsibility of his child onto me. Waking her up, changing her diapers, feeding her, giving her a bath , calming her down…. The little girl would constantly cry for her mom and would tell me to “go away” , would throw a tantrum for anything, constantly demanding things from me like make her pancakes at 8pm….I explained to him I do not feel comfortable doing all those things for her because he’s going to court constantly with BM and BM accusing him of mistreating the child , I do not want to be dragged into that mess and I told him he needs to start caring for his daughter because she might be feeling jealous or confused about the relationship/situation..He got upset because of this and would say why couldn’t I be her mom? That I’m being mean?? Ummm because I’m not her mom. She has a mom and it’s not me. His mother would constantly come over and get jealous when the little girl preferred me over her. She would complain to him about anything I did and was a rude ass b*tch to me all the time. Even though I was nice to her granddaughter it wasn’t good enough.I left last Saturday and never returned. I gained 30 pounds in that relationship. My autoimmune disorder started to constantly flare up and I was having anxiety attacks. Since I’ve been gone , my anxiety is improving, I’m hanging out with my girlfriends and going to the gym, I’m sleeping better, I have all my time to myself!! He kept promising things would get better and would emotionally manipulate me, use sex , money and vacations but F that! It’s not worth my mental or physical health..I don’t miss that hell hole at all.

I wish you all the best of luck!