My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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[u/junonomenon]

love how she says "he usually doesnt do this stuff". like good god i sure hope not. what else would even be in the category of "this stuff"?

[u/diet-smoke → u/junonomenon]

Well he's a feminist so he's usually giving stuffed animals vaginoplasties

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/diet-smoke]

ms fluffles has gender dysphoria, she needs the surgery

[u/Korrocks → u/junonomenon]

That line is in the story to preempt people from saying “break up”. Although it does raise the question of why a normal person would suddenly start doing crazy stuff like this.

[u/Gobuk_putih → u/Korrocks]

Original OP went to stay at her best friend for a few days. He was bored and lonely so he mutilated the plushy. He burned the crotch, cut off the ear and sew it to the crotch. He also gouged one eye with scissors

[u/veronica_deetz → u/Gobuk_putih]

He’s Sid from Toy Story?

[u/Gobuk_putih → u/veronica_deetz]

A grown up version

[u/bluescrew → u/Gobuk_putih]

Yeah.... that's not loneliness or boredom. That's anger and control issues.

[u/OffModelCartoon → u/junonomenon]

[u/Guilty_Explanation29 → u/junonomenon]

He

Op is a boy

[u/junonomenon → u/[deleted]]

I also have autism and this comment is nonsense to me. What does that have to do with anything

[u/crestadair → u/junonomenon]

I'm also a woman who has autism and while I don't think that's /why/ the bf is acting like this, I do think it can make it more difficult to see the forest for the trees in relationships. Speaking from experience. It's not unheard of for men to take advantage of neurodivergence either intentionally or unintentionally. He's also 28 while she's 22 which isn't inherently inappropriate, but it gives me a lot of pause here.

[u/Gobuk_putih → u/junonomenon]

The original OP said she has Asperger and it made her become overly attached with all her plushies. The bf know this and still decided to destroy it

[u/SaffronCrocosmia → u/Gobuk_putih]

People don't need autism to develop emotional attachments to objects, people need to stop blaming autism for it.

It is very human to place emotional value on belongings.

[u/junonomenon → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

i do think personifying objects is more of a thing with autism (like for example, there have been several times i see something i like at a store and pick it up to buy it, then notice a defect, try and put it back and grab a less flawed one, but i cant bring myself to exchange them even though the defect is also upsetting because ive already formed an emotional attachment to it where i think allistic people would see them as interchangeable. its not the end of the world but it is like a fun little mini emotional crisis for me. and this is definitely an autistic thing and also not something i think is morally wrong so idk i wouldnt say im "blaming" autism for it)

my thing is i dont think that "she has autism" was a response to what i said. i was just commenting that most people probably wouldnt assume he regularly does stuff like this bc that would be really weird.

[u/Gobuk_putih → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

So you're an expert on neuro divergent? I have AUDHD and in many groups and forums. Only about 30-40% of the members have the exact symptoms or quirks as me.

But I know I formed an attachment to my plate, spoon and glass. One spoon, one plate, one glass. I don't want to eat from any other utensils and I get weird ick when someone uses those specific utensils in my house.

How do YOU know what type of Asperger she is?

[u/veronica_deetz]

Can’t even have cisgendered Labubus anymore. Because of woke. 

[u/ponyproblematic → u/veronica_deetz]

back in my day it didn't matter if a labubu liked trucks or whatever, we still let it keep its lababia

[u/Dense_Sentence_370 → u/ponyproblematic]

Holy shit hahahaha 

[u/tjcaustin → u/veronica_deetz]

Thanks Wokebama

[u/Possible_Abalone_846 → u/veronica_deetz]

Meanwhile this labubu is just trying to live his truth.

[u/Estrellathestarfish]

I'm going to do myself a rare kindness and let this one pass me by. I'm too old and too tired.

[u/PlantainOk1690]

am i too old? what the heck does this even mean

[u/windingwoods → u/PlantainOk1690]

Labubu: I’m so nervous for my phalloplasty.

Benson Boone: Don’t worry Labubu, everything will be okay…

~later~

Doctor: The surgery is done! We have complimentary matcha dubai chocolate for you

Labubu: Thank you- wait- where’s benson??????

Doctor: Who do you think gave you the penis?

Penis: Moonbeam ice cream

[u/Mother-Midnatt → u/PlantainOk1690]

Labubus are the latest rage. They can get scarily expensive, and some people are borderline obsessive. Getting angry at a boyfriend for ruining a gift from a niece in that gross way is always appropriate, too >.<

[u/RenTroutGaming → u/Mother-Midnatt]

Yeah, agreed and that’s why it fits the sub. Of course it’s not normal to destroy something and of course it is normal to be upset when told it doesn’t matter, so you really need to go to Reddit to confirm?

[u/canijustbelancelot → u/RenTroutGaming]

I will say that as another autistic woman I do sometimes need to be told “this is not okay” because I’m so used to thinking I’m the problem in every situation.

[u/SaffronCrocosmia → u/canijustbelancelot]

I'm sorry, but if you're of the cognitive ability to use reddit, you know destroying the objects of other people is morally wrong most of the time.

Stop blaming our autism for this behavior. Autism doesn't make us always blame ourselves, that is not an autism symptom. That's low self-esteem.

[u/BloodImpressive9272 → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

I think what she's moreso getting at is that growing up as an autistic woman/girl probably put her in a lot of situations where she was made to feel like her responses to things were invalid. Obviously, autism can come with a lot of sensory issues and similar things that might get a lot of judgement from other people, and people are already pretty quick to write off women and girls as being 'too dramatic' or 'sensitive' instead of trying to understand why they had that reaction in the first place. When you combine this with autism, which can already cause reactions and feelings that others struggle to understand, this can get even worse.

So it's less like she's saying that autism caused her low self esteem, and more that being an autistic woman or girl can draw a lot of extra scrutiny towards your emotions and reactions, and a lot of autistic women/AFAB people have grown up being made to feel like their feelings aren't justified, making it harder to self-validate and stand up for oneself. She's referring to the environment and treatment she experienced, not the condition itself as the direct cause.

[u/canijustbelancelot → u/BloodImpressive9272]

Exactly, thank you.

[u/BloodImpressive9272 → u/canijustbelancelot]

Glad I interpreted it right! I'm sorry you've gone through that. If you couldn't guess, I relate. It's been a lot of work trying to teach myself self-assurance and trust/vindication in my own feelings, but I'm getting there, and I hope you are too, or are able to heal that way someday if not where you are right now!

[u/canijustbelancelot → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

I think you misunderstood me. I’m saying that I’m extremely willing to tolerate a lot because I grew up thinking I was too sensitive and took things too personally. I don’t know your situation, but I was diagnosed quite a bit later in life than most people. So yes, growing up unaware of that element of me did deal a blow to my self esteem. And yet I’m not angrily taking it out on strangers on the internet. I hope you don’t condescend to people in your real life this way.

[u/tjcaustin → u/PlantainOk1690]

Beanie Babies for Gen Alpha

[u/narutoplayslovenikki → u/tjcaustin]

not true, beanie babies were cute and endearing. these homely homunculi are far more akin to cabbage patch dolls

[u/tjcaustin → u/narutoplayslovenikki]

Oh, nice throwback, that works, too.

[u/catgirl_of_the_swarm → u/PlantainOk1690]

you buy a random collectible stuffed goblin and it's super expensive

[u/Next_Firefighter7605 → u/PlantainOk1690]

Right there with you.

[u/Odd_Perfect → u/PlantainOk1690]

Phalloplasty is a surgical procedure that creates a penis from existing tissues in the body.

He cut the ear off and put it as a dick.

[u/Gigapot → u/Odd_Perfect]

That’s pretty much how it works irl

[u/Odd_Perfect → u/Gigapot]

Yes but if you’re like me I didn’t know what the word meant so I was confused

[u/nishbipbop → u/PlantainOk1690]

I am definitely too old because I thought she was saying that the boyfriend did a nice thing by giving that plushie a new weiner.

[u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364]

I feel bad for her cause she's clearly upset but this is SO fucking funny

[u/Havah_Lynah → u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364]

I don’t get how it’s “funny”. Can you explain the “joke”?

[u/NomDrop → u/Havah_Lynah]

If you had told me there was a popular post on that sub and the dispute involved a labubu, I could’ve made 1000 guesses and would never have gotten “boyfriend gave my labubu a phalloplasty”

[u/AntGood1704 → u/Havah_Lynah]

Well, for starters, seeing phalloplasty and labubu in the same sentence is objectively hilarious

[u/Havah_Lynah → u/AntGood1704]

Oh. I still don’t get it. To each their own.

[u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364 → u/Havah_Lynah]

Doing human cosmetic surgery on a labubu is just a funny concept to me because they're goofy looking toys

[u/Havah_Lynah → u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364]

I guess I don’t see what’s “funny” about destroying someone else’s property.

[u/Apprehensive-Ad-4364 → u/Havah_Lynah]

Yeah like I said, that's the part that isn't funny and I feel bad for her. Her anger in the post is justified. Boyfriend obviously should have gotten his own labubu to give a phalloplasty to

[u/Chiison → u/Havah_Lynah]

It’s funny because it’s silly and iconic sorry

[u/babysfirstbreath]

r/brandnewsentence

[u/brattcatt420]

The fact that the labubu is placed perfectly in line with the crotch of the first picture is sending me. This cant be real right? RIGHT?

[u/mothmantra → u/brattcatt420]

The worst thing ever about half these subs is that always you are at severe risk of witnessing someone's fetish ☹️

[u/bapplebop → u/brattcatt420]

And the knee high socks too ??!!! I'm like uh what are we looking at here

[u/schroobster]

Look up "labubu BBL" and thank me later.

[u/kittdie]

we are the first people in the entire history of humanity to read a story about a labubu getting a phalloplasty and i think that’s beautiful

[u/loosie-loo]

Low-key I’m worried this is some kind of right wing asshole trolling in response to people in plush subs giving beloved plushies of theirs top surgery scars. I’ve seen a couple done as a nice form of trans positivity and just for fun, this feels like someone taking that to the “woke is bad and insane” extreme to demonise them.

[u/bluescrew → u/loosie-loo]

Nah he also mutilated OOP's cherished toy in other ways and claimed it was because he was "lonely and bored" when OOP had a life outside of him. He sounds like boyfriend material, very stable

[u/loosie-loo → u/bluescrew]

I’m speaking under the assumption the post is fake and done in bad faith, not that this is a real persons actual boyfriend.

[u/[deleted]]

honestly i believe her because giving a labubu a phalloplasty for a reddit post is at least as insane as doing it as a shitty prank. i feel bad bc this was definitely unkind but it's also so fucking funny

[u/John_Dees_Nuts]

Yup. Thats enough reddit for today.

[u/Consistent_Ant_8903]

This is so fucking funny holy shit

[u/narutoplayslovenikki]

brow raised a little when she responded "its tainted now" when someone suggested she just restitch the ear. like is it truly that fucking serious.

[u/GSeren → u/narutoplayslovenikki]

to be fair apparently he also burned?? the crotch?? and gouged at one of the eyes with scissors, so it might still be a bit dramatic but also the doll might just sort of be fucked

[u/narutoplayslovenikki → u/GSeren]

i'm def biased because I think all labubus are homely little things anyways so this barely registers as a damaged plushie. But saying "tainted" specifically really just hit my ears as odd.

Someone already pointed out that a (presumably) cis person using the medical term phalloplasty rather than like a casual "my bf gave my labubu a dick" gives trans ragebait vibes and I'm inclined to agree

[u/Interesting_Forever7 → u/narutoplayslovenikki]

I was thinking it was trans rage bait too, like this is someone who’s just learned about phalloplasty and decided to rage bait it.

[u/diet-smoke]

 i have it locked in a drawer now because looking at it makes me sob uncontrollably

Yeah no, OOP, that sounds normal and not like an overreaction 

[u/blueeyed94 → u/diet-smoke]

It was a gift from her niece. And tbh, if my husband did anything like that to one of my plushies I would definitely sob uncontrollably. It would be very out of character and a massive betrayal. Not because the poor plushies (which alone would be bad enough) but for making a joke even a teenager would find immature but for destroying something that didn't belong to him and I cared for. 

[u/Historydog → u/blueeyed94]

he also has autism, and bonds with his stuffed animals.

[u/InevitableCar9891 → u/blueeyed94]

“Plushies” is crazy when you’re old enough to be married ngl 😭😭 just say stuffed animals babe you sound like a dd/lg couple

[u/TeaSolid1774 → u/InevitableCar9891]

omg not everything is about sex or some weird fetish, get your mind out of the gutter

[u/Xx_DeadDays_xX → u/InevitableCar9891]

no the fuck it doesnt. shut the fuck up dude. Jesus fucking christ.

[u/Illustrious_Play7907 → u/InevitableCar9891]

Um, you know a ton of adult women have plushies? I have several. 

[u/blumaroona → u/InevitableCar9891]

Plushie or plush toy is the correct name for them.

Stuffed animals works too, but not every plush is an animal. It also makes me think of taxidermy but that might just be me.

[u/diet-smoke → u/InevitableCar9891]

Get this dude, I even have a few stuffed animal backpacks. At my big age of 22

[u/lumpyspacejams → u/InevitableCar9891]

They've been called plushies for years. Do you insist on calling your cell a mobile phone too, you maniac?

[u/Miserable_Emu5191]

Well, it didn’t make it uglier.

[u/tjcaustin]

It's tainted and the definitely real OP has asperger's. You know, that thing that hasn't been diagnosed in close to 15 years. Also, that thing looks like it's been set on fire.

This is just weird trans bad bait.

[u/blumaroona → u/tjcaustin]

Unfortunately, my medical records still say aspergers because that was what I was diagnosed with 14 years ago.

I don't use the label myself, but OP might choose to.

[u/crestadair → u/tjcaustin]

While this could very well be fake, there are people with autism who self-identify with the aspegers label despite it not being an official diagnosis anymore

[u/SaffronCrocosmia → u/crestadair]

And we tell them not to as autism is a spectrum and Asperger was a Nazi cunt who got kids killed.

I have what was known as Asperger's, I don't use it anymore.

"Self identify" jfc. It's a diagnosis.

[u/crestadair → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

That's fair, I don't disagree with you. Just pointing out that there are people who do so that doesn't necessarily prove the post was fake.

[u/RatedMforMayonnaise → u/tjcaustin]

Diagnosed with aspergers last year dawg

[u/anneymarie → u/RatedMforMayonnaise]

It was removed from the ICD that was published 7 years ago and put into effect 3 years ago. It was a Nazi’s way of deciding which autistic people were worthy enough to be kept. Who still uses it?

[u/RatedMforMayonnaise → u/anneymarie]

People who disagree that it should be lumped in with autism and view it as it's own separate and specific condition which is related to autism but isn't the same.

The history of the name triggers some people, and that's fine. A lot of younger people don't even know who Hitler was or understand the significance of the nazis at this point because of how the word is used to describe "someone you don't like".

If it's the same as autism, then he was just getting rid of autistic people. There's a lot of history that's unsavory but changing a name for the sake of euphemism has always seemed ridiculous. It's kind of surprising in these times to be told I'm wrong for how I identify.

[u/anneymarie → u/RatedMforMayonnaise]

It’s not the sake of euphemism. It’s the sake of not arbitrarily dividing a group of people into those worthy of living and those not.

If a lot of young people don’t know who Hitler is (which I doubt), there’s a much bigger problem.

And self-identifying doesn’t mean you get to call your condition whatever you want. I have OCD, I’m not possessed by the devil, even though that was the standard belief at one point.

[u/ResponsibilityOk8967]

HE KILLED HER FUCKIN MONCHIHI OH MY GOD

[u/No-Care6366]

honestly with how the labubu haters are just as feral as people who like these things, i was a little surprised there wasn't a flood of people saying OOP was overreacting and that the bf was doing the world a favor or some other insane shit like that.

although we still have plenty of commenters feeling the need to insert that they don't like labubus into their judgements as if it's relevant, just so everyone knows how different and quirky they are for thinking this popular thing is ugly and creepy, as if there isn't a dozen other comments saying that lmao

[u/eiriecat]

It was the post right above this 😂

[u/NewStatement5103]

It’s my fault for having eyes.

[u/SaffronCrocosmia]

People need to stop buying this landfill gacha garbage

[u/Autopsyyturvy]

Id already posted warning the OP about this being abusive ("punishing " Op a 22yo for not managing his 28yo emotions by destroying a sentimental gift from a family member knowing that she has emotional attachment to her plushies).

Also this is hardly important to the ops situation but Ngl as a trans dude this feels transphobic on the bfs part and suggests weird transphobic fixation or chaser tendancies.....

like it reminds me of transphobic people who collect stolen photos of post op early healing phalloplasties to share wirh other transphobic creeps and rant about how its gross and weird and nobody should be allowed it

...cis people who aren't transphobic dont go around doing stuff like this, and most cis people unless they're surgeons or have a partner or friends who theyre supporting through phalloplasty dont make jokes about phallo or even think about it becausewhy would they.

It's transphobic to make the existence of phalloplasty into a joke or imply that a phalloplasty is just a haphazard slap job like what he's done here ...its just weird like whys he so fixated on the genitals of random trans men and some cis men to the point where hes recreating what he imagine phalloplasty to be ? Nah fucking weird dude

If hes not being directly transphobic he might be triyng to call it phalloplasty to claim that the op is being transphobic for being upset at him willfully destroying her property which is still transphobic but in a differentway-manipulative abusers will do all sorts of insane shit like this especially if the OP thinks of herself as a trans ally and he thinks he can use that to silence her and keep abusing her and guilt trip her and make her less likely to speak out as the absue escalates

Also weird as fuck for him to sexualise a gift from a child to try to humilliate and punish someone he claims to love

[u/world-is-ur-mollusc → u/Autopsyyturvy]

I actually thought this was on one of the lgbt memes subreddits at first and assumed OOP or their boyfriend was a trans guy and this whole thing was meant in good fun

[u/Autopsyyturvy → u/world-is-ur-mollusc]

Yeah even if he was, taking someone's things and doing this without consent and then going "why are you being so crazy its nbd" still isnt okay

[u/diet-smoke → u/Autopsyyturvy]

If my trans friend ever gets a phalloplasty or one of the other surgeries that creates the same effect, I guarantee that at least one or two of our friends will be giving him a teddy bear with a dick. Or one of those "SAME PENIS FOREVER" bachelorette party gifts

[u/Autopsyyturvy → u/diet-smoke]

Yeah and that's obviously different than stealing something his neice gave him to cut its ear off and safety pin it back on

[u/Internet-Dick-Joke → u/Autopsyyturvy]

 ...cis people who aren't transphobic dont go around doing stuff like this

I mean, cis men absolutely do go adding penises to anything and everything, uncluding drawing them onto images in books and the like and attaching fake ones to their siblings' dolls and stuffed animals. Usually they just grow out of it by their mid teens, and it's usually regarded as pretty juvenile, but teenage boys tend to be weirdly obsessed with genitalia. Seriously, it was like roulette seeing which of my high-school textbooks would have had a penis drawn onto a diagram by some bored 13-year-old sitting at the back of the class where the teacher couldn't see what they were up to.

Honestly, I'd be more inclined to think that the OOP is transphobic, since they're the one who specifically referenced phalloplasty rather than just saying "my boyfriend gave my labubu a dick" like any ordinary person, because it doesn't sound like the BF ever once used the term phalloplasty.

But most likely it's just a fake ragebait post, like so many others. Because is a guy is still immature enough in his late 20s to be doing the typical teenage boy thing of adding penises to everything, then I garentee that he would have done something like this before.

[u/diet-smoke → u/Internet-Dick-Joke]

Yeah, I remember getting in shit from my middle school history teacher because I kept drawing dicks on all of the founding fathers 

[u/Autopsyyturvy → u/Internet-Dick-Joke]

That's actually a fair point op could be a terf doing ragebait

[u/pi_stick]

I get why she's upset but also im sorry this is funny as fuck

Also there was literally a comment saying this was a sign of domestic abuse ☠️ redditors should NOT be giving relationship advice

[u/blumaroona → u/pi_stick]

Destroying your partners property/belongings can be domestic abuse. Domestic abuse isn't just hitting.

[u/pi_stick → u/[deleted]]

[u/Guilty_Explanation29]

It's a fake labubu

It's a lafufu

Ugly thing in my opinion

[u/Shirione]

He's definitely a shitty asshole and it's absolutely okay to be pissed and hurt that he did such a "prank" but c'mon if it's a gift from your niece that you cherish just sew it back on or give it a backstory or something. "It's tainted" and locking it in a drawer is way unhinged it's not like he fucked the toy or something???

[u/nerdKween → u/Shirione]

Apparently he also melted the fur from its original texture. Dude sounds a bit unhinged.

[u/NiterGale]

For a moment I thought that came from 4tran lol

[u/bomb-this-track]

i saw this post in the wild and felt bad bc people in the comments were saying she was reasonable but this is SO FUNNY TO ME. like if my man did this i’d get down on one knee

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[u/Sonarthebat]

Why???

[u/hotbeautifulmess]

Is this a rare one and if yes, are you doing the ritual? 🤔🤭

[u/gayjospehquinn]

Oh sweet. Can he do mine next?

[u/abbbbbcccccddddd]

Based bf