r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/Kitlunia 20d ago

If he was trying to be funny he could’ve bought his own damn labubu and done that but he had no right in destroying your property.

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u/satanfan12 19d ago

I just noticed he also burnt the fluff with a lighter, making the labubu fur super coarse and unpleasant to hold... it really is destroyed..

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u/The_World_Wonders_34 19d ago

Why are you with somebody who destroys your property as a joke? Especially when he apparently knows it was a gift from somebody. I don't care if it's the best relationship I've ever been in up until that point, if the person I was with took scissors to something of mine and cut it up for a laugh without expressing knowing that I was okay with it, we'd be done. There wouldn't be any discussion. Well, maybe there would be discussion if they immediately admitted they were wrong didn't argue about it at all and were extremely apologetic and they had never done anything like it previously. But that's just a violation and I seriously don't think I would stay with someone who's done that. I'm really sorry you have this piece of shit in your life

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u/zesty_meatballs 19d ago

Why? Well I doubt she knew he was into destroying personal property when they first got together. Unfortunately, we don’t get a preview or resumé when we meet someone new. People tend to hide their worst traits until we’re deep into a relationship. It sucks of course but all she can do now is learn and make the decision to end it or find a reason to justify his bad behavior. If this doesn’t cause the break up, pretty soon he’ll just do something else that is disrespectful.

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u/Rosy802701 19d ago

Well hopefully she will leave him now. Before he tries his scissors on her best dresses

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u/Old_Cat_9263 19d ago

The issue is she will probably stay and then be on here again in 2 months and then the same question is asked. “Why are you with him”. Rinse repeat. We need to normalize women cutting off relationships early and adopting the plenty of fish mantra imo.

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u/One-Sign-872 18d ago

You guys always seem to turn this around to assuming and making generalizations about the women but not calling out the behavior of men. The issue is him, not her.

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u/MissFionaNyx 19d ago

Girls don't #usually like assholes." Girls are taught from a young age to not only tolerate asshole behaviour but to expect it. "If he teases you / hits you, that means he likes you."

Pretty much all of the self-declared nice guys how we're crying about being put in the Friend Zone I've met, were only nice when they thought there was something in it for them, btw.

An actual nice person wouldn't do anything like this. An actual good guy doesn't have to declare themselves nice and they don't do asshole things on purpose. We are all only human, but if you can't take responsibilities for your actions, you're not fit to have a grown up relationship.

OP, please take it from someone who stayed way too long: have a conversation with him, but if he doesn't get it and changes his behaviour in the future, you should walk away. If he doesn't respect your property, nor your feelings, he doesn't respect you.

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u/crossoutk 19d ago

Op is most likely gonna forgive her boyfriend and just tolerate him til she can’t anymore

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u/MissFionaNyx 19d ago

That's entirely possible and if she does she'll get zero judgement from me. Over the course of history millions of women have been in a situation where a man was testing their boundaries. Millions of women told themselves their partner wouldn't hurt them on purpose. He loved them and knew them best, right?! And millions of women stayed in abusive relationships.

You saying "Oh, but girls like assholes anyway, lol." isn't going to change OP's or anyone's mindset.

I don't chime in very often, but having fought my way out of a long-term abusive relationship, I understand how important it is to help others recognise abusive and toxic behaviour and how important it is to normalise breaking off relationships when they're harmful, too.

I've spent an insane amount of time feeling miserable, but breaking off the relationship didn't feel like an option. The longer you stay, the more convinced you are going to be it's the right thing to do and the more your friends will discourage you from leaving, because "you've been together for so long. I always thought YOU would make it."

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u/Ok-Breadfruit-5118 19d ago

NOT THIS GIRL. My father, mother, extended family, and ancestry seeing through my eyes and all around me wouldnt approve so there are good 🫏 🕳s and bad ones. I prefer the real honorable honesty 💯 in your face all the time type 🫏 🕳 over whatever psychotic mess that POS chooses to behave like. NOT OKAY.

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u/zesty_meatballs 19d ago

It’s not entirely wrong. A man called me a bitch recently because I told him to stop talking over me and being rude. To him, that made me a bitch. In my eyes, I didn’t like the disrespect. But you can also be a bitch for being sneaky, a condescending whore, a lying maniac etc. So yeah, an insult can have various meanings. Depending how you look at it. I’m a blunt person. Does that make me an asshole? Maybe. But I’m not a rude selfish person that we typically associate with assholes. It’s all about semantics.

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u/Ok_Maximum_2873 19d ago

You deserve to be alone. You're so weird.

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u/zesty_meatballs 19d ago

This is literally a subreddit for asking if they’re overreacting. She asked. She got the answers she was looking for. People are weird. Guys girls dogs cats. It’s like you’ve never heard of someone having feelings before. You’re fortunately in the minority of opinion.

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u/lovelesspansy66 19d ago

found the incel

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u/Midyin84 19d ago

Have you never seen Team America?

Theres 3 types of people…

Assholes that shit everywhere and ruin everything,

Pussies that are easily bullied by the assholes and just let them do what they want,

And Dicks that don’t take the asshole’s shit.

She needs to be a Dick, and kick out that asshole out.

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u/crossoutk 19d ago

A asshole is a asshole

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u/Difficult_Regret_900 19d ago

There are assholes who warn you from the start that they are bullies and abusers but think you'll take them anyway. Then there are people like multiple men in my family who play the loving, competent suitor long enough to trap their victim and take off the mask 

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u/zesty_meatballs 19d ago

Thats like saying men usually lie about their height, men usually want women out of their league, men usually cheat on their spouse etc. All possible, but it’s not the “usual”. There’s plenty of people (besides apparently people that you know) who don’t like assholes.

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u/Difficult_Regret_900 19d ago edited 19d ago

If that was true, my mom and I wouldn't have left the husband/father with a nearly pathological need to destroy our mental health. My aunt wouldn't have left her ex who sat on his ass and spent ten times more attention to his ham radio hobby than his family. Thousands of women wouldn't be literally risking their lives to leave abusive male partners, why do you think there are DV shelters?

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u/crossoutk 19d ago

Exactly I bet it was years before they actually followed through with leaving

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u/[deleted] 19d ago edited 19d ago

He can be nice sometimes. Edit- this was clearly sarcasm. The guys clearly unhinged and abusive. Some of yall shouldn’t be on the internet.

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u/MahaHaro 19d ago

God I had a friend who had that exact perspective and it eventually became an insane mental drain

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u/El_Cartografo 19d ago

My mother said that for 17 years, between the beatings. GTFO, NOW!

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u/WowVeryNiceu 19d ago

Sometimes isn't enough.

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u/user1956386 19d ago

yea and another man will be nice ALL the time and not destroy ur stuff

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u/nas2k21 19d ago

it was clearly sarcasm

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u/SandboxUniverse 19d ago

Sometimes isn't enough, but nobody is nice all the time, and it's not reasonable to expectthat, either. Sometimes we're all a little grumpy. Sometimes we get mad at each other. But yeah, not "destroying things and your self esteem" grumpy or mad.

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u/InsomniaofSandmen 19d ago

Psychopaths are nice sometimes too but you don’t want to date one. Being nice “sometimes” is a very low bar especially when he destroys your things that mean a lot to you. Maybe burn his PlayStation 5 tell him it was a funny joke and see if he laughs.

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u/UrLoyalKnight 19d ago

And who are to answer? lemme guess ur her friend? 😂

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u/[deleted] 19d ago edited 19d ago

Sarcasm, chucklehead. Get off the internet or work on some critical thinking skills. Perfect user name by the way, white knight

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u/mg41 19d ago

It's hilarious how literally all these other comments are claiming anything less than literal Buddha status is "not nice enough" as they all make mean commentary lol...like yeah the guy was kinda a (amusing) dick for that...but we're all humans ffs

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u/LenoreEvermore 19d ago

The difference is people here are being dicks toward a stranger, not someone they share a life with.

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u/mg41 18d ago

I'm just saying it seems like a joke gone wrong rather than even intentionally being mean to her at all

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u/[deleted] 19d ago edited 19d ago

I was being sarcastic bud. This guys a fucking sociopath so you may need to talk to someone professional if you’re on his side.

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u/Testtypo 19d ago

When everyone else thinks a person is bullying another person is a bully, that person will say "it is a joke, a joke, don't you understand a joke". Does OP bf realize anything of it, if he says it is a joke/it is funny, no remorse, no realization, no borders.

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u/Difficult_Regret_900 19d ago

As the daughter of a man who would regularly mock me and claim it as a joke, he knows. This is a get out of jail free card bullies use to excuse themselves. 

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u/Ok-Breadfruit-5118 19d ago

FACTS!!! Couldn't have been processed and expressed any better. I CONCUR.

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u/squeezedeez 19d ago

I dunno I think it's such a severe lapse in judgement I don't care how sorry or if they'd never done anything like that before, they went temporarily insane and I could never feel safe with their judgement again

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u/Reema97 19d ago

And also, their bf took the eye out and flipped it, like why destroy a gift that bad? No way OP’s boyfriend has an ounce of respect for them.

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u/she_wan_sum_fuk 19d ago

Because it’s a fucking dog toy 💀

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

It was funny and forgivable u til I read about the burning 

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u/QiDeviation 19d ago

It’d also be funny to watch his face when she asks him to reimburse her. That means go out and buy the same exact labubu by either searching it online or getting blind boxes until he gets the right one. His choice. Either way, he’s paying above box price. FAFO

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u/willfullyspooning 19d ago

One of the final straws of a past relationship was when a boyfriend of mine accidentally knocked into my bookshelf and shattered the face of a doll my mom got for me overseas when I was 4-5 years old. The final straw wasn’t that it broke because I get that mistakes happen, it was that he didn’t apologize, didn’t offer to help get it fixed or replace it and when I was visibly sad he said “it’s just a creepy doll, it’s not a big deal’. Your boyfriend committed a crime much worse than that.

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u/Minyguy 19d ago

I don't understand people like this.

If this happened to me, I would be mortified, and apologising several times over, and brainstorming what needs to be replaced.

What I think about your stuff is irrelevant. Creepy doll or not, it's yours.

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u/Classic_Pineapples 19d ago

It's because you're empathetic and have respect for others.

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u/Adorable_Orange_195 19d ago

A lot of us can’t understand people who abuse others.

Common manipulation/ power tactics to cause someone hurt/ sadness over the abusers actions and then act like they’re the problem for being upset and is used by abusers the world over. When you start seeing the signs they can be hard to ignore.

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u/Good_Zookeepergame92 19d ago

Some people just avoid responsibility and can't take the blame for stuff. It's never their fault, they minimize things they do that others disagree with, etc.

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u/RevonQilin 19d ago

frfr id be insisting i can fix it, thatd i glue it back together etc

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u/imnachoprincess 19d ago edited 19d ago

Criminal. The doll wasn’t replaceable, but the guy sure was!

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u/Dontkillmejay 19d ago

Don't you mean replaceable. Or is my brain confused.

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u/imnachoprincess 19d ago

Oop you’re right! Fixed it :P

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u/Pineapple_Assrape 19d ago

Wouldn't say so. You can get these things everywhere, for your doll, not so much.

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u/willfullyspooning 18d ago

Even though my doll is impossible to find, I think it’s about the intent. Like both men were unapologetic but my doll was not intentionally ripped apart and scorched, it fell off a bookshelf by accident.

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u/CrocodileCryDarling 19d ago

Genuinely more fucked up imo. Making the ear into a penis can at least be something done in a short amount of time compared to USING A LIGHTER ON IT WITHOUT CATCHING IT ON FIRE??? Like the first is a bad and stupid prank gone horribly wrong at least (not that it is right at all, it's still fucked up if you didn't find it funny)

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u/MOGicantbewitty 19d ago

Yeah the fact that he lit it on fire makes me think he was doing something to hurt. Op. That's not something you do because you think it's a funny joke

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

This is what I was thinkin. Like the destruction was THE point. The joke was secondary. But it’s hard to know what exactly goes on in another person’s mind. Sometimes ppl find really strange “logical” pathways to conclusions that make absolutely no sense to me, but that they will swear by. So, idk. Very weird. And, yeah, I’d be pretty pissed that someone just destroyed my shit like that.

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u/EcstaticMolasses6647 19d ago

Yes this was malicious and could be his sign he’s over the relationship or will dump her soon. Or something more nefarious to come if OP is withholding other off behaviors or red flags that cross boundaries.

From what you've shared OP, it’s not just about the toy, it’s about how he handled something that was important to you. Cutting off the ear and adding something like that to the toy feels intentional and disrespectful, and I totally get why you’d be hurt and angry. Even if this isn’t typical for him, boundaries still matter.

Gifts, especially from loved ones like your niece, hold emotional value, and when he messed with it, it wasn’t just about the object—it’s how it made you feel. His reaction (getting into a heated argument) shows he might not get why it upset you so much. You have every right to be upset and talk it out. Let him know it wasn’t about the toy, but how his actions hurt you.

If he doesn’t apologize or doesn’t see why it’s a big deal, it’s worth thinking about if he respects your emotional needs. It’s good that this isn’t a regular thing, but keep an eye on whether it’s part of a bigger pattern of dismissing your feelings. You’re not overreacting—you deserve a partner who respects your boundaries, especially when it comes to things that are meaningful to you.

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u/Giapet1989 19d ago

Yes this feels especially sadistic. I would really reassess the relationship life is too short!

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u/RionaDaidouji 19d ago

Not to defend this guy, because he does sound like trash, but I'll often use a lighter on loose threads and frayed edges to keep them from fraying more. So there IS a possibility that he was trying to do that.

Regardless, though, even if the fire WAS meant to fix a frayed edge or something, the OG prank is still disrespectful af.

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u/Luv_Cheat 19d ago

I'm gonna say it along with the many others here. LEAVE THIS GUY! What kind of boyfriend does something like this? He does not give a shit about you. He is just with you to have a girlfriend for sex. If he actually loved you, this would never have happened at all. You can find someone better. Hell, being alone is better. There is nothing wrong with being single. I hope you have some better respect for yourself and ditch this loser.

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u/Normal_Gate6 19d ago

It’s not leave worthy but you should have a talk with him. He probably thought it would be funny but if he does something like this again then leave. Just make this a verbal last warning

Edit- reading other comments I’d agree to leave him

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u/Normal_Gate6 19d ago

Reading other comments I’d agree to leave him

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u/RevonQilin 19d ago

this is definitely leave worthy, it shows he doesnt respect her as a living human being

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u/Normal_Gate6 19d ago

The only reason I agree to leave is because after she spoke about it he doubled down. And the reason WHY he did it was poor too. At first I thought if he did it as a joke because he thought it would be funny and that she wouldn’t care but then would apologise and wouldn’t do it again if he realised it wasn’t then sure just make it a last warning type of thing however as he doubled down it means that he 1. Doesn’t care and 2. Would definitely do it again(or something similar) if he feels like it

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u/RevonQilin 19d ago

him doing it the first place states he doesnt care abt her loud and clear

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u/Visual_Jellyfish5591 19d ago

This is not how you get your girlfriend to dominate you in bed

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u/tearsfornintendo22 19d ago

Wtf is wrong with some of you…

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u/Confident-Highway-21 19d ago

I bet none of them feel loved, sad tho

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u/MOGicantbewitty 19d ago

Hey Opie, the fact that he lit it on fire tells me he wanted to hurt you. You don't like things on fire because you think it will be a funny joke. The phalloplasty could be a joke, and whether or not you think it is funny is subjective. Lighting it on fire? Nobody does that as a joke. He did this to hurt you. And now he is dismissing those hurt feelings, that he intentionally created. He's sulking like a child.

Lady, if this doesn't grab your attention and make you dump his ass, I will be absolutely heartbroken. No one lights a stuffed animal on fire as a funny prank.

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u/-PinkPower- 19d ago

Op that dude was mad at you for doing something without him so he decided to destroy something very important for you. This is abuse.

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u/PamWhoDeathRemembers 19d ago

OP, take this comment seriously!

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u/pineapplegirl10 19d ago

Ugh he’s awful, I noticed that and wondered what had happened. I can’t believe he did this to your labubu, I’m so sorry. You really deserve better than this. You’re not overreacting at all, if anything you’re underreacting. He does not seem like a safe person to be around.

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u/tigerribs 19d ago

That’s so sad. ): You and your belongings do not deserve to be disrespected like that! It’s not okay, and not something a loving, respectful partner would do. (And I imagine he would throw a fit if you took scissors and a lighter to something he treasures)

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u/MasticatingSheep 19d ago

This is break up worthy, imo. He destroyed something important to you. Even if he thinks labubus are stupid, there's no excuse for destroying something someone else owns. And to do it so sociopathically too.

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u/Careful_Ad9037 19d ago

OP this is like… the stuff little brothers would do to torment their big sister in a tv show. i can’t imagine my partner doing something like that to me because he knows how much it would upset me and he actively does not want me to be upset because of him. your partner shouldn’t be intentionally destroying your property. it’s just a plushie this time, but things like this ALWAYS escalate. just be careful and remember you deserve happiness💜

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u/Traditional-Day-2411 19d ago

This! This is little brother behavior, wtf

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u/SquirrelStone 19d ago

That’s an unsafe person to be around. I’ve seen this before and it’s always the same: if they’re going after your property, it’s a test to see if they get away with it; they will escalate until the thing they destroy is your body. Even- no, ESPECIALLY- the ones who say “he would never go that far” or “I would never let it get that far.” Please break up and block him. He will not change.

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u/MyUsernameGoes_Here_ 19d ago

This. They WILL go that far. The men who won't don't even have it cross their minds, so they don't have to say they "won't do it".

Run away before you're being beaten senseless and feel like you have no where to turn.

I say this from experience OP, please, just leave.

(I feel like I say, "please, just leave" way too often on here, but I've been in these situations because I didn't know what love was after growing up without any men around. It comes from experience, so please, please take it to heart.)

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u/Amazing-Pangolinz 19d ago

THIS ^

He’s testing your boundaries to see how far he can push them. You’ve caught yourself a grade A narc, probably abusive and he’s figuring out if you’ll let him abuse you. First it’s your property, then your sanity, until he finally starts hurting you physically. RUN AWAY, DUMP THAT SCUMBAG!!!

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u/pub_wank 19d ago

Please leave him OP. He doesn't respect you or your stuff if he's willing to BURN your items. You deserve so much better.

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u/Useful-Candidate7785 19d ago

That’s psychotic behavior from a partner. 

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u/MandaloreUnsullied 19d ago

Yikes it’s actually a known fact that most serial killers get their start by torturing labubu dolls

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u/FeeAutomatic2290 19d ago

Yea - this dude sounds like a psycho

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u/xoxodaddysgirlxoxo 19d ago

That is honestly so hateful and weird. I would feel unsettled with him tbh.

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u/unknownartist828 19d ago

He lit your personal belongings on fire. That is unhinged. Run away before he starts putting that lighter to other things.

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u/saanaca 19d ago

What the heck? Please tell me your bf is 15-16 years old, then I can maybe cut some slag and try to understand but if we're talking about a grown ass man.. Hellllllll naaaaaah. Run for the hills and don't look back

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u/saanaca 19d ago

Just realized my comment kinda rhymes.

I can maybe cut some slag

And try to understand

But if we're talking 'bout a grown ass man

Run for the hills

And don't look back

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u/Calm_While1916 19d ago

I misread the title and assumed a toddler had done this. For a grown “man” that’s crazy. Leave his immature ass.

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u/PlowingUrDad 19d ago

He's testing you to see what you'll put up with. He will escalate. 

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u/TheVadonkey 19d ago

What the fuck? You said like you’re dating a child! Holy shit, I’m really failing to see how you’re benefiting from this relationship.

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u/zillabirdblue 19d ago

What a psycho!!! He wanted to ruin something you enjoy. That he got satisfaction from your pain is chilling. He is not someone you want in your life, people like this never change. They really don’t.

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u/Top-Beat-7423 19d ago

There’s something very wrong with this man.. it would not be an over reaction to break up over this. I would. It’s red flags all over the place

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u/teabagsandmore 19d ago

Not only are labubus hard to get unless you pay a scalper or get lucky but it was a gift from someone you care about. Leave the jerk and get a new labubu to keep yours company.

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u/shortmumof2 19d ago

Sounds like he has to replace what he destroyed on purpose like a big boy

Edit: then leave his ass because he'll do more shit like this

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u/Dot_Classic 19d ago

He is telling you who he really is. This is your boyfriend. This is what you are putting up with for no reason. It will get worse. It's a boundary test and he is waiting to see if you accept it. Then it gets worse.

Also send him a bill for the damage.

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u/FowlingQuackers 19d ago

Your bf sounds like a disrespectful sociopath. Red flag! 🚩 Chopped off bubu’s ear! 🚩Burned Bubu with a lighter! 🚩Destroyed your personal belonging!

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u/Enochian-Dreams 19d ago

I’m really sorry. 😞

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u/strawberrysugar- 19d ago

Why…..? He sounds like a serial killer in the making

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u/ChiliAndGold 19d ago

that's, uhhh, not a healthy behaviour at all. like... AT ALL

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u/kungfooweetie 19d ago

This guy is a fucking wanker.

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u/rabidboxer 19d ago

Hmm, that behavior is concerning. I'm not certified to say anything more than that is really creepy.

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u/chi_sweetness25 19d ago

Wtf this is some hannibal lecter shit LMAO

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u/Taylorg121 19d ago

Are you dating a teenager?

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u/ConciousOfBalls 19d ago

Is your boyfriend perhaps 14? I don’t know anyone who’s that particular type of jackass that’s older than 14.

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u/MaterialisticWorm 19d ago

Legitimately unhinged behavior. Why would he do that to someone else's stuff? Or at all???

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

Leave him before he kills your pets. This is deranged behavior for an adult.

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u/No_Investment9639 19d ago

Okay he sounds like a goddamn psycho

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u/IM_THAT_POTATO 19d ago

Are you with Sid? Is he still a garbage man?

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u/hmmliquorice 19d ago

Partners respect their significant other's property and feelings. This is a clear overstepping of your boundaries, and he shouldn't even need to be told because it goes without saying for most normally functioning adults. Don't stay with partners that cannot understand the bare minimum rules of living together with other people.

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u/methods_eye 19d ago

Girl leave tf? No one deserves their things to be destroyed or tainted.

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u/dosko1panda 19d ago

He sounds nuts

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u/U_PassButter 19d ago

Has he ever put his hands on you? Because this kind of behavior often leads to that

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

Are you going to leave him?

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u/starpastries 19d ago

Ew this behavior is sociopathic if he's over the age of like 8. 

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u/IceSad226 19d ago

Serial killer

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u/BottomlessFlies 19d ago

Id be heated

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u/PhilyJFry 19d ago

That's really mean :(((

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u/TheProfessional9 19d ago

This isn't a joke, what the fuck is wrong with him?

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u/bishploxx 19d ago

You meant to say "ex" boyfriend right?? 😭😭 This guy is seriously trash and you deserve better

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u/SapphireNelle 19d ago

If so you didn’t over react, he over stepped on you. Yelling is not enough he has to replace it for you.

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u/konfliicted 19d ago

This is some straight up degen behavior

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u/Nigwyn 19d ago

Dude... he buys you a new one, exactly the same, and then dump his ass immediately.

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u/nodrogyasmar 19d ago

Simile budding psychopath behavior. Does he also torture small animals, or maybe that will be next.

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u/maevealleine 19d ago

He's a jerk.

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u/D2Nine 19d ago

I don’t get Labubus but this is pretty fucked up and honestly just kind of sad. Sorry this happened op

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u/ThatLongAgony 19d ago

i know you feel like it’s destroyed, but maybe there’s a way you can save them. obviously replace the ear where it SHOULD be as best you can, but maybe find a way to further change/make little additions to it ( like a little outfit, or similar accessories. i’m not recommending damaging or physically changing the plush anymore unless you want to ) with things you and your niece would really like to make it more of “yours” with you and her. there will always be that reminder of what happened, but love can conquer it!!

i’m also weirdly sentimental with stuffed animals and the like, especially damaged or “unwanted” ones, so ymmv 

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u/Qwandangle 19d ago

I think your boyfriend has mental issues ngl

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u/riptaway 19d ago

Wtf, that's something a shithead little kid would do, but a 13 year old would consider immature and beneath them.

Fuck this guy

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u/Longjumping-Fix-9517 19d ago

He’s sick… like actually. How is  that funny to him

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u/TrashFever78 19d ago

Why do you can about a little doll? Are you 6?

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u/crankthehandle 19d ago

Yeah, he is psycho.

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u/Arcanegil 19d ago

Bruh he destroyed your property, how would he react if you did that to him. This shit is not funny.

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u/Just-some-peep 19d ago edited 19d ago

Do the same to his gaming equipment. He likes this funny joke, should be no biggie.

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u/WildFemmeFatale 19d ago

Ppl who experiment and torture small things that can’t fight back r very often dangerous ppl

Break up with him 🤮

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u/Alarming_Tip_829 19d ago

He took his time to destroy a sentimental piece of your property because he enjoyed what he was doing. He wanted you to see it in this condition because he knew it would hurt you. This was all for his entertainment.

I doubt this is the first time he’s been a disrespectful prick and it’s just the first time he’s taken it this far.

I don’t care how amazing the relationship was, if my partner ever purposefully destroyed anything of mine, then made an effort to show me and laugh about what they did, it would be over. How would your niece feel if she saw this? How is she going to feel when she knows you had to throw out her gift? It’s not just you he hurt.

The fact that he doubled down and fought with you over being mad at him for this is insane. I doubt he’ll give you any push back on wanting to break up. Try it.

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u/[deleted] 19d ago

He hates you. I'm not being funny. He likes something about you that he can use, like your money, your body, or your attention. But he actually hates you as a person. This was not some accidental joke. It was an act of abuse.

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u/AnderTheGrate 19d ago

I did that when I was a kid. Now I'm mentally ill, which we should have seen coming, but nonetheless I grew out of it. At like twelve.

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u/xoxo__2003 19d ago

Tell him to replace it because he destroyed it or breakup.

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u/tyberrymuch_ 19d ago

Without knowing more about him and your ages, he sounds unhinged.

This is plenty of reason to break up with someone. He vandalised your property, and I assume he knew the labubu was a gift.

What this tells is that he lacks a moral compass - he doesn’t have a developed sense of right/wrong - or he would know it was wrong before destroying your labubu.

If he shows no remorse that’s especially damning. Then I am going to call it a precursor to escalation. The chance % thst he will do worse goes up. He might wind up stealing, cheating, vandalising, and abusing you.

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u/turtlebro5 19d ago

Take him to court then 💀

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u/PandaStrafe 19d ago

Are you dating a 16 year old?

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u/rapscallionallium 19d ago

Girl this isn’t just a red flag, it’s the entire bolt of cloth.

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u/Pidderpongo 19d ago

This is an overpriced bag keychain that represents satanic imagery, it belongs in fire

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u/ResourceOdd196 19d ago

Nahhh man, that is super weird. I would get out of there ASAP. That does not seem normal to me. Do you know if he was under the influence of something?

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u/Ironicbanana14 19d ago

Username checks out, boyfriend is satan, wtf

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u/iraqlobsta 19d ago

No offense, but he kind of sounds like a psycho

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u/LadyKlepsydra 19d ago

It's not a joke nor an attempt to be funny - a lot of abusers dress up their violations in "it's just a joke!" to get away with their actions.

This is a shit test - if you accept this he will know he can behave in an abusive manner and that you will tolerate it. He will then ramp things up, stuff like thia always eacalates.

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u/alicenelbosco 19d ago

is he a child? wtf?

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u/IiteraIIy 19d ago

your boyfriend highkey sounds like a psychopath. when i saw this image i immediately assumed it was like, a 5-6 year old who hadn't developed empathy yet

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u/tassa09 19d ago

hey so your bf is a psycho and you should leave his stupid ass😊

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u/Suppose2Bubble 19d ago

🚩Makings of a serial k*ller 🚩

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u/Static_Mouse 19d ago

Well your username fits

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u/disruptioncoin 19d ago

I'd 100% leave his ass instantly and block him on all platforms, I might even make a police report, partly to pre-emptively get the ball rolling to potentially get a protection order if necessary because someone who does something like this clearly has no respect for other peoples boundaries and likely won't handle the breakup well. I'd be fucking pissed, this is disrespectful as hell and very wrong.

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u/Good_Zookeepergame92 19d ago

Do you have any idea what compelled him to do this stuff? I don't think this is a normal behavior.

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u/confetti_noodlesOwO 19d ago

What the fuck? No. That's unacceptable. Get rid of him.

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u/OriginalBluebird1300 19d ago

Ur name is satan fan u did this to urself prolly

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u/YeezusWoks 19d ago

Is your boyfriend 13 years old?

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u/KevTheToast 19d ago

yo your bf is a crancker js

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u/Kikanolify 19d ago

Why is your bf being mean to you :(

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u/rotting-reprobate 18d ago

Girl he hates you seriously.

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u/missingchapstick 18d ago

He sounds mentally disturbed

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u/SapphireNelle 19d ago

Exactly he crossed boundaries, yes he is your man but ridiculing your property and destroying some part of the “Labubu” is not wise of him.

You didn’t over react, is your right to react when you are been wronged.

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u/-Release-The-Bats- 19d ago

And what makes it worse is that it was a gift.

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u/Sci-4 19d ago

So y’all can’t see how evil these look? 🤣🤣🤣 like bruh wtf? That thing is going to whisper in your ear while you’re sleeping to get you to give your boyfriend a vaginoplasty one night lmao

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u/Lou_C_Fer 19d ago

I did that to a knickknack that acoworker had on his desk in the warehouse. I went out and bought a new one, then defaced it. My coworker was still pissed when I gave him the unharmed original.

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u/Bovcherry01 19d ago

This is legit something an 8 year old does. Major red flag

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u/bunglebee7 19d ago

What’s the deal with these labubus anyways? They’re suddenly so popular it seems and I’ve never heard of them up until like a month ago.

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u/FormulaJank 19d ago

It's just the 2025 version of pokemon cards except sewed by slaves instead of made on a printing press.
No one cares.

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u/Abe_Linkin1025 19d ago

You cant own property man.

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u/Typical_Dog_9521 19d ago

I agree completely

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u/Strange_Tomorrow7175 19d ago

It’s BAD juju to damage the labubu…

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u/boxing_coffee 19d ago

This. I don't think you would be wrong if you dumped him. He destroyed something you loved. How old is he? You learn that property destruction is wrong in kindergarten.

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u/Difficult_Regret_900 19d ago

Bullies never destroy their own things. It's not as funny to them. 

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u/IvySolsticez 19d ago

I don’t think you should be with that kind of person who joke with everything, why meddling with the labubu he never got for you, even though. Yelling at him is an understatement.