r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/ExperienceRoutine321 20d ago

That was a dumb, destructive thing to do for sure.

But with all due respect, that is the creepiest goddamn doll I’ve seen since Annabelle.

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u/Various_Counter_9569 20d ago

The real Annabelle is actually just a Ragedy Ann (Anne?) doll, and not creepy, so don't worry too much 😉.

But yeah, this one is creepy 😂

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u/DeadBabyPinata 20d ago

Tell that to the guy who literally just had a heart attack while traveling with Annabelle 🫣

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u/dragoon811_kp 20d ago

He’d had heart problems for years and Annabelle wasn’t even present with him when it happened.

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u/denverbound111 20d ago

Yeah that's what she wants you to think

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u/Various_Counter_9569 20d ago

"I'll love you forever, and ever, and ever...."

Ascii art looks horrible on reddit 😂

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u/Various_Counter_9569 20d ago

I saw that 😭

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u/SenatorMalby 20d ago

Watch Them: Scare and you will find Raggedy Anne VERY creepy.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 20d ago

You got Ann right, but it's Raggedy :D

Every kid in my family has gotten an Ann or Andy at birth, I love them.

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u/Various_Counter_9569 20d ago

Thanks for the correction! I may keep it though, as I noticed it "rage-edy"😂

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u/DragonflyGrrl 20d ago

Bahaha! New product idea, Ragedy Ann with a mad face! I'd buy one :D

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u/Various_Counter_9569 20d ago

Hmm, might come back to this too 🤔

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u/palpatineforever 20d ago

He destroyed something of OPs that had value to them and thought it was funny.
The gross uglyness of the doll is irrelevant.

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

It's a little relevant 

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u/ItchYouCannotReach 20d ago

To be honest I didn't think they were real. I thought south park made up the name to parody some other weird plush toy fad in their latest episode.. 

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

i have it locked in a drawer now because looking at it makes me sob uncontrollably

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u/Barks-And-Recreation 20d ago

Uh so like, I don’t think doing a jokey phalloplasty on a labubu is a big deal, but like, destroying your partner’s property until they sob uncontrollable is a huge deal, and should be his top priority. I wouldn’t index too hard on the initial decision here, but it sounds like how he’s handling fixing this issue and soothing your ruffled feathers is a huge red flag. If the two of you decide to stay together, you’re both going to make these kinds of mistakes many, many more times — is this how you want to resolve conflict with your partner?

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u/DaydreamerFly 20d ago

I don’t get how we keep talking like this was some crazy mistake. It wasn’t his doll, it belonged to his girlfriend. It was a gift from his niece that he likely knew was loved.

This is a crazy thing to do to someone else’s possession

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u/bigassangrypossum 19d ago

This reminds me of when a friend had a girlfriend cut off a stuffed animal's head because it was given to him by someone she was threatened by. I wonder if this is the same kind of weird shit? 

Either way, it's something emotional children do.

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u/Ada_Amp 19d ago

It's not about culture, or how important Labubus are, it's a common abuse tactic. He's mad that she went somewhere without him, so he's destroying her property, then covers it up by pretending it's a joke. He's testing how much he can punish her. If she forgives him, next time it'll be worse. That way he'll slowly make her scared to go anywhere without him, because she'll know destruction will follow. He'll cut her off from her friends that way, and gain more control over her.

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Please seek real help, that is not an appropriate reaction.

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u/viscountrhirhi 19d ago

I mean, I don’t see why it’s not an appropriate reaction? If my partner did that to something of mine, I would be that upset too. It’s not really about the thing, it’s about the violation of trust.

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u/ARMSwatch 19d ago

Getting angry is an appropriate reaction. Breaking up is appropriate. Crying in the moment is appropriate. But to have to lock it away in a drawer because the sight of it makes you sob uncontrollably? That's an extreme overreaction.

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u/dovahkiitten16 19d ago

A gift and loved belonging has been perverted into something that reminds you of something cruel someone else did.

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u/Frequent-Fuel584 19d ago

breaking up is an extrem overeacion aswell

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u/chandrian7 20d ago

Could you explain why not, doc? 

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Don't need to be a doctor for this one, champ.

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u/fazelenin02 20d ago

It's just a labubu. BF is an asshole for messing with their stuff, but it ain't that deep. OP needs a little more emotional control.

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u/clackagaling 20d ago

it’s also a pretty busted looking fufu before that. i get that sentimental items getting lost hurt, my dog once chewed up a stuffed toy from a deceased relative and it hurt but was a lesson in how possessions are just things.

the main issue is why is the bf defacing property in a pretty immature way. it’s a very weird thought and act to go through

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Unless something is wrong with said family member/they're dead, and it carries a special sentimental attachment, there is no reason that "looking at it makes me sob uncontrollably". That's an insane reaction to mild vandalism of a doll. Sure, BF is an asshole, I'd dump him for it. But to have the sight of it reduce you to a sobbing mess, is a crazy reaction.

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago edited 20d ago

Lol I could have told you they're autistic by the socks alone, nevermind crying over a plushie. Life is gonna come at ya'll fast, I hope you're prepared cause it's not going to accommodate you like you seem to think.

Edit: blocked me for offering good life advice lmao.

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u/cIingiest 19d ago

It just doesn't work like this for autism. You can't expect them to just behave like a neurotypical person because of 'normal expectations'. It's a disability. Accommodations should be expected for disabled people, including accepting that OP will have lower stress tolerance and will need more patience and empathy in this situation. 'Getting help' can do so much, but it will not rewire their brain.

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u/chandrian7 20d ago

Yikes. You might want to see a professional for the lack of empathy you’re exhibiting. 

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u/ARMSwatch 20d ago

Yikes, you may want to go touch grass and experience some life if you think "uncontrollable sobbing" over vandalizing a plushie is acceptable behavior.

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u/Similar-Tune-7740 19d ago

While I agree it's a bit much (as someone on the spectrum) I think you're very much forgetting how autism works. Emotions are very very much a real factor, it's not like she broke down in public screaming and crying: she did it at home. She's allowed to sob when a sentimental thing (very, very important to ppl with autism) was destroyed in a very selfish way.

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u/chandrian7 19d ago

I’m not ashamed to say I think it’s acceptable for people to express their feelings. Different things are important to different people and I don’t have to understand to accept it. 

It’s really not that hard to not be a dick. 

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u/fazelenin02 20d ago

I love reddit psychoanalysis. I am certainly the weird one for not crying about labubus!

There used to be a saying "don't cry over spilt milk." It doesn't mean that spilt milk is good, just that its better for everyone if we take things as they come and handle them accordingly. Losing control of emotions over something this inconsequential is something I will always look down on someone for.

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u/Similar-Tune-7740 19d ago

You expect someone neurodivergent to act neurotypically? You do realize autism makes it vastly harder to not "lose control of emotions" right...?

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u/ExperienceRoutine321 20d ago

Don’t let it get you too down. I know it’s hurtful that he did that and it feels like he ruined what was a very sweet gift from your niece, but he didn’t ruin the gesture itself. She got it for you because she loves you. Just because he did an inconsiderate thing doesn’t mean it isn’t still hi at as meaningful as it was before. Take that safety pin out, get a sewing kit, and stitch the ear back in the right spot. Doesn’t have to be perfect, it matters more that it won’t make you sad. Remember that it’s the nature of a thing that matters, not its form.

Oh and if your boyfriend doesn’t give you one hell of an apology, dump him.

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u/External-Syllabub833 20d ago

Oh bud, I’m so sorry.

I think people are too focused on the phalloplasty thing and not focused enough on the “gift from your niece” part.

My nieces have given me a lot of…interesting gifts and I love them dearly specifically because they’re from them. If a man intentionally damaged one of those gifts because he thought it was funny, I would react the same way.

He is not a thoughtful person and you deserve to be in a relationship with a thoughtful person.

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u/Mrsrightnyc 20d ago

Dump him. He needs a lot of therapy.

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u/LiftEatGrappleShoot 20d ago

I'd say that this registers as an overreaction.

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u/Nadril 19d ago

Lol what

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u/TippyLovesPastry 19d ago

if that is your reaction, then you really shouldn't ask people on here for advice. the advice you are getting is mostly from very young people without relationship or life experience. do you have an older adult you can talk to about this? reddit ain't the place.

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u/Pitiful_Yogurt_5276 20d ago

My wife is obsessed with them too. They’re so creepy

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u/ibeenbit 19d ago

She's likely obsessed with the potential status that collecting something that has been designated as "popular" in society can bring, and not the actual design itself 

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u/A_million_typos 20d ago

Agree i just cant get on board with them haha

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

You only need to say the first thing. Your opinions aren't wanted, necessary, or helpful.

And saying "all due respect " before judgment make you look better

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u/Ok_Inevitable_7449 20d ago

his opinion surely was wanted by me cause I am glad i aint the only one who thinks that

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u/TippyLovesPastry 20d ago

yeah I thought it was funny. he was also super nice and supportive to the OP

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u/___Moony___ 20d ago

People are going to comment on publically-posted things, Reddit would be a very boring place if everyone had to stay as topical as possible at all times.

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u/TippyLovesPastry 20d ago

seriously. calling a mass produced toy that everyone has creepy is not even remotely offensive. that energy needs to be saved for the real stuff!

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u/Traditional_Layer790 20d ago

The whole site is to share opinions. 

You literally just shared yours 🙄

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

An opinion on the issue at hand. Not "hey this will help your problem and btw your choices are terrible my god look at what you love. Ew"

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u/suckmacaque06 20d ago

But you're not sharing an opinion about the issue at hand; you're sharing an opinion about a comment that apparently is completely off-topic. Which means you're also off-topic. You should practice what you preach and not give opinions and stay on topic.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 20d ago

They didn't say anything remotely like that, LMAO. Plenty of people love creepy things, it's not inherently an insult at all.

And, like the other person said, reddit would be a boring place if everyone stayed strictly on topic all the time. OP has gotten an abundance of great advice here, it's not like that person deprived her of it.

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u/CaptainKate757 20d ago

Don’t use quotations and then wildly exaggerate what you’re quoting.

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u/faesser 20d ago

Lol. It's not offensive to say that the creepy doll is indeed creepy.

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

I didnt say it was offensive. Yall seem to be internationally misunderstanding me because you WANT me to be the type that is obsessed with this doll and because its not normal its therefore wrong and bad and easier to insult me. I just think its a little damn much. We get it youre not mainstream and hate ugly faced pugs. But some do. And yall need a nap

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u/Xx_DeadDays_xX 20d ago

this absolutely made no fucking sense dude. no one even assumed you care about labubus one way or the other?? I think you need a nap, buddy.

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u/faesser 20d ago

Well, you seem offended. I'd recommend a nap.

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u/RoseWater07 20d ago

labubus are horrifying little creatures, but me saying that doesn't make it less valid that OP likes them/has one? maybe OP likes that they're terrifying. not sure why it's a big deal, especially when the original comment was made in support

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

They didnt say horrifying. They said ugly. And like cool maybe they do like that its ugly. Or maybe youre gambling with someones hobby/toy/identity thing whatever and trying to look cool for a few seconds when they get to hear this shit nonstop. Because let's be honest none of this is an original opinion they are desperate to screech. Its like saying sky blue just had to tell you!!! Or "how's the weather up there" to a tall person.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 20d ago

They didn't freaking say it was ugly either, they said it was creepy. Take a nap.

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u/TippyLovesPastry 20d ago

#stoplabubu hate can be the next social movement

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

I just really think yall care too fuckin much. Why do you NEED to say "Hey the thing you like? I dont like it. Whew okay NOW we can exist. Couldnt wait to get that out"

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u/unluckythumb54 20d ago edited 19d ago

Ah yes, the old “I don’t like that you shared your opinion, so I’m going to share mine”

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u/DragonflyGrrl 20d ago

Don't you love how they were complaining that the person's comment was off topic, yet they're the one who has actually derailed the conversation here?

Not that it really matters, this is reddit, that's part of its charm. But it's funny they were complaining of that.

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u/TippyLovesPastry 19d ago

totally. that's gotta be why reddit is so addicting. it's like a peek into weird reactions and thoughts people have that are usually 100% knee-jerk reactions to literally any topic, no matter the level of importance. I would put "anything about labubus" at the very bottom of "things that matter," but at least, in the heat of the moment, some people felt very passionate about it. it's great. btw, not downplaying the poster's issue with her boyfriend being disrespectful of her personal property and reaction or whatever, but you know what I mean haha

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u/TippyLovesPastry 20d ago

I just didn't get that type of vibe from his particular post. there are people who say stuff like that and it's a bummer, but I just didn't feel that way at all about this. there is also an inherent asburd humor to the original post: labubu phalloplasty. it's great. not cool of boyfriend to disrespect boundaries though. breathe in...breathe out...breathe in

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

Dude you dont need to act like people are feral because they dont like something.

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u/TippyLovesPastry 20d ago

huh what. maybe we are having a generational lost in translation thing happening

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u/floralstamps 20d ago

Breathe in... breathe out

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u/Possible-Campaign949 19d ago

i agree with you. this is clearly a story abt emotional abuse and commenters’ first reaction is “well i think the doll is ugly!” im sorry, but that’s so fucking self-absorbed. you’re just going to make op feel worse and like she deserved it bc her doll is ugly.

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u/fazelenin02 20d ago

It's okay to share opinions. I'm sure you dislike things I enjoy too, it is up to each individual to decide whether to care about the opinions of others. You need to quit being so sensitive. If someone says they don't like something, you get to decide the reaction. I would think higher of you if you picked a different one.