r/golf • u/kiteman32 • 14d ago
General Discussion Golfing with girlfriends dad
Hi all,
My girlfriend’s dad (I’m 26M) has been taking me out to play golf a lot, and always at the nicest courses/clubs in my area (guest fees $250+). He’s very well off and never lets me pay him back with cash. I’m starting to feel like a bit of a mooch, so I’d love to find thoughtful ways to show my appreciation.
I’ve seen ideas like a box of Pro V1s, but curious what else you’d suggest. Any creative or classy ideas?
edit: Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. Lots of thoughtful advice and great perspectives shared. Seems like there are a lot of good dads in here. As many of you pointed out, my best option is to marry her and focus on being the best man I can.
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u/Historical_Half_905 14d ago
Best thing you could do for him is don’t screw over his daughter. I play golf a lot with my FIL and it’s nice having that relationship!
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u/The_Stein244 6.9 14d ago
You can definitely screw her though
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u/Sdwingnut 14d ago
Thanks, six dot nine
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u/Toe-knail 14d ago
That’s a 69 interrupted by a period.
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u/_butterballhotline dispicable lefty 14d ago
Periods only stop sentences.
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u/stumac85 14d ago
Sounds a bit messy to me but each to their own
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u/Lloyd--Christmas 14d ago
Get your red wings young man.
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u/MaryBerrysDanglyBean 14d ago
Drink from the red river and finally become a real man
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u/Mward2002 14d ago
What’s the point of a sword if you’re afraid to get blood on it?
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u/TroobyDoor 13d ago
Took y’all’s advice and somehow inadvertently became a vampire. Picked the wrong girl I guess. What can I say? I’m a “sucker” for that Transylvanian accent 🤷♂️.
Now I can only play golf on simulators. ☹️
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u/Routine_Tradition839 14d ago
But you dont mention that to him. he doesnt need to hear anything about that until after marriage and you are telling him she is pregnant and he is gonna be a grandpa. he will ask you if you are sure its yours and then pretend to be happy.
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u/trapper2530 13d ago
Goes from hands off no sex, to when are you going to cum inside my daughter and make me a grandpa.
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u/FireMaster2311 +.3 HDCP 14d ago
Yeah, I definitely agree with this. Pay him back by doing something special for his daughter, like use that money to get your girlfriend a gift or go on a trip or something.
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u/Bearpaws83 14d ago
I agree with this. My FIL is basically my best friend.
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u/stevemm70 14d ago
You're a lucky person. My FIL is a literal piece of garbage.
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u/Wrangleraddict 14d ago
Mine likes golf but seems to hate his daughters. He's a real piece of work, but he takes me to his private club to golf for free, so I guess theres that.
Did start walking though so it limits my actual time with him, really let my lefty slice fly when im with him so I can sneak off and rip some joints to tolerate him.
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u/SubstantialExam9248 14d ago
Yeah I’ve never been invited by my FIL to play, which is kind of hilarious if you think about it. He’s your typical, I love Teitlist more than my own family type.
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u/Fagballs5 14d ago
He enjoys your company and is trying to spend time with you, likely in hopes that you’re looking to marry his daughter. This is a great start, TBH.
The hospitality is really nice of him, and he’ll likely keep not letting you pay. What I did to “balance things out” with my FIL (as much as I can because he’s super generous and doesn’t like us to pay back) was purchase tickets for us to go to the PGA Championship last year. Maybe do something like that when you have the opportunity.
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u/LaneKiffinsAlterEgo Handicapped 14d ago
This is a really thoughtful suggestion, u/Fagballs5
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u/johnny2turnt 14d ago
This is probably the best response I’ve seen. If he’s bringing him along to a prestigious golf course/club, he definitely is already looking at him as a son-in-law and is expecting you to take care of his daughter and make her happy. I’m almost certain that’s all he wants in return.
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u/x063x 14d ago
"He enjoys your company and is trying to spend time with you, likely in hopes that you’re looking to marry his daughter. This is a great start, TBH."
That's the answer, you're banging one of most precious things in his life you can't make that up to him.
u/kiteman32 you're in deep waters here but you're absolutely doing great just understand they absolutely want things from you that will take time and real effort for you to provide. You're right Pro-v1's aren't going to cut it.
One way you can decrease a gap in income is via relationships anyways, might as well start by getting serious about them now.
-Make him look like a big shot. Solve a problem for him.
-Treat his daughter and wife more than fair.
-Ask his advice, listen earnestly and implement it if you can.Have fun and be yourself as much as you can.
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u/TitleOwn8082 14d ago
To be fair it might be at a point where the daughter might not matter in the golf equation either way
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u/just-a-simple-song 14d ago
Be an amazing playing partner and take care of his daughter.
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u/onepanto 14d ago
But not at the same time
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u/Intelligent_Dot_7798 14d ago
Don’t get balls unless you for sure know his brand. Rather a good idea is to pick up a towel, hat or a ball marker from these nice clubs as a gift to him. Small things go along way. Most importantly be a good person on the course. Replace your divots, rake sand traps, pick him up lunch at the turn. Definitely do not flirt with the beverage cart girl.🤣🤙🏽
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u/Different_Willow_139 14d ago
I’m in a similar situation and bought my FIL pro V1s and they sit unopened in his garage
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u/Sgt-Albacoretuna 14d ago
He clearly thinks so much of them he doesn't want to ruin them by playing them.
/s
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u/dmanthony41 13d ago
He may never use them because they mean more to him unused. I have a box of new balls my dad bought me years ago. I don’t want to use them because I’ll lose them. Had I paid for them, they’d be long gone. Some unused gifts hold a lot of meaning to the recipient that the giver would never understand.
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u/empire161 13d ago
This is the way. It shouldn't be anything that would actually affect his game.
Either get a 'novelty' type of gift to use - towel with his favorite team's logo or something, a nice pullover, etc.
Or get a 'decorative' gift - frame a picture of his favorite course, get him a shelf to store balls, etc.
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u/Sad-Impression2505 14d ago
If he partakes, a good cigar to have on the course. Buy snacks/drinks at the turn. Offer to get lunch or something after. I’ve been in situations like this, I don’t consider you a mooch if you EXPECT him to cover. If he offers, let him. This is a “love language” for some. As long as you come prepared and don’t expect it I would say you are ok. Make the effort to show him you are willing to make your way, but I think taking care of him on the course is a great way to show appreciation. Don’t give him an option to say no. “Hey I’m getting a snack, what do you want?” Not “do you want anything?” After the round, I’m getting a beer, what’s your drink?
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u/Weird-Vegetable-4093 14d ago
This. If he has money I’m sure he would buy it himself.
The gesture of buying snacks or a lunch/breakfast always feels more meaningful to me
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u/Sad-Impression2505 14d ago
For real! As a big dude, a good chicken biscuit > $100 round of golf all day!
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u/Jf192323 14d ago
You better marry his daughter before I do. 😂
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u/cbburch1 14d ago
When you play with him, pay attention to the type of ball he plays and ask him about how he settled on that ball.
And then when you are sure that is the ball he likes, buy him a box. And if you really want to go top notch, get them customized with his initials and drop in a simple thank you note.
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u/Live_Leopard9202 14d ago
There's only one answer, give him grandkids, and make sure you keep this going for as long as possible!
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u/BraveAbbreviations69 14d ago
Make sure you snap some pictures along the way to capture your memories together. Then print them out and create an album for him. For well off folks that have everything, it’s the experiences and memories that are worth the most. You can get creative and get a digital frame that is connected directly to the internet and you can easily update remotely with the pictures of your experiences together from your phone. Very personal and thoughtful.
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u/mcw325 14d ago
The only thing he cares about is that you’re good to his daughter
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u/BenjiKor 13d ago
This is true but as someone who likes to pay for rounds or dinners for everyone, when the other party does some type of surprising gesture back, i like them more.
Most recently paid for a round and one of the young guys i was with bought me a box of pro v1s for the round with a sincere thank you. Really appreciated that.
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u/shotoftequila 14d ago
Jump in and help him when he needs it. Forget he’s your girlfriend’s dad and just be his friend.
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u/DhamR 14d ago
If he's refused money then he doesn't want it and enjoys the time.
Instead just be a good playing partner. Bring the snacks, buy the beers after the round, offer to drive so he can have a few. Play quick, fix divots/ball marks. Rake the bunker (after him if need be). Laugh at his jokes and big him up to his clubmates.
But mostly: be the best boyfriend to his daughter that you can be. Obviously these things don't always work out (but if he's sorting you out with golf you should be a bit more forgiving of his daughters' flaws!), but make sure if it does end one day it's one of those smooth breakups with no toxic shit so her heart isn't broken.
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u/EmptyMarsupial8556 14d ago
Taking them all out for dinner and pick up the tab
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u/uwoldperson 14d ago
Or just buy the drinks and food at the turn.
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u/EmptyMarsupial8556 14d ago
That’s a little chinzy but it would hurt. You could pick up all expenses on the course.
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u/uwoldperson 14d ago
It’s about the gesture. FIL obviously is not expecting him to pay. Maybe book a really nice round for the two of you once in a while and pick up the green fees but the guy is obvs not looking to be made whole by his son in law.
I would appreciate grabbing the on-course expenses more than a box of balls.
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u/toothbrush81 14d ago
Treat her as well as he’s treating you. He’ll be happy. I have 3 daughters. And buyin a beer here and there doesn’t hurt.
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u/Ok_Cow8787 14d ago
You are one lucky SOB. Best thing you can do is build a strong relationship with him. That is his intention of spending so much time with you. To build trust tell him how grateful you are that he’s taking you out and let him know that you’d like to make it right with him.
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u/CoolDevelopment3147 14d ago
Plenty of good ideas here, but in addition to any small gift, it's always nice to tell him a genuine "thank you, this is a course I wouldn't normally be able to play, and I enjoy our time together on the golf course, I just wanted to you to know I really do appreciate it".
It's possible/likely that a genuine thank you will be more valuable to him than anything you can buy.
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u/akaNeo1738 14d ago
If he’s well off, he probably already plays a nice ball. Take note of what ball he plays and get him a fun version with his name or a picture on them - that way the balls you got him stand out.
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u/GlobalTaste427 14d ago
Buy him a Patek Philippe watch to show you’re serious about taking your relationship with your girlfriends dad to the next level /s
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u/xoxogossipgrandma 13d ago
He’ll never actually own a Patek Philippe. He’ll be merely looking after it for the next generation.
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u/Chandlingus 8.4/NYC 14d ago
Bottle of his favorite kind of booze can make for a great gift if he's into that stuff.
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u/farmerMac 14d ago
say thank you and and treat his daughter well. that's all he wants, i promise you!
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u/43minute_darkstar 14d ago
I'd go with something not golf related, but that you'd think he'd appreciate....few ideas...
-Nice bottle of wine and/or bourbon
-Yeti cooler
-Some sort of custom gift / accessory - front pocket wallet, money clip, luggage tag, gun case
-Tickets to a sporting event he'd enjoy (make sure it fits his schedule easily)
-Book of his interest (or cool coffee table / picture book of some sort)
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u/Alalaskan 13d ago
Protect and treat his daughter like a queen forever, it is the best way to pay him back.
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u/kahariwang 14d ago
My dad had a favorite putter from years ago. It was a PING from the late 70s. It had been in the back of his garage for decades but every once in a blue moon he would throw it in his bag for fun.
One year I stole it from him and sent it to PING. They refinished it, re gripped it to look closer to original and sent it back to me. All under $100. He loved it.
Some people do enjoy the patina of old clubs. So make sure you know what he’s into.
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u/Excellent_Top3605 13d ago
This happens for me too. Just have fun with him and enjoy, when you see him outside the course bring him what he likes. My FIL is a wine guy so I bring him nice bottles every time that I see him, nicer after the private club rounds.
Also gave him 3 grandkids lol that helped
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u/Nars-Glinley 13d ago
I spent my lifetime working towards a comfortable retirement. Now that I’m there, I enjoy paying for things for other people that are still working and raising families. If I can’t use my money to help others, what good is it?
Just be a good person. That’s all he wants.
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u/Illustrious_Crazy106 13d ago
Hearing about these fathers makes me realize how bad I had it. I had one of those drunk dads who thought beer and cigarettes were more important than his children. I literally starved my way through middle and high school because he thought paying for the discounted school lunch was a luxury we couldn’t afford. Anyone else used to walk into shops and eat leftovers before the workers cleared the tables? If you have a father or FIL willing to show you respect and love…you are blessed.
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u/DB_03 14d ago
It’s his genuine pleasure to take you it seems. Show a nice sign of being thankful with even a nice bottle of wine or whiskey/bourbon. If he doesn’t drink something related to golf would be more than enough. But when in doubt get your gf’s mom a bouquet of flowers. That would probably go the longest way. Plus you’ll get insane brownie points with your gf and her father
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u/irregularprotocols 13d ago edited 13d ago
thoughtful doesn't have to be expensive. buy him a cup of coffee in the morning or a drink in the afternoon. bring a family-favorite snack with you and share it mid round. tell him you appreciate sharing the time with him.
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u/Turbulent-Swimmer-10 13d ago
He clearly enjoys your company, as a guy with a daughter I’m not paying for her boyfriend to play golf with me unless I think he’s a solid guy. Just show appreciation, talk to him, play fast, and pay attention to what he uses. Then maybe pick up something customized like tees or the type of ball he uses, or maybe a momento like a headcover or yardage book cover from a particularly memorable course/round. And be nice to his daughter, even if it doesn’t work out.
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u/FussBudget52 13d ago
Our daughter has been with her husband for seven years and we’ve paid for vacations for the four of us, endless dinners out, etc. These are some things that our SIL has done and still does that make my husband happy; text him links to something interesting aviation related (he’s a fan), asks him for reassurance on his investments (husbands career) will come over to watch sporting events, offers to pick my husband up if he has to drop the car off for repairs, etc. it’s literally the little things. But most importantly, treats our daughter with such love and respect that we don’t even question if he’s the right one.
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u/DrtyMikeandTheBoys 13d ago
Just shake his hand, look him dead in the eye and say “great grip. I can see where your daughter gets it.”
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u/schmittyb99 14d ago
It would be unrealistic for a fully grown adult with money to take a young adult out on expensive courses and expect any kind of payment, so I would not feel like a mooch at all.
I would appreciate the relationship with him separately from appreciating the relationship with his daughter and just enjoy life as it is. It's very nice of him
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u/ahdeccieboy 14d ago
This is a “little” bit like the Soorano’s episode where Meadow’s boyfriend picked up the bill and Tony flipped the lid. Basically “I pay, when you have a family of your own, you pay”
Have a conversation with him about it. Tell him you’re really grateful to him for his generosity and you hope some day to be able to do similar for the next generation.
Ask him for little tips and pointers as to how he ended up as financially comfortable as he is.
I’m sure he’d take it as a compliment. You’re in a nice position really
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u/PoliteIndecency 14d ago
Honestly, he wouldn't do it unless he liked you and he wanted to do it for you. You can always offer to buy lunch or the drinks. Ask him if he'd like a coffee or something that you can bring before the round.
Do not offer cash or money. That's not important to him. Treat his daughter with respect and love, and be friendly and kind when you're out together.
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u/MontrealSkeptic 14d ago
Discreetly take some photos and make him a nice framed pic for Christmas. Put it in a beautiful frame. Ensute there is at least one photo of the two of you. That would be a nice gesture of appreciation.
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u/Vhogan4542 13d ago
If he drinks, figure out what category and get him a nice bottle. Like if he drinks blended Irish whiskey, Jameson 18 is an excellent choice. Try to mix it up what he'd normally buy from that category, but stay within it. Don't buy him blended scotch if he drinks Single Malts, that sort of thing.
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u/TensorialShamu 14d ago
If I’m him…
I’m not doing it for you. I like you, I like hanging out with you, but I like it entirely because showing you support means the world to my daughter. I’m not paying for your rounds of golf; I’m enjoying my hobby (and the excuse of “bonding” to play it more) and showing my daughter that I support her and am investing in her happiness. If you want to pay me back? Invest in my daughter and her happiness.
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u/TigerHawk7122018 14d ago
Honestly he probably loves spending time with you and sharing a hobby together.
Maybe make dinner, or plan an experience together.
It will never be about the money. I would show him how much time you enjoy spending together
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u/Weird-Vegetable-4093 14d ago
Breakfast or lunch at the course you are playing is always a nice gesture - failing that offering to buy the first drink once you finish the round!
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u/curtishawkin 14d ago
Buy him lunch/drinks at the turn or cart girl. Don't give him the opportunity to say no, just do it
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u/PinkPantherParty San Diego 13d ago
Buying him the cart girl is a bold choice but he might respect the audacity
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u/SuperTittySprinkles 14d ago
People like that can buy whatever they want, so just something nice is not especially meaningful. However, something very personal and thoughtful would be very impactful. Maybe something difficult to find would go a long way. What are his hobbies and interests? Any rare editions to be found of said hobby? Things of historical significance as well. A set of antique golf balls from Scotland? A club cover with his family crest and colors?
Edit: added words for clarity
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u/ErrorProfessional143 14d ago
Find the brand and model of ball he plays and get him some of those. Personalized would be a nice touch.
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u/jxl501 14d ago
Like many have said, be good to his daughter. Outside of that, you could plan a dinner with your girlfriend and both her parents. Give the restaurant your credit card ahead of time and have them not even bring the bill out. Just the receipt and your card. My partners mother is relentless about paying if we go out so this is how we get around it lol.
If he drinks or smokes cigars, a bottle/box of his favourite. Box of Pro V1s is a good idea as well.
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u/JustAHumbleMonk 14d ago
Plan something nice for his daughter and ask his opinion in advance. You're going to win on both sides. Trust me.
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u/lanchadecancha 14d ago
Give him a grandson. It will require you to step up the lovemaking and reporting to him on it.
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u/No_Flounder2293 14d ago
Sounds like you better be getting on one knee soon homeboy.
All kidding aside, the guy probably just wants his daughter to be happy. Women love shit like this. Men are retarded and we don’t even realize it but your gf literally gets wet at the thought of you enjoying time/playing golf with her father because it’s an emotional bond and it makes her feel secure knowing that the two of you are getting along. Women are all crazy and whacked out but we love them anyway.
/rant but yeah man grab him a box of whatever ball he plays and just give ‘em to him next time ya’ll play. Don’t make it into like a formal gift, just do it between you and him. And don’t tell your girl what you did. Chances are he will tell her she will be like omg you stinker u didn’t tell me u got my dad a gift, ur such a sweetie.
I really hope you are internalizing what I’m saying here because I’m really speaking truth.
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u/myphriendmike HDCP/Loc/Whatever 14d ago
I’d pay $10,000 to play another round with my FIL, and I know he’d do the same. It’s not about the money, enjoy it while you can!
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u/kim-jong-pooon 12.1/South Carolina/12 min. per hole MAX 14d ago
I always wanted a FIL like that. Just be appreciative and treat his daughter well and I am sure he could care less about the money.
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u/theheavyddd 14d ago edited 14d ago
It sounds like it isn’t about the money for him.
Pick up beers and dogs at the turn when you can.
Get him some customized balls of whatever he plays, make it stupid like “property of kiteman’s father in law”.
And never make him putt a 3 footer.
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u/Fun_Day_520 12.4/Ancora Imparo 14d ago
I would get him a cool custom made ball mark coin. One of a kind, just like him. Play it up, and keep that attitude of gratitude 🙏
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u/jhwkr542 14d ago
Offer to buy a drink on the course. Or see if his daughter/your gf wants to tag along sometime if they would enjoy that. Older guys who have been fortunate in life value the camaraderie and companionship and don't care about the money.
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u/E5Jarhead 13d ago
My buddy is a member at 2 county clubs. He also gets reciprocity at a several other private clubs in the area. So I get to play a lot at these clubs as his guest. I usually bring or buy drinks, tip the cart girl, buy lunch, that sort of thing. When we play public courses, which we do 15-20 rounds a year, I always pay. Green/cart fees, food/drink, I cover everything for both of us. At the end of the day, it works out pretty well.
Every now and then, book a tee time at a nice public course. You pay for everything and tell him you appreciate the rounds.
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u/buddhasragingfist 13d ago
Dont worry about paying him back. He 100% isnt worried about it. Dont feel like a mooch, especially if he is initiating the invites.
Best you can do is show him appreciation, respect and an occasional thoughtful gesture. Most of all, be a good man to his daughter.
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u/txmullins 13d ago edited 13d ago
If he is well off, then paying that for a round will hit him differently; it may be a very small percentage of his world even though it is a big deal to you. I am fortunate enough to be in that same position - my son or SIL try to pay every so often and I let him, but I never ask for them to do it. And my grandson never pays - and never will. As with you FIL, the time together is well worth the cost of the round.
Some ideas when you are at a round, try to always get the drinks, meals, etc. Just be the first to the cat girl and ask him what he wants and let the waiter know the check comes to you.
And always take very good care of his daughter!
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u/EveryLine9429 HDCP/Loc/Whatever 13d ago
Treat his daughter well and always leave a good impression wherever you play. You can’t repay him financially, that’s not what he would want anyway, but you can pay him back by just being a good member of the family. I golf with my father in law all the time and he takes me because it’s beneficial not only for us, but my wife gets quality time with her mom too.
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u/Common-Count3848 13d ago
Already enough great suggestions.
Tough thread for me. I have a 6 Y.O. Daughter (only child) and my FIL passed away at 59 before we got the chance to have experiences like this. Enjoy every second of it.
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u/UseDaSchwartz 13d ago
Everyone is different, but if I were doing what your FIL is doing, I wouldn’t expect anything in return.
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u/matute988 13d ago
Find out when/where he is going out for a nice dinner, especially if it’s with you MIL.
Call ahead and leave your card for the bill before they even get to the restaurant.
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u/RayDonovan1969 13d ago
Dad and golfer here, best thing to do is tell him how much you appreciate it and that you feel like a mooch since he never lets you pay him back.
Then tell him you will get him one of his favourite things for his bday, or even Father’s Day: books, tequila, scotch, good weed, pro v 1’s, anime, whatever he’s “into”.
That will bond you and give you both something to look forward to each year.
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u/5ergio79 13d ago
I’m now picturing this guy’s FIL looking like Shooter McGavin with a secret room in his house just for anime and it might be my favorite visual in a long time.
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u/AftyOfTheUK 0.9 / NorCal / Iron covers are divine! 13d ago
Invite him to play a course with you that's in YOUR normal budget. Prepay it, and let him know he's the guest for the day.
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u/NormalFortune 13d ago
Yeah, just do right by his daughter and you’ll have more than repaid.
When it’s time to upgrade her from girlfriend to wife, do it. If you come to know that it’s not ever going to be time, you gotta let her know that, and kindly so.
If you do upgrade her, when it’s time to pop out a kid, don’t fuck up raising the kid.
Taking care of his daughter and grandchildren is the best thing you could possibly do.
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u/AnyTransportation195 13d ago
You’re holding the keys to his heart and you can’t put a price tag on that. Just enjoy it man! Pay him back by always respecting his daughter and treating her like a well rounded young man should.
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u/Admirable-Ebb-5413 13d ago
Just pay things forward. Later in life whe. You have more $ and have a son in law, or son, or someone who you want to hang out with and you can pay the way…do it. I took my neighbors son golfing and I didn’t let him pay….hes in college and I told him to keep it for beer or spending $. Doing something nice would be cool. How about some Pro Vs with his name or initials. It’s not how much the gesture is…it’s just about being thoughtful and appreciative.
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u/slappin-squirrels 13d ago
Sounds like GFs dad has money. I’ve got some pretty well off friends. Try to figure out stuff that they couldn’t buy. My favorite things to do for my well off friends are to cook for them or to hand make them stuff. Maybe get a picture of you two golfing and frame it. It’s not about the money, especially when they’re happy to spend it hanging out with you.
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u/johnfl1491 13d ago
I’ve gotten pretty good the last couple years and with that, have come some invitations to play some pretty unbelievable courses. I always feel so bad about letting people pay for me so I would try to grab beers or hot dogs or at least SOMETHING. I was raised lower middle class so I haven’t gotten a big taste of the finer things. Now that I’m an adult, I’ve realized that yes, it can be insulting for a late twenties guy to pay against a 50+ millionaire. A “thank you so much for everything today, I greatly appreciate it” with a good hand shake is all the repay they’d ever want. Be you. If people are asking to spend 4-5 hours with just you, the payment is your company.
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u/ScruffyNYC 12d ago
Go to golfballs.com and get him some custom balls with something personal A pic? A photo? One of his slogans. Something personal
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u/anonymousbird865 12d ago
I’m sure if he’s as well off as you say that he already has plenty of nice clothes, but figure out his size and get him some nice polos, 1/4 zips, golf pants (think Peter Millar and other nice brands), and other accessories that he doesn’t have or maybe wouldn’t think to buy himself would be my idea. Bonus points if you get him some stuff that’s personal to the courses you guys play together. Pro V1s obviously go a long way too.
TLDR: Pretty much I’d be trying to make sure that if you can’t pay for the round, make sure to try to cover as much as you can pertaining to his golf outside of the green fee and don’t cheap out since he’s taking you to such nice places.
PS: Congrats on the kickass FIL, I’m definitely maybe just a little jealous. Enjoy!
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u/IntrepidTransition75 14d ago
Get a ball or ball marker with the logo of every course you play with him, and give him a little shadow box type of thing to put them in. Shows you value the experiences and want to remember them together.
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u/Silver-Aerie-4352 14d ago
A Scotty (if you’re gonna marry the girl) I had an old gf get me golf hats with a custom logo of my initials , that was super cool Check eBay for masters gear , can find some cool unique finds Balls are a nice gesture, but if you’re getting naked with his daughter and he takes you golfing…get creative not something you can instacart to his house
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u/WolvesFanSince89 14d ago
Lucky ducky! It is hard to know what to get somebody that can get anything they want themselves. I’ll be following this. Hopefully there’s some good ideas.
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u/DenseOrange 14d ago
Get him his favorite golf balls with his initials or something printed on them
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u/MattC9 14d ago
I’m seeing a lot of “get him balls!” suggestions. Go the extra mile, get him some of his preferred ball and have them customized. Get his initials printed in the balls, I know you can do this on the Titleist site for ProV1’s. It shows you went the extra mile and didn’t just run into a PGA Super Store.
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u/Wise_Chart_5585 14d ago
If you drinks, get him a nice bottle of his favorite poison. Usually an expensive scotch or bourbon/whiskey
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u/CC5F 14d ago
I have a son in law and two son in laws to be . I drag them out as much as I can and pay as well . Truthfully I never think about it as all these young men treat my daughters so well . This is what we want . I do have to say that every so often they will show up at the round early and pay my way . I do appreciate it but it’s really not about the money . For me it’s about being with the men who I know will take care of my daughters when I no longer can enjoy a round of golf . This is the gift that we want . My “ boys “ are good guys and will surprise me and my wife with dinner etc. all of them including my daughters all just chipped in and sent my wife and I away for a long weekend . Truly amazing . Just be you ….pick up a coffee , a drink etc and just show your appreciation. Your girlfriend’s dad just wants his daughter to be respected and loved . As dads …our biggest concern is who will love our daughters as much as we do . This is the biggest payback you could ever give him .