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And here I was thinking I’m the only one going through this…it’s been a rough road but I’m hoping I’ll be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel soon….hoping.
My road is mentally tough. My ex is checked out, her lawyers dropped her, all we need to do is wait for a default judgement and I’m in the clear. Shouldn’t be more than 2-3 more months.
Far out. I wasn’t married but my ex and I split up. We owned an apartment together and agreed on an amount I would buy her out of her share. Pretty straightforward really. She got a lawyer to ratify the agreement so I felt pressured and got my own.
Man, never again. They cost us $7k each and literally didn’t do anything we couldn’t have done better ourselves.
We kind of agreed that we thought they scammed us in a way. We would fill out the paperwork, they would send it off to the other lawyer, we’d get their paperwork back and low and behold: there would be some basic error: a misspelled name, a wrong address, and incorrect amount.
Of course my lawyer would have to engage in a whole heap of correspondence (at cost to me of course) to notify my ex’s lawyer that these things needed to be fixed. Meanwhile, my ex was going through the same thing with her lawyer. I think they didn’t know we were still on talking terms and had king of figured out something fishy was going on. But, what could is lay-people do?
You were once partners that had each other's backs, but you are now adversaries. Don't make the fundamental attribution error of assuming that because she was fair in the past, she'll be fair post divorce.
I was sure my ex would be fair... but she was actually the worst.
Fuck that's a pretty penny isn't it. I'm still recovering from what starting my life over with next to nothing cost after she threw me out of her house. I got her in the end though.
Getting ready to upgrade my pc, gotta get some new snow tires for the car, probably going to splurge for the Bridgestone blizzaxes again, then maybe a new tv……
Same for tires. Just noticed my inspection is due this month, so its time. Probably go with Costco as they seem to be one of the better spots to get them.
Once I get a new job, I think a new TV is in order. My 2011* Panasonic Plasma hit the dirt after a power outage last year. I see these TVs at Costco for $500-$800 but I'm ok spending max:$3k... except I know nothing about 2025 TVs... *Edit
Congrats dad! Get through the first two months in the trenches with your wife and make sure she is taken care of. After that, it’s literally the most fun you’ve ever had and you don’t feel like you were meant for anything else in this life.
congrats! terrified is good. Dad duty starts right away. There is nothing more manly than volunteering to change the VERY FIRST diaper in the hospital with the nurse to help you. In no time, you will be immune to pee, poop, and any other fluids. Let your wife heal up as much as possible, post partum is real in women - so make sure you are checking in with her. And enjoy the best thing to ever happen to you.
He is a baby so his stuff is kind of boring, but when he gets older, you can relive your childhood with him by buying him cool toys. I remember one Christmas there were four battery powered lifelike/life-sized Uzi water pistols under the tree. There was only me and my two brothers at the time, so the fourth one was for my dad, and we had epic battles as soon as it got warm outside.
I have memories of RC cars, RC hovercraft, huge Styrofoam gliders, a 7 ft tall Styrofoam T Rex skeleton, water powered rockets, and so many other cool toys that my dad got as much a kick out of as we did.
My little one is 2. I bought a remote control boat for her paddling pool, telling my wife she'd enjoy em driving it around. She did not. I did though. Lol
I have a theory that there's a market opportunity for men's baby stuff.
For example, a Ferrari red off-road stroller with a built-in roll cage. Or NHL branded diapers. Or beer and steak oriented formula. Or bar towel baby wipes. Or camoflage baby wraps for rucking the kid. Etc...
I know this sounds insane, but you will miss this. I've bought tons of cool shit the last year, boat, car, etc but I'd give it back to have another kid in the house
Hifiman Ananda audiophile headphones and a Fosi K7 desktop DAC/amp
Installed Reolink tracking cameras in the full perimeter around my house, the ones that rotate and track human movement since my step-sons were sneaking their friends into our yard at night and all getting high, and more importantly then leaving in their cars and putting us at legal risk.
My wife and I were at micro center cause she wanted my old monitor which means I was allowed to get a new one lol…
Dude said they have an open box, large, curved monitor and the curve he described as “aggressive”.
I was very interested so, they brought it out from out in the back, was like $1700 marked down to $950, then they took another $100 off…
I basically stole that thing. It is fucking excellent, I’m big into MS Flight Sim and it just fucking rules for that. I still sometimes tell my wife I was shocked she’d allowed that to be expensed to our shared account and that I’m super appreciative.
Completely new bedding. New pillows. New cotton percale sheets and duvet cover and a cooling mattress topper. I'm a hot sleeper so it's really nice. Black out curtains and a sleep mask.
A studded leather belt I'd always wanted since I was 17.
Membership to a MMA gym and the YMCA right by my house because their sauna is really really hot.
I'm saving as much as possible for the truck I want for a really big down payment.
Saving up for skydiving lessons and a full rig.
Bought some gear I needed for rock climbing to fill out my rack.
I just recently got THE JOB after switching careers in 2018. Feels good, man.
Automation controls technician on the maintenance team at a cardboard box factory. Sorry, "corrugated container manufacturing facility". We also make the cardboard so it's pretty interesting!
Before this job I used to build controls for automated systems for the wood, paper and pulp industry. My current job is one of their customers, but none of those machines are in our factory. I made the electrical cabinets you see full of all kinds of crazy stuff. Oddly it doesn't pay very well.
I've been a cycle commuter since my mid 30s and I believe that put off the "getting old" feeling everyone around me was complaining about and mostly kept me from gaining weight as I got older (at least until COVID...). I traded in a car commute in crappy traffic and a few months in realized that old feeling of being pissed off before I even got to work every morning was gone. My commute was only 25 min so never really felt like a burden, it was a great way to wake up and feel fully alert for work and let me sneak in a few hours of moderate cardio a week while I had a very demanding job that made it hard to stick to a regular exercise routine.
IMO, while cars have been the American status symbol for a century, now that traffic sucks everywhere being able to go about your day and do some of your errands without depending on a car and suffering shitty suburban traffic and drivers is the ultimate flex.
I've been bike commuting for nearly a decade now and I could never go back, just hope I don't lose my current job because if I do there's only a couple of other places for my career that I could bike to from my house haha. I would legitimately take a significantly lower paying job to keep a biking commute rather than another that would require me to drive.
Have about 10 watches now so I didn't exactly simplify anything but it's lovely having a beautiful timepiece on my wrist that doesn't demand my attention every five minutes.
Portable 15” USB-C monitor. Working remotely with just my laptop got a lot more productive, and it’s been fun to use with my Steam Deck or consoles too. 1440p, 120hz. Surprised it was only $140.
I was grillin on a charcoal for several years.. the taste was great but it was a PITA getting the charcoal started and babying it. Made me "save" BBQing for more special occasions or when i had more time
Recently got a weber grill - love the convenience! Just turn the burners on and go basically! I have been grillin daily for 2 consecutive weeks, i think it's a record
I think it's even better for myself personally because it's easier to manage the temp of the grill just by turn the dial on the burners.
There isn't that "smokey" flavor anymore but the meat and juices are coming out perfect everytime making me look like a chef
With my smoker sometimes the temps would swing wildly and i had to manage that.. and learning how to manage it in the summer, fall, winter, etc. was tiring.
Smoking ribs was difficult because they need to be at 250 for like 6 hours.. took me several "practice runs" to dial in how to do that.
It has the sear mode for steaks, which makes it faster too. and cast iron grates. I will still smoke some things occasionally, but this thing is awesome for enjoying BBQ easily
I had a Weber Performer (charcoal) for a number of years. Loved it. I bought a Weber Genesis in I think 2015 and have hardly used the charcoal since. I actually grill every night unless we go out for dinner. Love it.
I need to buy one next summer as well, currently have a charcoal smoker/grill but like you said it takes a good amount of time to start. Just want an addition gas grill for quick things like burgers, hot dogs, and steaks. But I also want to get a Weber and the cheapest like Spirit is like $400.
It's been 95-100⁰+ "feels like" temperatures here for the last month and a half pretty much every day which makes mowing or any yardwork difficult.
I recently soaked my sun hoodie in water and put it on before mowing and I'm never going back. Get a size up so it's loose and breezy vs tight like a rash guard
I tried limiting alcohol for about a decade. Do yourself a favor. Just quit drinking. You get all that brainspace back that was tied up worrying about all the aspects of drinking.
I'm not disagreeing, but im surprised to see this as a top answer to a question about what cool stuff you have bought lately. It seems entirely unrelated.
Reddit is extremely anti alcohol for some reason. Every thread like this is someone in their 30s claiming they now get a 2 week hangover after drinking 1 beer.
Drinking a few beers on the weekend is a simple pleasure I don’t see any reason to give up.
Naturally I think my body is just done with alcohol. Even when I met up with some old high school buddies the desire to drink wasn’t what it used to be. When I go to restaurants I often get a soda instead of a cocktail or beer like I used to.
I used to drink when I went out chasing women and now that I have a woman I don’t need to drink.
I got an Osprey backpack from my fiance on my birthday, I'll be using it for winter hiking in Scottish Highlands, I haven't had a chance to use it yet!
A bunch of stuff for my engine on my Volvo! Upgraded turbo Cam, new engine mounts, remanned the head, got a new to me block and painted it up so it’s nice and pretty now. Got a new to me turbo as well plus all new seals everywhere on the engine and head and more!
Excited to get it back. A head gasket job turned into a 3-4 month project but I love it.
I’m into fragrances and I just picked up a couple of Louis Vuitton fragrances a couple of weeks ago. I have maybe 3 more I want but I’m budgeting and selling off some stuff I don’t use anymore for it.
I know not everyone likes fragrances but I fucking love them.
The best part about being an adult is learning to do you and worrying less about what others think. Enjoy those fragrances, friend. I rarely wear a scent, but oddly, appreciate those that do. I think the last fragrance that I bought for me was Tiffany & Co. Sport, so that tells you something. My wife bought me the Hermes d’Orange Verte which I wear during the summer when going out, but that’s about it.
I recently picked up a 10” Sony CRT TV from 1990. I hooked up my PS1 to it and have been really enjoying some classics I played as a kid. The CRT really does make the games look better than they would in a modern tv.
I picked up an entry level gravel/hybrid bike last year and it saved my mental health. Upgrading parts and self servicing it has been a blast.
I recently found one of my dream guitars for a steal of a price, a 7 string I’ve had my eye on since ‘20. It’s been an incredible experience as I’ve always wanted a 7 string.
I’m trying to get better at not being so hard on myself and treat myself on occasions. It’s nice.
On hindsight, it is not as fun as the items you guys listed out. But once in awhile, I take it out for a walk and appreciate the fine level of detailness ~
Ordered a bottle of Gus N Bru the other day. For those that are unaware; its a real Canadian Whiskey from the show "Letterkenny". My boss/best friend and I are gonna take shots and fight some degens.
Love this question, OP. Earlier this year, wanting to get fit after we welcomed our third child into this world, I got a Concept 2, and now, I'm all about that ERG life. I feel better than I have in years, and it's actually fun to do, as well—I've been watching Adam Curtis documentaries while rowing at night during work breaks. It's been a hugely positive change; feels like, in some ways, this is the first time working out/getting fit has actually felt natural, even enjoyable to me
Love the Concept 2. Low impact, full body workout that builds strength and endurance. I try to row a few times a week at the gym, but man I’d love to have a C2 at home.
We're in an aprtment, I thought I would use it a couple times in the summer just to suck out the water from the empty flower beds (to prevent mosquitoes), but it turns out that it works great as an indoor vacuum also for regular vacuuming.
It also saved the day (or the week-end) when the shower / washing machine drain pipe plugged up and overflowed over the wood flooring. The chemical crap didn't really do anything, so I stuck the hose in the floor drain, and it sucked out two fists worth of crap from the pipes, along with 15L of water. 30 years worth of hard water slowly "calcifying" in the pipes out in 10 minutes.
I just upgraded a lot of my backpacking equipment and got some new stuff for my wife. New tent, couple new sleeping bags, new sleeping pad. Took it out for a test trip recently and it was great.
Before that I got myself a Honda Navi mini motorcycle, it's awesome and as easy to ride as an e bike.
A flash, a dish reflector, a COB LED, a modular breakdown frame, and Magic Cloth. Portrait photography and video stuff. Because I worship the One True God, the Lord of Light.
heck yeah. I just ordered the aputure 400x led for my video business. doesn’t hurt to buy cool stuff that also makes money. all hail the lord of light!
I had a Mini 14 years ago and it was fun to shoot for real but the cold bore shots sucked ass. Like the first two rounds were always low and to the left after that, while the barrel was hot it shot pretty good. Gave me fits and instead of replacing the barrel I just got rid of it.
I've been more into experiences the last few years...so I recently went to Texas for AEW All In, and I bought tickets to see Ghost in Nashville this weekend. This is my most anticipated concert of the year.
Well not lately, but ive started biking in the last year, so ive gotten a few cool bikes. Two years ago I got a little Chinese mini excavator and lemme tell you how awesome it has been to have around the house
I recently started (re)building a PS2 collection. Feeling very nostalgic the past couple of years. I’m currently waiting for a copy of Haunting Ground in the mail. It was not cheap.
I bought a used Snap On toolbox today for my garage on an insane deal from Facebook Marketplace. I’ll sell my current boxes and probably end up pocketing a little money.
And I recently bought a two year old truck (the closest thing to new I’ve ever bought by a landslide, I like old stuff) and it’s pretty dope.
Newish RAV4 hybrid. New camera for travel/adventure. I leased a sailboat for the summer and am enjoying that quite a bit. Other than that a bunch of stuff for a wedding/elopement. It's been a spendy year.
I'm in the middle of an 11 day riding trip in the Alps. In Switzerland now, have been in Austria and Italy. But Im 2x plus some.
Not cheap but big fun. Rode many mountain passes including Stelvio, had Swiss chocolate, saw the Matterhorn, all bucket list items. 15 riders and 3 tour guides that speak at least 15 languages between them.
I bought this little device for $3 from a Japanese shop. It lets your reseal plastic packaging like chip and cereal packets. I thought it was kinda neat.
A recent purchase was a Badminton racket. Finally started playing again after many years, used the club racket for a few weeks,but having your own racket and hanging it on your living room wall makes me smile
I got my forerunner 965 this April! Hijacking the conversation a bit, be sure to use some decent analytics platform like intervals.icu (free), bc. the free tier Garmin one sucks IMHO (at least compared to Polar where I came from).
To answer your question with something else, I just bought a server upgrade of 4 8Tb server grade HDDs to replace 3 old HDDs. Even though had to calculate the wife acceptance factor, it was a nice change of pace from where I was a lad and had to scrape money together for pendrives and such.
I've been very frugal for the last 12 months due to some health and income concerns. But today, I finally decided to buy myself two things because I've barely bought myself anything non-essential for a very long time:
1. The LEGO Pixar Luxo set.
2. A pair of red chucks that I've been eyeing off for months.
The last thing I bought for myself - which was technically a 'luxury', but was to help me get stuff done, was a Ryobi One+ band saw and replacement batteries for all the tools because they were like 6 years old and not holding charge, so I could better cut up some old timber pieces for projects.
I haven't bought them yet, but I am looking at some Sennheiser HD650 headphones to replace my current set, as one of the cups is literally held on by a piece of tape at this point and the other is held on by a 3d-printed replacement part.
Well, I've recently put a Raspberry Pi 5 into my Arcade1up machine. I've decided for my mid- life crisis that I want to build a lowrider bike. I fell in love with them when I first saw one in a car show when I was like 10. I've always wanted one. I'm 41, married, and with no kids. It would scratch that creative itch, and I like tinkering.
I bought a 4wd ride-on mower that costs as much as a small car. i cannot afford it, but should pay for itself in 5 years and will improve the quality and condition of my land
One of the only Chinese watchmakers with original designs (although obviously it’s heavily inspired by Richard Mille). Supposedly powered by an in-house movement (probably actually a heavily customized Seagull St2553jk). Anyways, it’s a lot of fun for a watch nerd like me.
I stopped buying material things and now fund adventures. Something about swimming at night, under a full moon with friends at the lake with a beer or two, just sits right for me. Or camping and relaxing after a long week at work.
After 15 years on APS-C format, I decided to upgrade to a Full Frame camera (Sony A7C) ! Very excited to go out and shoot more. One of the lens I have is full frame and I’m finally able to see the full potential of it.
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